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Lovefraud Continuing Education

Therapists: Earn 8 Lovefraud CE credits and save 25%

Therapist and patientIf you’re a psychologist or social worker, and you need to earn continuing education credits by the end of the year, Lovefraud CE offers you a bundle of great online webinars at a special price!

Save 25% on the
Helping Clients in Abusive Relationships Bundle
3 courses • 8 credits • $147

Self study webinars are available immediately, or choose the live online replays, scheduled for the following dates:

  1. The Five Step Exit: Tools you need to help clients leave a psychopath, narcissist or other toxic partner
    Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
    Available immediately for self study
  1. Love and Exploitation
    Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT
    Part 1: Recognizing the exploitative relationship and its impact on the intimate partner

    Monday, Dec. 5, 12-2 pm ET (Live Online Replay)
    Part 2: Overview of therapeutic strategies for partners in relationships with exploiters
    Monday, Dec. 12, 12-2 pm ET (Live Online Replay)
    Or available immediately for self study

Therapists: Earn 8 Lovefraud CE credits by Jan. 1, 2017, and save!

Therapist and patientIf you’re a psychologist or social worker, and you need to earn continuing education credits by the end of the year, Lovefraud CE offers you a bundle of great online webinars at a special price!

Helping Clients in Abusive Relationships
3 courses • 8 credits • $186

Self study webinars are available immediately, or choose the live online replays, scheduled for the following dates:

  1. The Five Step Exit: Tools you need to help clients leave a psychopath, narcissist or other toxic partner
    Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
    Wednesday, Nov. 30, 7-9 pm ET (Live Online Replay)
  1. Love and Exploitation
    Part 1: Recognizing the exploitative relationship and its impact on the intimate partner
    Monday, Dec. 5, 12-2 pm ET (Live Online Replay)
    Part 2: Overview of therapeutic strategies for partners in relationships with exploiters
    Monday, Dec. 12, 12-2 pm ET (Live Online Replay)
    Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT

How to survive divorcing a narcissistic or borderline partner

Here’s the first thing you need to know about divorcing a narcissistic or borderline partner: It will not be a “normal” divorce.

Yes, divorce is always painful. But if you think your divorce will be like those of your friends or relatives — messy, but in the end, fairly reasonable — well, you are at risk of being blindsided.

If your partner is narcissistic or borderline, you’re in for a “high conflict” divorce. You need to be prepared.

In her Lovefraud CE webinar, Sonia Brill, LCSW, will tell you what to expect — before, during and after the divorce. Whether you are contemplating making a break, or are already in the midst of the drama, she’ll tell you how to move forward.

  • Step 1: Assess your situation and prepare.

Video: Dr. Karin Huffer on dealing with a coercive controller in court

You’ve been traumatized, and now you must face the person who traumatized you in court. Whether the case is divorce, child custody or some other litigation, you know that your opponent’s objective isn’t just to win the case. Your opponent will attempt to use legal procedures and the courts to crush you. How can you protect yourself?

Surviving Court When You’re Traumatized

Part 1: How to protect yourself when you’re facing a coercive controller
Monday, October 17, 2016 • 8-9 pm EDT • $25

Part 2: How the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) can support you
Tuesday, October 25, 2016 • 8-9 pm EDT • $25


Invisible Intimate Partner Abuse and How to Manage Coercive Control in Court

By Dr. Karin Huffer – editor Wilene Gremain

Woman-in-depression-300x200In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, here’s a composite story drawn from my cases:

I was a successful college educated thirty-something when I finally met my soul mate on a cruise ship to Alaska. Independent thinker, educated, ecology minded, career oriented, honest, he was almost the mirror image of myself as far as these qualities, two of a kind. We had it all. I was incredibly happy. Anything … we would do anything to show the love and respect we felt for each other. “Marry Me?” “You Bet!”

After almost one year of marriage and closing in on our first Christmas together, I was at full throttle to make the best ever Christmas for us. I remember. It was nothing … nothing … I couldn’t find my car keys as I was leaving the house. While plowing through my purse, I realized my wallet was almost empty. Robbed, that’s what I thought. I’d been robbed.

