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It’s likely that he’s not insecure nor paranoid. It is likely he knows that you didn’t cheat, and is accusing you of cheating to confuse you and to keep your mind occupied on defending yourself so you don’t consider the fact that he is cheating on his wife and family. He appears to be manipulative.
The best thing you can do for yourself in the long term is to stop seeing him and stop having any contact. That is also the most difficult and painful thing to do. You have bonded with him and you love the person he appears to be. It is a big loss to grieve.
Consider that if his marriage ends and he is truly single, you can always see him again. Sadly, it is unlikely. It is most likely that if his marriage was really ending through no fault of his own, he would be the kind of man who would wait until he is single to date.
You deserve a relationship with a good man who is free to offer you a future.