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The thing is you have been normalizing his behavior for so long that part of you still feels deep down like he will care what you have to say. I remember that feeling well, that need to have closure, even when it was pointless and even dangerous to do it. Consider not wasting your feelings on someone who does not cherish them, even feelings of anger. Share them with a trusted friend or therapist, in a letter, or have a conversation with him in spirit. He does not deserve to know how you feel. If you really feel you need to leave him a note, make sure that the repercussions won’t be too scary.
Also, consider that the act of completely cutting him off without even so much as an explanation is the best revenge you can get against him.