Comments on: ASK DR. LEEDOM: Is there any new research on sociopaths and parenting? http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:33:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jen http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-126933 Jen Tue, 28 Jun 2011 17:20:46 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-126933 Opps, wasn't done. Computer freaked out. .... Point being in all of that... My kids are not lacking by not having a father. My kids are doing great, because they did get all of the love, support, and teaching they needed from me and some of my sane loved ones around me. (I only say sane because I do have some relatives with personality disorders.) Kids do good when they have a loving and supportive parent or caretaker. Kids usually don't do all that great when they have a P/S/N parent or caretaker. I have seen children that are subjected to parents like this, and it is sad. Opps, wasn’t done. Computer freaked out.
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Point being in all of that… My kids are not lacking by not having a father. My kids are doing great, because they did get all of the love, support, and teaching they needed from me and some of my sane loved ones around me. (I only say sane because I do have some relatives with personality disorders.)
Kids do good when they have a loving and supportive parent or caretaker. Kids usually don’t do all that great when they have a P/S/N parent or caretaker. I have seen children that are subjected to parents like this, and it is sad.

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]]> By: Jen http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-126930 Jen Tue, 28 Jun 2011 17:14:54 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-126930 Hi. I think I should share how great my kids have done without their SP father. I have always wondered if my kids sperm donor was an S. Now, after speaking to him after 8 years of nc, I very much believe he is. I could never understand how he could just abandon them, happily, and not give one thought to how they are. I did not know about S/P/N back until the past year or so. Their dad was a complete jerk though. My son is 8 years old then my daughter, and my son did have contact with my ex when he was younger. My son hated him, and he hated going with him anywhere. BUT his sperm donor (he is not a real father so that is all I call him when the kids are not around) would buy him neat toys when he did decide to see him. My ex only saw our son a couple of times a year anyway. He was too busy with his gf doing Meth (had no clue at the time). I had gotten back together with him (for my son. I was young and dumb lol) and that is how my daughter came about. (I was on monthly birth control shots from my doctor, but somehow ended up pregnant. Go figure.) We broke up before she was born, due to his arrogant nasty attitude. He did not seem the same person he was when we were younger (probably partly due to the Meth he had done before that I was clueless about). The last time I saw him was in the hospital when she was born. He signed the birth cert, and that was it. He disappeared, and we had no clue where he was or if he was even alive. Well, his gf got ahold of my son last month. My son went to dinner with his sperm donor. After he returned home, he asked if he ever 'had' to see him or talk to him again. Of course I told him he didn't 'have' to do anything he didn't want to. My ex is very good looking, seemingly intelligent, and acts quit friendly and nice, but something about him creeped my son out. My daughter didn't care to see him at all, as she doesn't even know him. (she is 8 now, btw) Anyway, my kids are not screwed up from not having a father. My son is very thankful that he wasn't stuck growing up with him. I was scared when I was younger about them not having a dad around. Now, I think I made the right decision. Both of them are very smart, and great in school. Both are very loving and nuturing children. They don't lie, cheat, steal, and they are always concerned with other people's feelings. They are just very loving, caring people. I am proud of them, and proud of myself for listening to my instincts about parenting, instead of everyone else telling me the opposite. I used to get a hard time from a lot of people, because I didn't let my babies cry or crap like that. I naturally did attached parenting, but that is what I felt to be right inside. Hi. I think I should share how great my kids have done without their SP father. I have always wondered if my kids sperm donor was an S. Now, after speaking to him after 8 years of nc, I very much believe he is. I could never understand how he could just abandon them, happily, and not give one thought to how they are. I did not know about S/P/N back until the past year or so.
Their dad was a complete jerk though. My son is 8 years old then my daughter, and my son did have contact with my ex when he was younger. My son hated him, and he hated going with him anywhere. BUT his sperm donor (he is not a real father so that is all I call him when the kids are not around) would buy him neat toys when he did decide to see him. My ex only saw our son a couple of times a year anyway. He was too busy with his gf doing Meth (had no clue at the time).
I had gotten back together with him (for my son. I was young and dumb lol) and that is how my daughter came about. (I was on monthly birth control shots from my doctor, but somehow ended up pregnant. Go figure.) We broke up before she was born, due to his arrogant nasty attitude. He did not seem the same person he was when we were younger (probably partly due to the Meth he had done before that I was clueless about).
The last time I saw him was in the hospital when she was born. He signed the birth cert, and that was it. He disappeared, and we had no clue where he was or if he was even alive.
Well, his gf got ahold of my son last month. My son went to dinner with his sperm donor. After he returned home, he asked if he ever ‘had’ to see him or talk to him again. Of course I told him he didn’t ‘have’ to do anything he didn’t want to. My ex is very good looking, seemingly intelligent, and acts quit friendly and nice, but something about him creeped my son out. My daughter didn’t care to see him at all, as she doesn’t even know him. (she is 8 now, btw)
Anyway, my kids are not screwed up from not having a father. My son is very thankful that he wasn’t stuck growing up with him. I was scared when I was younger about them not having a dad around. Now, I think I made the right decision. Both of them are very smart, and great in school. Both are very loving and nuturing children. They don’t lie, cheat, steal, and they are always concerned with other people’s feelings. They are just very loving, caring people.
I am proud of them, and proud of myself for listening to my instincts about parenting, instead of everyone else telling me the opposite. I used to get a hard time from a lot of people, because I didn’t let my babies cry or crap like that. I naturally did attached parenting, but that is what I felt to be right inside.

