Comments on: Finding meaning in the betrayal by the sociopath http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:17:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: silvermoon http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67058 silvermoon Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:13:01 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67058 K +1, Love the exceprt and will reread it. I love TS. Yes, faith, hope and love. And the greatest of these is love... It IS a great day! K +1,

Love the exceprt and will reread it. I love TS.

Yes, faith, hope and love.

And the greatest of these is love…

It IS a great day!

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]]> By: one_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67038 one_step_at_a_time Thu, 18 Mar 2010 15:26:23 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67038 Kim - T.S. was a master at conveying grief...this exerpt is simply stunning. hugs. one step Kim – T.S. was a master at conveying grief…this exerpt is simply stunning.

hugs.

one step

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]]> By: kim frederick http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67030 kim frederick Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:27:44 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67030 Thanks for that Silver. I think that healing comes from having faith that the "mermaids WILL sing to us." I have always loved that poem, and I think that is the saddest line. How 'bout this from ol' T.S.: April is the cruellest month, breeding Lilacs out of the dead land, mixing Memory and desire, stirring Dull roots with spring rain..... That speaks to me of cycles, and regeneration..Rebirth, hope. But also of sadness and loss, of coming out of the numbness and fog.... That is from, "The Waste Land" if anyone would like to access it............Let's all have a wondrous, healing day. Thanks for that Silver. I think that healing comes from having faith that the “mermaids WILL sing to us.”
I have always loved that poem, and I think that is the saddest line.
How ’bout this from ol’ T.S.:
April is the cruellest month, breeding
Lilacs out of the dead land, mixing
Memory and desire, stirring
Dull roots with spring rain…..

That speaks to me of cycles, and regeneration..Rebirth, hope.
But also of sadness and loss, of coming out of the numbness and fog….

That is from, “The Waste Land” if anyone would like to access it…………Let’s all have a wondrous, healing day.

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]]> By: silvermoon http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67028 silvermoon Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:15:30 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67028 Sometimes, what is left is to just move on. I discovered the fantasy. I grieved for it. I looked at my part and saw where he connected with my ideas about my own defficiency and proposed to love bomb thouse wounded places in exchange for a free ride to conduct his own business: womanizing other people. Now there is the therapy and self examination and reprograming. Soon, there will be the ending of the legal realtionship. And then, its done. Kind of like being on the beach after a storm. the weather is clear and bright and the sea is calm again but everybody is talking about the storm last night.... Well, it is the best time to pick up shells. And so this day is about picking up the shells. And listening to the ocean in them. Because the waves come and go relentlessly. That is what the ocean does. It is a rythmn of the natural world. A simple, powerful,known thing that the waves keep coming. The storm for now has subsided and in coming out to inspect the damage and make repairs I see that the landscape has changed. Beaches never stay the same. Yes, he filled my needs handsomely. He knew just where and how. And it made me feel happy as long as I believed that he was true. The storm came on the discovery of what in fact is true and now has subsided as I accept the facts, make and execute the decisions to act, heal and move on. Here we are on the beach and we say to one another "wow, what a storm! It took the roof off MY house and blew away the fences and sucked 6 feet off the beach-Wow". It is an incredible experience. And everyday, it is diminished by that much. I am reminded of TS Elliot's poem about spiritually exhausted people- Prufrock....... I grow old … I grow old … 120 I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled. Shall I part my hair behind? Do I dare to eat a peach? I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach. I have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. I do not think that they will sing to me. 125 I have seen them riding seaward on the waves Combing the white hair of the waves blown back When the wind blows the water white and black. We have lingered in the chambers of the sea By sea-girls wreathed with seaweed red and brown 130 Till human voices wake us, and we drown. Today begins quietly Sea calm Winds fair Visibility unlimited The lesson is about how to get from there to here- Remember Toy Story when Woody says to Buzz Lightyear: "That's not flying, that's falling:with Style" Well, it may not be a day to fly, but it just might be a good day. See you on the beach? Sometimes, what is left is to just move on.
I discovered the fantasy.
I grieved for it.

I looked at my part and saw where he connected with my ideas about my own defficiency and proposed to love bomb thouse wounded places in exchange for a free ride to conduct his own business: womanizing other people.

Now there is the therapy and self examination and reprograming.

Soon, there will be the ending of the legal realtionship.

And then, its done.

