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How to comment

The overall topic of the Lovefraud Blog is sociopaths—how to spot them, and how to recover if you’ve tangled with them. You are invited to contribute your insights to the discussion. You can post comments on blog articles — at the end of each article is a link to post a comment.

You can also start a new topic in the Lovefraud Forum, or respond to topics posted by other members of the community.

You must be a registered user in order to post a comment. You will be asked to submit a valid e-mail address, but Lovefraud will never sell or rent your information to anyone. Here is what to do:

1. Register as a Lovefraud Blog user 
Click “Register” under “Meta” in the red footer at the bottom of the page. Choose a user name and submit a valid e-mail address. If you are at all concerned about your security, please choose a user name that does not identify you. Play the “Are you a human?” game — which keeps out spammers — and you’re in.

A password will be e-mailed to you within a few minutes. If you do not receive an e-mail with your password, check your spam filter, or your junk or delete mailbox; the e-mail will be from “WordPress.” BOTH THE USER NAME AND THE PASSWORD ARE CASE-SENSITIVE.

2. Log in
Click “Login,” either in the pop-up window or under “Meta” in the bottom footer. Type in your user name and the password you received by e-mail. This will take you to your profile page.

3. Optional—change your password, nickname and add website
To change your password to something that is easy to remember, scroll to the bottom of your profile page and enter your new password into the field, then enter again to confirm. You can also add other information, such as a website.

You can choose a nickname that is different from your user name. You may designate your nickname to appear on your comments, rather than your user name. This is recommended to protect your security if you can be identified by your user name.

4. Return to the main website.
Click “Lovefraud.com – sociopaths, psychopaths, …” in the upper left corner of the dark gray bar at the top of your screen. This will bring you back to return to the home page of the website.

5. Select an article
If you want to comment, click on “Post a comment” at the end of the story

6. Type your comment
Each article is the beginning of a conversation—please make sure your comments are related to the topic. When you contribute to the Lovefraud Blog, you agree that you will not post any content that is threatening, abusive or libelous. For more information, please see the Visitor Agreement.

7. Forum topics
There are five general categories of the Lovefraud Community Forum. You can start a topic of conversation in any one of them. They are:
  • Lovefraud Community Forum – General
  • Is my partner a sociopath, narcissist, psychopath or some other type of exploiter?
  • I’m a guy dealing with a female sociopath
  • I think my mother, father or parents are disordered
  • How do you deal with a sociopath in court?
8. Rules for comments
This is a forum for people to learn and heal. Lovefraud has only one rule of etiquette: Do not write anything that demeans or attacks another member of the community.
Also, do not post another person’s work on this blog. This includes articles from other websites, poems, song lyrics, etc. Posting such materials is a violation of copyright law.

9. Post
When you are satisfied with your comment, click “Submit.”Note: If your comment contains certain words, e-mail addresses or URLs, it may be held for moderation. This is an additional security measure to stop comment spam. Thank you for your patience.

Guidelines for comments

As we post, there is an important fact that we must all keep in mind. Here it is: Linguists estimate that 65 percent to 90 percent of the meaning in human communication is transmitted via nonverbal cues—tone of voice, facial expression, body language. None of these cues are available over a computer. That means when we post written comments on the Lovefraud blog, 65 percent to 90 percent of our meaning may be missing.

So what happens? Without the benefit of those nonverbal cues, people interpret a post to mean what they want it to mean.

Sociopaths take advantage of this phenomenon all the time. When sociopaths are sending flowery e-mails that are full of lies, we interpret the e-mails as truth, because we want them to be true. We believe what we want to believe.

Assume honorable intentions

Here on Lovefraud, this can go either way, depending on the reader’s frame of mind. If a reader is looking for consolation, he or she may interpret another poster’s advice as supportive. If a reader is on edge—a common occurrence with victims of sociopaths—he or she may interpret another poster’s advice as being critical.

Please assume that all of us are posting with the best, most honorable intentions, and that we are here to support each other. If at any time you feel that a blogger is not posting with honorable intentions, contact the administrator.

We are a group of opinionated people, and there are going to be times when we disagree. That’s fine. I think an animated discussion of different points of view is healthy. However, all discussions should be respectful, and no one should be personally attacked.

Posting guidelines for the Lovefraud Blog

1. The goal of the Lovefraud Blog is to provide information about sociopaths and their effects on victims, and to help victims recover from entanglements with sociopaths. Please post all comments with the intention of promoting healing, and read comments with the intention of finding the healing message.

2. It’s fine to disagree, but do not engage in personal attacks.

3. Keep in mind that Lovefraud readers are extremely diverse. Our readers are men and women from all over the world, representing different races, ethnicities, religious and spiritual beliefs (or lack thereof), education levels, economic circumstances, political views and sexual orientations. Please be respectful and tolerant of all.

4. If you find a comment objectionable, please do not respond to it. Notify the blog administrator. If you suspect that someone is a predator, alert me immediately. You can use the “Report Abusive Comment” button. Or, send e-mail to donna@lovefraud.com.

5. Please refrain from using offensive language—such as George Carlin’s seven dirty words. However, feel free to imply your feelings with those wonderful characters **#$$#!!!!

6. Each article posted by the Lovefraud Blog authors starts a conversation. Please post comments related to the conversation, unless, of course, another reader has posted a comment asking for support. Then, feel free to offer it.

7. We cannot name people believed to be sociopaths without documentation. If you want to describe your personal story, please do not include names or other identifying information. If your story is already in the media, however, you may post links to it.

8. Please do not post copyrighted material such as articles from other websites, book excerpts, song lyrics or poems. This is a violation of copyright law, even if you cite the original author. To draw attention to information outside of Lovefraud, you may summarize it in your own words and post a link.

9. Please do not copy any article from Lovefraud or the Lovefraud Blog and post it on another website. This is a violation of Lovefraud’s copyright. But feel free to post links to Lovefraud content on other websites.

Thank you to all Lovefraud readers. Your contributions and insights about the terrible problem of sociopaths in our society, and your willingness to help others, makes the effort of maintaining Lovefraud worthwhile.

Write an article for Lovefraud

If you’d like to share your experience, observations or insights concerning sociopaths — people who could be diagnosed with an exploitative personality disorder — please feel free to write an article for Lovefraud! Submit your article here.

Spiritual recovery

Sociopaths drag us into a place of blackness. They run roughshod over our lives—taking our money; ruining our relationships; costing us our homes and our jobs; undermining our minds, our confidence, our identities. We find ourselves in a place so bleak that all we can do is pray for deliverance.

Many, many Lovefraud readers have found that spiritual practices help them to overcome the devastation wrought by the sociopaths. For this reason, Lovefraud includes posts and comments about the spiritual aspects of these experiences. Articles of a spiritual nature are preceded by the following notice:

Editor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

Lovefraud honors all spiritual and religious traditions. Lovefraud also recognizes that some readers prefer scientific and/or evolutionary explanations for human existence, and do not have spiritual beliefs. If any reader is uncomfortable with the evolutionary and/or spiritual nature of a particular article or comment, please do not take offense and simply move on to another post or comment.

Although spiritual discussions are welcome, readers are asked respect the world’s diversity of beliefs—Lovefraud does have readers from around the globe—and refrain from preaching or proselytizing. Please do not post extensively about any religion’s scripture.

If any post or comment is viewed as extreme or objectionable by the administrator, it will be deleted.