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]]> By: candy http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-107977 candy Thu, 24 Feb 2011 19:18:07 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-107977 Now now Ox - think of your blood pressure. All that rolling on the floor will send your BP sky high! Now now Ox – think of your blood pressure. All that rolling on the floor will send your BP sky high!

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]]> By: Ox Drover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-107971 Ox Drover Thu, 24 Feb 2011 18:13:11 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-107971 Dear Candy, Yea, the pill that "melts fat off while you sleep" is the one I am waiting for! Or the miracle cream that "dermatologists don't want you to know about" that makes your skin as smooth as a baby's butt! LOL ROTFLMAO Back when the Phen Fen diet pills were the craze and some doctors were passing them out like candy, I used to tell patients "do you think everyone in this clinic would be FAT if those worked?" (we had some REALLY over weight people in our clinic staff) Actually they did help a bit in losing it but most people gained it right back because they didn't have a life style change to go with the pills, BUT there were also some bad side effects. It is unfortunate that there are so many "side effects" to anything you take in the way of medication because humans are NOT simple machines. So we have to take a lot of things into the equation of to take or not to take, or to do this or that....I'mm trying to "get real" with my diet, exercise and addictions (nicotine is my drug of choice) and I do take some medications (primarily aspirin, tylenol, 1-a-day-vitamins and an antidepressant) moderation, but I know there are associated RISKS as well. I recently had to change the antidepressant as it was the generic of that brand and the second dose was keeping me from going to sleep at night---and I'd had BAD problems with falling asleep at night, not realizing that it was a SIDE EFFECT of the medication. (Even my psych-doctor didn't put the 2 and 2 together on that one and just rx'd a sleeping pill) So you know there are some big problems with medications and other "treatments" and there are NO miracle drugs! LOL Dear Candy,

Yea, the pill that “melts fat off while you sleep” is the one I am waiting for! Or the miracle cream that “dermatologists don’t want you to know about” that makes your skin as smooth as a baby’s butt! LOL ROTFLMAO

Back when the Phen Fen diet pills were the craze and some doctors were passing them out like candy, I used to tell patients “do you think everyone in this clinic would be FAT if those worked?” (we had some REALLY over weight people in our clinic staff) Actually they did help a bit in losing it but most people gained it right back because they didn’t have a life style change to go with the pills, BUT there were also some bad side effects.

It is unfortunate that there are so many “side effects” to anything you take in the way of medication because humans are NOT simple machines. So we have to take a lot of things into the equation of to take or not to take, or to do this or that….I’mm trying to “get real” with my diet, exercise and addictions (nicotine is my drug of choice) and I do take some medications (primarily aspirin, tylenol, 1-a-day-vitamins and an antidepressant) moderation, but I know there are associated RISKS as well. I recently had to change the antidepressant as it was the generic of that brand and the second dose was keeping me from going to sleep at night—and I’d had BAD problems with falling asleep at night, not realizing that it was a SIDE EFFECT of the medication. (Even my psych-doctor didn’t put the 2 and 2 together on that one and just rx’d a sleeping pill)

So you know there are some big problems with medications and other “treatments” and there are NO miracle drugs! LOL

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]]> By: candy http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-107969 candy Thu, 24 Feb 2011 17:45:17 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-107969 Ox - I agree. Depending on what questions are asked as this will influence the outcome. eg Question: Do we prefer apples or oranges? (loaded question) cos actually we prefers pears! But as that is not in the 'answer' the outcome is skewed. And yes, I have seen many research results for arthritis, the 'miracle cure' but I'm still waiting for the pill to materialise! Ox – I agree. Depending on what questions are asked as this will influence the outcome.
eg Question: Do we prefer apples or oranges? (loaded question) cos actually we prefers pears! But as that is not in the ‘answer’ the outcome is skewed.
And yes, I have seen many research results for arthritis, the ‘miracle cure’ but I’m still waiting for the pill to materialise!

