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Please give me advice I have a criminal case pending w/ a sociopath out on bail

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  • #24380

    abbeywood
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    I was assaulted my boyfriend now ex-boyfriend and he almost killed me. He went to jail but is out on bail until he goes to court. I now have a restraining order on him but it still worries me. Since a day or two after the judge granted me the restraining order I have been receiving cryptic text messages from a random number which sounds like it could be him but it is untraceable. I have reported it to the police as of a few days ago but as I read more about sociopaths the more scared I become. He had never laid a hand in me before. We dated about 9 months. I noticed he got progressively more controlling, verbally aggressive and then physically aggressive (throwing things etc.) before he finally did this to me. I don’t want to give anymore details to protect myself. I can’t sleep I’m scared and I’m not sure what else I should do. I am not sure what to expect. My gut tells me he is going to try and get to me before the court case to try and get me to go easy in him or try and help him in some way. The court case could be as far as a few months out. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all…

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  • #24432

    Donna Andersen
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    abbeywood – I am so sorry for your experience. What you are describing is typical of an abuser – slowly ramping up the control and then erupting into violence.

    It’s hard to give advice in these situations, because it depends on the particular circumstances. Please be very careful.

    You might want to get the book called, “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker. It has a lot of really good advice.

  • #24587

    Sunnygal
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    Good luck to you.

  • #24590

    Sunnygal
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    I read Gavin DeBecker gave one of the eulogies at Carrie Fisher’s memorial service.

  • #24596

    howdoimoveon
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    Can you get details of a women’s refuge in case you need a place in an emergency or get the police to put a panic alarm in your house. I’m not sure what country you are in but you can do that in the UK.

  • #24743

    Sunnygal
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    Hope you are doing O.K.

  • #24978

    Sunnygal
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    howdoimoveon- That is good.

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