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Sociopaths and family

My psychopathic husband – the more I learned, the worse his behavior got

Spath TalesMarried in 1999, 2 children, I filed for a divorce January 2015, trial begins soon.

He was arrest for a DWI and Felony Aggravated Assault while drinking the first few years of our marriage, which got reduced.

I believed all his strange stories for years until 2009 when I caught him cheating and a lot of money went missing from our company. This is when I began suspecting everything he said because many times things didn’t add up.

The more I learned the worse his behavior got, and now it wasn’t just emotional abuse it became psychical and sexual.

I began really researching. Initially I would just google questions about his behavior and by 2011 I knew he was a Psychopath.

Documentary producer Vivian McGrath reveals her abusive first marriage

Vivien Mcgrath

Vivian McGrath

When Vivian McGrath was an 18-year-old actress, she met a man at a party who swept her off her feet. He was handsome, intense and oozed sexual chemistry. They talked for hours. Vivian was already hooked.

She tells her story in her first-person article published in the Daily Mail. It sounds like all of the stories published on Lovefraud.

When Vivian was seven months pregnant with their child, her husband strangled her, and almost killed her. Yet when the baby was born, Vivian allowed him back into her life. Every child needs a father, right? He promised to change.

Well, we all know how that went.

After a few more years, Vivian left him for good. She recovered and remarried. Now she is telling her story.

Why I believe some women are ADDICTED to abusive men: Woman who was once trapped in a violent marriage gives a chilling insight into why she wouldn’t leave, on DailyMail.co.uk.

My kids are in the clutches of a malicious sociopath

A child waiting for daddy.Editor’s note: A Lovefraud reader wrote the following post.

I am a mother of 4 children. My younger two boys are 3 years old and 18 months. They are  currently in the clutches of their father.

I was in a four-year relationship when I decided to walk away. Loving an alcoholic is exhausting. I was tired of the emotional abuse. This man has been incarcerated longer than he has been free.

I still wanted him to have a relationship with the boys. I decided not to pursue custody through the courts but work custody between us. This was the worse mistake I have ever made.

He came to pick up the boys one weekend in February and I haven’t seen them since. I found out the place where he was staying he was evicted from. He has no physical address for where he and my boys are living. The only address I have is his work address.

Sociopaths Lack Empathy—Even For Their Own Children

Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 38B:

By now, I hope you are catching on to sociopath math and can predict Paul’s reaction to arriving late with Daniel’s birthday pizza.

“But I just got here, and I cut my day short to get the pizza,” Paul said.

“Paul,” I replied, “we have to leave or the kids will be late to practice. We’ll heat it up when we get back.”

“I never said I’d be able to get here earlier,” Paul said. (He did, but he just made things up. Or maybe he never uttered those exact words. Regardless—he lied.)

My Unwitting Relationship With A Sociopath Corroded Who “I” Was

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 37B: “It’s Like Déjà Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra)

Soon after, I required minor surgery. As I had with Jessica’s testing, I involved Paul when setting a date for the procedure to ensure he would be available to help the kids and me. I was forced to reschedule my procedure two times, because Paul’s work demands kept trumping my health needs. Two days before the surgery, he called me from Chicago.

“Something’s come up,” he said. “A huge account’s at stake, and I can’t get back. You can handle this, right? This client’s worth lots of money. I need to stay.”

Is it parental alienation, or protecting children from sociopaths?

Young girl in Gap_300x200Editor’s note: The Lovefraud reader “tootrusting” posted the following as a comment on yesterday’s article, Horrifying saga of multiple predators, sexually abused children and murder. She asked an important question.

Donna, have you heard about the young 12-year-old girl in Georgia, who took her own life, and streamed it live for all to see? This tragedy occurred December 30, 2016, and I just learned of it yesterday. It seems she had to grow up very young in life, and just could not take it anymore. This story has rocked me, and my heart breaks for the life this young soul endured. It appears many people, whom she should’ve been able to count on, repeatedly let her down. Mom, Dad, Step-father, etc.

Love scam: Woman targets 92-year-old man, marries him, drains his money

Aloysius Mack, 92, of Schaumburg, Illinois, visited the same McDonalds restaurant every morning for coffee. One day, Sophie Miller sat down across the table from him.

He thought he found love. She found a bank account.

Miller got Mack to pay $80,000 for a laundromat business, $40,000 for a van, got on his bank account and tried to get his home.

In another case from Cook County, Illinois, 79-year-old Benita Manalo married her caretaker, Phil Cantillas, who was 28 years younger. He took $65,000 from her.

The Cook County public guardian said that as baby boomers age, the love scam problem will likely get worse.

Fake “love scam” drains 92-year-old man’s savings, on CBSNews.com.

My sociopathic ex-husband led my son into the lion’s den

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a woman whom we’ll call “Eleanor.” Names have been changed.

The sociopath is my ex-husband. We were married for 10 years, two children, girl and boy. He changed THE DAY we were married.

He has alcohol problem, cheated on me, lies. When I asked him to see marriage counselor, he told me to go by myself. I went for counseling by myself for approximately 4 months and was told, “I can either counsel you to live with him or counsel you to live without him.”

This is way before I figured out he is a sociopath, I decided this was not my idea of love. So I told ex that I was going for divorce.

He was enraged. Would not give me money for lawyer. My sister gave me money. He did not have an attorney and dictated what he would pay for child support and everything he wasn’t going to do. I accepted 50% child support.

Sociopaths Can Turn On You In A Heartbeat

Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 31: Not Your Everyday Walk In The Park

Soon after the cookie incident, I was in a park near Paul’s office when I noticed two people who worked for Paul eating a bag lunch while sitting on the park swings. Neither of them recognized me. The only time I had met them was at a holiday party, and I had been dressed up with makeup, contacts, and my hair down. With blue jeans and a sweatshirt, no makeup, glasses, and my hair pulled back in a ponytail, even casual friends often told me I did not seem like the same person. No wonder it did not register with these two virtual strangers that I was Paul’s wife. No wonder they continued their conversation at normal volume, easily overheard.

How to survive divorcing a narcissistic or borderline partner

Here’s the first thing you need to know about divorcing a narcissistic or borderline partner: It will not be a “normal” divorce.

Yes, divorce is always painful. But if you think your divorce will be like those of your friends or relatives — messy, but in the end, fairly reasonable — well, you are at risk of being blindsided.

If your partner is narcissistic or borderline, you’re in for a “high conflict” divorce. You need to be prepared.

In her Lovefraud CE webinar, Sonia Brill, LCSW, will tell you what to expect — before, during and after the divorce. Whether you are contemplating making a break, or are already in the midst of the drama, she’ll tell you how to move forward.

  • Step 1: Assess your situation and prepare.