Reply To: I got dumped and went NC and now I want him back?????
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Portia has given you some great advice.
Here are a few more suggestions:
Romantic love is truly a form of addiction. That’s why you feel compelled to contact him. Your brain knows he’s a heel, but the brain chemistry he stirred up in you craves him. It’s not unlike what happens to an alcoholic if they try to refrain from alcohol.
You need to raise your endorphin levels in order to combat the depletion of the neuropeptides that cause you craving. In simple language, you need to do some aerobic exercise every day to ward off the sense of longing for him. And it doesn’t have to be elaborate. When you start thinking about him, turn on some music and cut loose on your living room rug!
Another thing that will help your self esteem, and get you back into society again, is to look for some volunteer work. Nothing helps raise a person’s sense of themselves better than helping others. Don’t know how to start? Log onto volunteermatch.org and you’ll be able to locate loads of organizations for people with all sorts of interests. Another great benefit of doing so is that it will put you in the company of like-minded, altruistic people.