ok I am so confused what if some of the criteria doesn't fit? for psychopath
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July 10, 2016 at 6:30 pm #22834
There were never any other woman (when we were together) just porn and hinting how easily I could be replaced. I also was never swindled for money. everything else fits perfectly though sooooooo confused.
July 11, 2016 at 4:54 pm #22845
Stop worrying about him. Every time your mind begins a detour into him and confusion go run (do something very physical). You see deep down inside you are convincing yourself if you were somehow prettier, nicer etc…. he would love you.
If not you might end up just like me. We are still married going on 31 years. But I finally threw him out. He alienated my children, my family and the few friends I had. It finally culminated in him convincing me I was so worthless I should kill myself. I almost succeeded.
I am now alone, with significant medical issues and my children wouldn’t bother to spit on me if I were on fire. I have no friends and no family, so run now and make a new life with a future of love and happiness. You do not want to end like this and this is how it ends for most wives of these monsters when they do not leave.
Starting over in old age is much more difficult than when you are young and have options.
July 11, 2016 at 6:00 pm #22846
I am soooo sorry yes I have actually felt he was pushing me to do the same. I would tell him I was soooo confused and just wanted everything to end I wanted to die. I would be suicidle and he would hang up on me and say He needed to sleep. That was his MO for years upset me at night I lie awake crying while he sleeps like a baby after a job well done! I am sorry that all happened to you I will pray for restoration in your family. You should too (don’t talk to them about it…just God) you will be amazed what putting your faith in him can do! Your in my prayers!!
July 19, 2016 at 11:25 am #22918
@ladybugg My ex would do the same thing. He would purposely make me cry at night right before we go to bed and he would yell at me for crying and then he would sleep like a baby while I lay awake with tears in my eyes and then the next morning he would wake up all chipper like nothing happened. In the relationship he would withhold kisses and intimacy for my punishment, whenever I “made him mad” Whenever I had a problem,it was never a good time to talk about it. I have done almost everything for him and he treated me like crap. Then he dumped me and said I wouldn’t find anyone better unless it’s God. It’s like he changed over night because at first he was so loving. Then he made me feel like it was my fault because he said I had an attitude problem even though he was the one with the issue.
July 12, 2016 at 9:44 am #22851
Ladybugg – Here are the symptoms of a psychopath:
You’ll notice that the list does not include porn or taking money from people. Those are not symptoms, just behaviors that many – but not all – psychopaths engage in.
July 19, 2016 at 11:40 am #22919
yes Jlove that is exactly what he did almost nightly when I lived with him and yes he also told me I was the one who changed!
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