Comments on: LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Boundaries, zero tolerance, closure, moving on http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:33:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69178 ErinBrock Tue, 30 Mar 2010 06:30:45 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69178 I'm glad you had a good night on LF..... Not sure if your still awake.....I'm getting ready to hit it myself..... nighty night....to the healing ones...... I’m glad you had a good night on LF…..
Not sure if your still awake…..I’m getting ready to hit it myself…..
nighty night….to the healing ones……

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]]> By: flowerpower http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69168 flowerpower Tue, 30 Mar 2010 05:16:21 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69168 one step... wont they know you wrote them??who else would? one step…

wont they know you wrote them??who else would?

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]]> By: one_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69164 one_step_at_a_time Tue, 30 Mar 2010 05:05:31 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69164 it has been very grounding to post here tonight. it has been very grounding to post here tonight.

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]]> By: flowerpower http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69144 flowerpower Tue, 30 Mar 2010 04:00:57 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69144 Well so true! And yes..I haven't heard from some of my so called close friends for quite awhile, but its good to know who is a friend. If any of you have been with a "successful" sp, you know what I mean. They dont lose the friends unless they lose the image...and mine is in serious damage control mode right now...he suffered a few dents in his armor. I think even the friends who defend him have to justify their loyalty by spreading propaganda. This sounds paranoid except to this group, but I am assuming some of the behavior on this Dads' behalf is from lies he has heard about me. That does not excuse his lack of discernment when he knows what happened. But I see so many with the "she was to blame too" mentality. Afterall, the sps are charmers so it couldnt be all their fault. My sister rang in tonight and said "good riddance" as well. And let him find out for himself. She is a smart one..should have listened to her many times. I will now. Well so true! And yes..I haven’t heard from some of my so called close friends for quite awhile, but its good to know who is a friend.

If any of you have been with a “successful” sp, you know what I mean. They dont lose the friends unless they lose the image…and mine is in serious damage control mode right now…he suffered a few dents in his armor.

I think even the friends who defend him have to justify their loyalty by spreading propaganda. This sounds paranoid except to this group, but I am assuming some of the behavior on this Dads’ behalf is from lies he has heard about me.

That does not excuse his lack of discernment when he knows what happened. But I see so many with the “she was to blame too” mentality. Afterall, the sps are charmers so it couldnt be all their fault.

My sister rang in tonight and said “good riddance” as well. And let him find out for himself. She is a smart one..should have listened to her many times. I will now.

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69120 ErinBrock Tue, 30 Mar 2010 03:36:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69120 NOPE! My therapist confronted me early on about my use of the word 'friend'..... Really brought me awareness on how I considered everyone my friend for the 'trophy' of the word...... NOW....I have a handful of friends....good friends....and many aquiantances.... It's important to know the difference. NOPE!

My therapist confronted me early on about my use of the word ‘friend’…..
Really brought me awareness on how I considered everyone my friend for the ‘trophy’ of the word……

NOW….I have a handful of friends….good friends….and many aquiantances….

It’s important to know the difference.

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]]> By: flowerpower http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69118 flowerpower Tue, 30 Mar 2010 03:33:48 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69118 Okay Ladies...got out the roundup!...or the axe... Done. I had been warned that I would find out who my "true friends" are. He has a wonderful reputation and is a very involved, loving Dad, so I always considered him a friend. I dont think he is real rotten, I just think he is wants to be everybody's friend...but don't you find that cant be when you are in my(our) shoes?? Okay Ladies…got out the roundup!…or the axe… Done.

I had been warned that I would find out who my “true friends” are. He has a wonderful reputation and is a very involved, loving Dad, so I always considered him a friend.

I dont think he is real rotten, I just think he is wants to be everybody’s friend…but don’t you find that cant be when you are in my(our) shoes??

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]]> By: OxDrover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69107 OxDrover Tue, 30 Mar 2010 03:20:06 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69107 The fact that he pretends to be a "Christian" but doesn't seem to have a problem with associating with someone who is openly "Not acting like" a Christian, then I would put his tree as having ROTTEN FRUIT and chop down the relationship. Erin B is right on. Weed your garden of that TARE. The fact that he pretends to be a “Christian” but doesn’t seem to have a problem with associating with someone who is openly “Not acting like” a Christian, then I would put his tree as having ROTTEN FRUIT and chop down the relationship.

Erin B is right on. Weed your garden of that TARE.

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69104 ErinBrock Tue, 30 Mar 2010 03:17:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69104 Actions vs words..... Are you 'hearing' or seeing? Ask yourself.....i think you know this answer. Actions vs words…..

Are you ‘hearing’ or seeing?

Ask yourself…..i think you know this answer.

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/comment-page-5/#comment-69094 ErinBrock Tue, 30 Mar 2010 03:05:26 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/12/09/letters-to-lovefraud-boundaries-zero-tolerance-closure-moving-on/#comment-69094 I say.....cuz he has something to gain......FUN.....at ex's expense.... Why buy the horse when you can ride it for free! You don't have to feed it or house it or groom it.....just get on and have fun. He's a 'hangeroner' type.....play both sides, keep the peace so it benefits him! IF he was interested in your kids, he'd be making an effort to ensure their needs were met, or say hey.....come along....were gonna have fun! Ex is playing along, to win him over..... Regardless of 'what you want'......your kids are 'telling ' you....they want nothing to do with that family..... So......I'd weed your garden of him....he is showing you no respect! I say…..cuz he has something to gain……FUN…..at ex’s expense….
Why buy the horse when you can ride it for free! You don’t have to feed it or house it or groom it…..just get on and have fun.

He’s a ‘hangeroner’ type…..play both sides, keep the peace so it benefits him!
IF he was interested in your kids, he’d be making an effort to ensure their needs were met, or say hey…..come along….were gonna have fun!

Ex is playing along, to win him over…..

Regardless of ‘what you want’……your kids are ‘telling ‘ you….they want nothing to do with that family…..
So……I’d weed your garden of him….he is showing you no respect!

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