Beliefs that make lesbians vulnerable to exploitative partners

women arguingBy Amber Ault, Ph.D.

Like women in heterosexual relationships, women who date other women face the risk of entanglements with toxic partners. This is sometimes surprising both to straight and LGBTQ people who may assume that relationships between two women partners are somehow “naturally” peaceful and nurturing.

Indeed, sometimes women in disappointing relationships with men contemplate dating women instead because they assume same-sex relationships would be devoid of the exploitation that can happen in cross-sex relationships.

What are the assumptions that make women who date women vulnerable to toxic relationships? Here are a few:

Erroneous Belief #1. All narcissists and psychopaths are male.

While most narcissists and psychopaths in the public eye are male, both men and women across sexual identity categories display antisocial and narcissistic traits. Over-romanticizing women by trusting that women don’t have the behaviors and attitudes that define psychopaths or narcissistic personality disorder leaves women who date women vulnerable to becoming entangled with partners who take advantage of them.

7 Social Science Insights that Will Help You Understand Why It’s Not So Easy to “Just Get the Hell Out”

Amber AultBy Amber Ault, Ph.D.

One of the many difficult questions survivors of toxic relationships ask themselves is “why is it so hard to leave someone who treats me so badly?” As rational people, we recognize that a relationship is extremely problematic and believe that the rational course of action would be just to stop the drama.

And yet.

And yet, this is usually harder than it sounds.

While there are practical and logistical barriers to people exiting, the emotional resistance to leaving is usually present even when there aren’t kids or property or business deals or divorce laws slowing us down.

What accounts for this? Why is it so common?

Help for Overcoming the Trauma of Facing the Abuser in Court

Woman in courtAfter suffering the trauma of domestic violence, many victims are terrified to face their abusers in court. The federal Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) can offer support, so in recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Lovefraud Continuing Education presents the online course, “Surviving Court When You’re Traumatized” on Oct. 17 and 25, 2016.

Domestic violence victims often suffer from anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder, explains Dr. Karin Huffer, an adjunct professor at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice and author of the course. When victims must appear in court with the abuser for divorce, child custody or other legal matters, their symptoms may make it impossible for them to respond appropriately and participate fully.

“If the courts fail to supply an unbiased forum and equitable protection, the victim may end up with Legal Abuse Syndrome — an additional injury that is a form of post-traumatic stress disorder,” Dr. Huffer says.

Leaving abusive relationships is especially hard for people in minority communities

Amber AultBy Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

Partners in abusive relationships — with psychopaths, narcissists, and other disordered individuals — often suffer in silence. This is especially true in marginalized communities.

Partners’ silence reinforces their isolation and reduces their capacity to end abuse and exploitation in these relationships.

What stops a partner from seeking help? Among the barriers to reaching out for a reality check — and support for leaving — are these common factors:

Shame. Partners worry that their association with a toxic person reflects poorly on them, and that others will judge them if they know about the abuse they are tolerating. If they’ve left and returned, the shame feels greater. Partners also often want to protect the “good reputation” of their toxic mate or the status the couple enjoys within a family or community. If friends or family opposed coupling with the toxic person, the partner faces the shame of acknowledging the decision to ignore good advice, and feels unworthy of support now.

Leaving abusive relationships is especially hard for lesbians — what therapists need to know

Due to shame, fear and hopelessness, anyone caught in an abusive relationship finds it difficult to leave. But for lesbians, who already feel stigmatized, the barriers to seeking help are even greater.

“Therapists may hold stereotypes that intimate partner violence doesn’t occur in same-sex relationships between women, or that in the absence of physical violence, same-sex relationships do not include cycles of abuse,” says Dr. Amber Ault, a clinical sociologist and psychotherapist based in Madison, Wisconsin. “Women in same-sex relationships often hold the same beliefs.”

Plus, lesbians often worry about protecting the reputation of their community — calling attention to dysfunction or violence may reinforce negative stereotypes. They fear that the legal system, dominated by majority groups, will not protect them. They’re afraid to alienate friends, family and community members, resulting in more isolation and danger than if they had remained silent.