Kind of like being on the beach after a storm. the weather is clear and bright and the sea is calm again but everybody is talking about the storm last night….

Well, it is the best time to pick up shells.

And so this day is about picking up the shells. And listening to the ocean in them. Because the waves come and go relentlessly. That is what the ocean does.

It is a rythmn of the natural world. A simple, powerful,known thing that the waves keep coming.

The storm for now has subsided and in coming out to inspect the damage and make repairs I see that the landscape has changed. Beaches never stay the same.

Yes, he filled my needs handsomely. He knew just where and how. And it made me feel happy as long as I believed that he was true.

The storm came on the discovery of what in fact is true and now has subsided as I accept the facts, make and execute the decisions to act, heal and move on.

Here we are on the beach and we say to one another “wow, what a storm! It took the roof off MY house and blew away the fences and sucked 6 feet off the beach-Wow”.

It is an incredible experience. And everyday, it is diminished by that much.

I am reminded of TS Elliot’s poem about spiritually exhausted people- Prufrock…….

I grow old … I grow old … 120
I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.

Shall I part my hair behind? Do I dare to eat a peach?
I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach.
I have heard the mermaids singing, each to each.

I do not think that they will sing to me. 125

I have seen them riding seaward on the waves
Combing the white hair of the waves blown back
When the wind blows the water white and black.

We have lingered in the chambers of the sea
By sea-girls wreathed with seaweed red and brown 130
Till human voices wake us, and we drown.

Today begins quietly
Sea calm
Winds fair
Visibility unlimited

The lesson is about how to get from there to here-

Remember Toy Story when Woody says to Buzz Lightyear:
“That’s not flying, that’s falling:with Style”

Well, it may not be a day to fly, but it just might be a good day.

See you on the beach?

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67027 conomo Thu, 18 Mar 2010 11:00:13 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67027 Not quite sure why I'm trying to vindicate myself yet again...but I am thankful for the education I received. I wish you all honesty, acceptance and healing.. I am not sure why "swear" words should preclude a conversation, especially under the circumstances. Now I am thinking /// I know you have no duties Not quite sure why I’m trying to vindicate myself yet again…but I am thankful for the education I received. I wish you all honesty, acceptance and healing..

I am not sure why “swear” words should preclude a conversation, especially under the circumstances.

Now I am thinking /// I know you have no duties

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67026 conomo Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:19:24 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67026 Coller/Roller Coaster??? Sorry really think I should say thank you Coller/Roller Coaster??? Sorry really think I should say thank you

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67025 conomo Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:10:17 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67025 The reason is that it came as natural. Tenacity is a good thing...I think your tenacity is what helps you persecute your spath. Without a doubt .......but it's up to me to put it down The reason is that it came as natural.

Tenacity is a good thing…I think your tenacity is what helps you persecute your spath.

Without a doubt …….but it’s up to me to put it down

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67024 ErinBrock Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:58:32 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67024 Conomo.... WHY would you step right out and use the word you just offered an appology for immediately after offering an appology??? And I have NO idea what your referring to in the 4:50am post referring to tenacity. Seriously, I think it's time for bed.....put the wine glass down and nighty night! Conomo….
WHY would you step right out and use the word you just offered an appology for immediately after offering an appology???

And I have NO idea what your referring to in the 4:50am post referring to tenacity.

Seriously, I think it’s time for bed…..put the wine glass down and nighty night!

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]]> By: geminigirl http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67023 geminigirl Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:56:05 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67023 EB I think were all BAD TO THE BONE!!! Love, MamaGem.XXoooooXXXXXXXX EB I think were all BAD TO THE BONE!!!
Love, MamaGem.XXoooooXXXXXXXX

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]]> By: geminigirl http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/comment-page-9/#comment-67022 geminigirl Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:52:33 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/26/finding-meaning-in-the-betrayal-by-the-sociopath/#comment-67022 Conomo, what the hell is a coller coaster? Red wine is the catalyst, is that the word? Maybe punching your pillow would help? Are you pissed? Anyway, hope you sleep well,dont beat yourself up, darling! Love, MamaGem.XXXXXXxXXXXXxx Conomo, what the hell is a coller coaster?
Red wine is the catalyst, is that the word?
Maybe punching your pillow would help?
Are you pissed?
Anyway, hope you sleep well,dont beat yourself up, darling!
Love, MamaGem.XXXXXXxXXXXXxx

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