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Vocabulary 101: 10 terms to help you name your experience with a sociopath

Vocabulary 101: 10 terms to help you name your experience with a sociopath

AnxietyDepression_300x200One of the reasons why it’s so difficult to explain what happens when you’re involved with a sociopath is that you don’t have the words.

Because of the general lack of awareness about personality disorders in society, and the lack of education about it, there is no generally accepted terminology to describe various aspects of the experience.

But descriptive language has evolved among online communities of survivors. Here is a vocabulary to help you name what you experienced. When you can name it, you can begin to recover from it.

1 Love Bombing

When sociopaths set about reeling you in, a key seduction strategy is love bombing. They shower you with attention and affection, want to be with you all the time, make you feel like the most important person in the world.

Girl, 15, charged with killing her father to protect her mother from abuse

Girl, 15, charged with killing her father to protect her mother from abuse

Bresha Meadows

Bresha Meadows

Johnathan Meadows lay sleeping in the early hours of July 28, 2016, when his 14-year-old daughter, Bresha, allegedly shot him in the head with his own .45 caliber gun.

“Now mommy, you’re free,” Bresha said to her mother, Brandi.

Brandi had endured years of abuse from Johnathan, she said. Her husband would get drunk and menace the family with a gun.

“I wasn’t strong enough to leave,” she told Fox8, calling her daughter a “hero.”

Supporters pack courtroom where teen girl, 15, is charged with killing her father to protect her mother after ‘years of abuse,’ on DailyMail.co.uk.

 

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Coming soon: How to recognize narcissistic abuse

Coming soon: How to recognize narcissistic abuse

Just about everyone who visits Lovefraud.com has experienced narcissistic abuse, although you may not know it.

If you go for therapy, your counselor may not know it either. Why? Tiffany Ketterman, LPC, explains a big reason: The mental health community has yet to agree on an official definition of narcissistic abuse.

Still, there is a cluster of behaviors that are typical of narcissistic abuse. And there is a cluster of symptoms in people who are on the receiving end of the abuse.

Tiffany explains all of this in her upcoming Lovefraud CE webinar, Understanding and Recognizing Narcissistic Abuse, which will be offered on Monday, Feb. 13, from 7-9 pm ET. The cost is $49.

Psychologists and social workers can earn two continuing education credit hours for this program.


Being Criticised, Undermined, And Dismissed–The New Normal Once Hooked By A Sociopath
By January 19, 2017 1 Comments Read More →

Being Criticised, Undermined, And Dismissed–The New Normal Once Hooked By A Sociopath

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 37A: “It’s Like Déjà Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra)

After the first seven years of my doomed marriage, Paul and I had “bottomed out,” and I almost left. Seven years later, our marriage was back on life support. By then, Jessica was twelve and Daniel almost nine. I was miserable. Nothing I did was ever right. If I made breakfast for Paul, he said he was too busy to eat breakfast together. “Can’t you see how busy I am? Why are you trying to slow me down?” If the next morning I made breakfast for only the kids and me, he rolled his eyes and suggested I was inconsiderate for not including him—that of course he had planned to have breakfast with the family, but now he was so hurt because I had excluded him that he just wanted to get to work.

 
If you are being stalked, here’s advice from a woman who’s lived it

If you are being stalked, here’s advice from a woman who’s lived it

Vicki Kuper, a stalking survivor, teaches you what to do.

Vicki Kuper, a stalking survivor, teaches you what to do.

January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Vicki Kuper of Iowa was stalked for years by her former romantic partner, Mike Bonert, and has successfully held him accountable — so far.

Vicki went to the authorities and got a No Contact order — which wasn’t easy. Bonert proceeded to violate it 24 times. Vicki then was able to have Bonert prosecuted, which also wasn’t easy. He was convicted and sentenced to 11 years in prison, then an additional 10 years for his fifth stalking charge. He appealed his conviction, but still served four and a half years.

The Iowa Court of Appeals recently affirmed Bonert’s stalking conviction. Bonert is already out on parole, but he must wear a GPS ankle bracelet for the duration of his parole, until December 3, 2017.

17-year-old girl allegedly lures teenagers to a robbery that turns into murder

17-year-old girl allegedly lures teenagers to a robbery that turns into murder

Sheahonni Davis

Sheahonni Davis (Syracuse Police Dept.)

Sheahonni Davis, 17, of Syracuse, New York, allegedly lured two teenage brothers to a meeting last Tuesday.

Davis and two friends, Toriano Newson and Curtis Paige III, planned to rob the boys, according to authorities. The robbery went bad and the boys, Daniel Diaz-Marrero and Ismael Diaz Marrero, were shot dead.

Girl, 17, lured two teenage brothers to a daylight robbery where they were shot dead, say prosecutors, on DailyMail.co.uk.

 

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Is it parental alienation, or protecting children from sociopaths?

Is it parental alienation, or protecting children from sociopaths?

Young girl in Gap_300x200Editor’s note: The Lovefraud reader “tootrusting” posted the following as a comment on yesterday’s article, Horrifying saga of multiple predators, sexually abused children and murder. She asked an important question.

Donna, have you heard about the young 12-year-old girl in Georgia, who took her own life, and streamed it live for all to see? This tragedy occurred December 30, 2016, and I just learned of it yesterday. It seems she had to grow up very young in life, and just could not take it anymore. This story has rocked me, and my heart breaks for the life this young soul endured. It appears many people, whom she should’ve been able to count on, repeatedly let her down. Mom, Dad, Step-father, etc.

Horrifying saga of multiple predators, sexually abused children and murder

After all these years of running Lovefraud, at times I am still shocked by some people’s level of depravity.

Sara Packer, of Bucks County, Pennsylvania, worked as an adoption supervisor and, along with her husband, David Packer, fostered 30 children.

In 2004, Sara and David Packer adopted Grace Packer and her brother when Grace was three years old. David Packer was later convicted of sexually abusing Grace and a learning-disabled foster child. He went to prison.

Sara Packer took up with a new boyfriend Jacob Sullivan.

Grace Packer disappeared in July 2016. She was 14 years old.

Now authorities say Sullivan beat, raped and murdered Grace, while Sara Packer watched.

There’s more. This story is unbelievable.

REVEALED: Polyamorous woman who watched boyfriend ‘rape, strangle and dismember her adopted daughter, 14,’ fostered THIRTY CHILDREN until her ex-husband was arrested for sexual abuse, on DailyMail.co.uk.

‘Rape-murder fantasy’ has mom, man charged in teen’s killing, on Fox29.com.

Why traditional therapy doesn’t work with disordered people

Why traditional therapy doesn’t work with disordered people

Most therapy is about offering insight. The general idea is that if you can look at your behavior differently, understand why you may be doing what you’re doing and how it affects other people, you can change.

This works with people who are distressed by their own behavior or their situation. It doesn’t work with individuals who have character disorders, because they are not distressed.

Dr. George Simon teaches therapists a more effective approach to working with disordered individuals. He’ll be presenting this approach in a Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar.

Character Disturbances and Disorders

Part 1: Key differences between neurosis and character disturbance in nature and therapeutic approach
Monday, Jan. 30, 12 PM to 2 PM ET


Sociopaths Triangulate To Keep You Off-balance And Doubting Yourself
By January 12, 2017 12 Comments Read More →

Sociopaths Triangulate To Keep You Off-balance And Doubting Yourself

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 36: One Big, Happy Extended Family

Two years after starting A-M-P Consulting Solutions, we were stable enough financially to do something we had not done in years—go on a family vacation.