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]]> By: Ox Drover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-107968 Ox Drover Thu, 24 Feb 2011 17:37:59 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-107968 Interesting research! Will look this up. Sometimes Articles ABOUT research sensationalize the outcomes and are not entirely accurate about what the research actually showed. Interesting research! Will look this up. Sometimes Articles ABOUT research sensationalize the outcomes and are not entirely accurate about what the research actually showed.

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]]> By: candy http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-107941 candy Thu, 24 Feb 2011 12:48:52 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-107941 Babies are 'born to be criminals' Not sure if this appropriate but I often see partners of spaths asking about their children. Here is a bit of research just out........... By Danny Buckland 22/02/2011 FUTURE criminals and psychopaths could be identified from just six months old, brain experts said. Babies with an abnormality in their limbic system - the brain's emotional core - committed more crimes as adults than those without it, Dr Adrian Raine found. The psychologist told the American Association for the Advancement of Science in Washington DC: "Seeds of sin are sown quite early in life. "The time is going to come when we are going to be able to say reasonably well which individuals at a modest age, say eight to 10 years old, are predicated to become criminal offenders." He added: "Are we going to intervene at an early age, even though the prediction will never be perfect?" Dr Raine is now conducting trials to see if Omega 3, a fatty acid that helps build brain cells, improves behaviour in aggressive children. He said: "It's very simple - bad brain, bad behaviour." It will be an interesting piece of research. I know that a lot of people see Omega 3 as the 'brain food' Babies are ‘born to be criminals’

Not sure if this appropriate but I often see partners of spaths asking about their children. Here is a bit of research just out………..

By Danny Buckland 22/02/2011

FUTURE criminals and psychopaths could be identified from just six months old, brain experts said.

Babies with an abnormality in their limbic system – the brain’s emotional core – committed more crimes as adults than those without it, Dr Adrian Raine found.

The psychologist told the American Association for the Advancement of Science in Washington DC:
“Seeds of sin are sown quite early in life.
“The time is going to come when we are going to be able to say reasonably well which individuals at a modest age, say eight to 10 years old, are predicated to become criminal offenders.”

He added: “Are we going to intervene at an early age, even though the prediction will never be perfect?”

Dr Raine is now conducting trials to see if Omega 3, a fatty acid that helps build brain cells, improves behaviour in aggressive children.

He said: “It’s very simple – bad brain, bad behaviour.”

It will be an interesting piece of research. I know that a lot of people see Omega 3 as the ‘brain food’

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]]> By: OxDrover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-67946 OxDrover Tue, 23 Mar 2010 01:37:52 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-67946 Dear Flower, Well, it at least helps your kids are somewhat older, it must have really made your X MAD that you documented all this bad deeds in court! OUCH! They do not like that! Dear Flower,

Well, it at least helps your kids are somewhat older, it must have really made your X MAD that you documented all this bad deeds in court! OUCH! They do not like that!

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]]> By: flowerpower http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-67936 flowerpower Tue, 23 Mar 2010 00:29:01 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-67936 Yes we are in full blown child gaslighting here. Twisting reality and rewriting history. Thank God they are teens and dont buy much of it. And my divorce complaint spelled out in great detail what Mr. Gaslight did; and he had to admit to it all...documentation that enraged him. And he is so arrogant that he is rewriting that! Yes we are in full blown child gaslighting here. Twisting reality and rewriting history. Thank God they are teens and dont buy much of it.

And my divorce complaint spelled out in great detail what Mr. Gaslight did; and he had to admit to it all…documentation that enraged him. And he is so arrogant that he is rewriting that!

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]]> By: OxDrover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/comment-page-2/#comment-67922 OxDrover Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:36:33 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/11/15/ask-dr-leedom-is-there-any-new-research-on-sociopaths-and-parenting/#comment-67922 I wonder what happened to the woman I posted to, apparently she never came back here. Flower, another mother I know, her X has won custody of their child, and has actually started usinhg the gaslighting to convince the child that he hadn't lived with his mother since about age 2, though he is 8 or 9 now, and "daddy dearest" has only had him completely for a year or so. TWISTING REALITY is not that hard in children and they actually can distort what they "remember" to what was implanted in them. Heck, it works with adults, why njot with kids? It is called GASLIGHTING. I wonder what happened to the woman I posted to, apparently she never came back here.

Flower, another mother I know, her X has won custody of their child, and has actually started usinhg the gaslighting to convince the child that he hadn’t lived with his mother since about age 2, though he is 8 or 9 now, and “daddy dearest” has only had him completely for a year or so.

TWISTING REALITY is not that hard in children and they actually can distort what they “remember” to what was implanted in them. Heck, it works with adults, why njot with kids? It is called GASLIGHTING.

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