Comments on: Exposing the sociopath http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Tue, 07 Feb 2012 06:52:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: wontgetfooledagain http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116320 wontgetfooledagain Wed, 27 Apr 2011 16:24:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116320 And thanks again!! And thanks again!!

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]]> By: wontgetfooledagain http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116319 wontgetfooledagain Wed, 27 Apr 2011 16:24:13 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116319 I don't have access to any paperwork, since, as I mentioned, I left home with only a suitcase. It will just have to be my word and then any investigating that the I.R.S. chooses to do. I don’t have access to any paperwork, since, as I mentioned, I left home with only a suitcase. It will just have to be my word and then any investigating that the I.R.S. chooses to do.

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]]> By: Ox Drover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116261 Ox Drover Wed, 27 Apr 2011 03:41:36 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116261 Right now with the gov't needing money they are going after cheats more and more....so gather up as much information and documentation, list of client names and jobs as much as you can, and anything you can show to show how much money he possibly made or where it went, mortgage receipts, anything at all to do with finances while you were married. Good luck, it will take work, but it is the kind of thing that you CAN WIN on! Good luck and God bless (((hugs))) Right now with the gov’t needing money they are going after cheats more and more….so gather up as much information and documentation, list of client names and jobs as much as you can, and anything you can show to show how much money he possibly made or where it went, mortgage receipts, anything at all to do with finances while you were married. Good luck, it will take work, but it is the kind of thing that you CAN WIN on! Good luck and God bless (((hugs)))

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]]> By: wontgetfooledagain http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116236 wontgetfooledagain Wed, 27 Apr 2011 00:41:09 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116236 Thanks so much for the advice. You've given me good stuff to think about. I want my half of the assets, and I do not plan to have that half wiped out by his tax debt. It was a 25 year marriage, after all. Now he acts like I never existed. None of it meant anything. He always just walks away from his destruction. Thanks so much for the advice. You’ve given me good stuff to think about.

I want my half of the assets, and I do not plan to have that half wiped out by his tax debt. It was a 25 year marriage, after all. Now he acts like I never existed. None of it meant anything. He always just walks away from his destruction.

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]]> By: bluejay http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116235 bluejay Wed, 27 Apr 2011 00:19:58 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116235 wontgetfooledagain, Could you consult with an accountant, getting some guidance, information about how to proceed? Your ex-spath sounds like my ex-spath when it comes to running a business - sloppy, chaotic business practices - these people should not be self-employed. You could go to the IRS website and research the innocent spouse clause. Good luck. Your ex-spath sounds like he deserves some payback in his life, victims getting together, giving him a piece of his own medicine. Pour the trouble on him. wontgetfooledagain,

Could you consult with an accountant, getting some guidance, information about how to proceed? Your ex-spath sounds like my ex-spath when it comes to running a business – sloppy, chaotic business practices – these people should not be self-employed. You could go to the IRS website and research the innocent spouse clause. Good luck. Your ex-spath sounds like he deserves some payback in his life, victims getting together, giving him a piece of his own medicine. Pour the trouble on him.

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]]> By: Ox Drover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116232 Ox Drover Tue, 26 Apr 2011 23:51:24 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116232 Dear Won'tgetfooledagain, The IRS may very well be helpful to you. There is a thing called "innocent spouse" in cases like his, and you can hopefully get them to see that you were duped and they will excuse you and go after him. I say GO FOR IT ASAP! At this point, if you don't, he very well may stick you with part or all of HIS TAX BILL....gather up as much information as you can, as much documentation as you can. Write down the names of any customers, get copies of any bank records, business and personal, and go see them. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE...it could only be a win-win iand I know of several women who were able to get completely off of the tax problems their mates created with illegal business. Dear Won’tgetfooledagain,

The IRS may very well be helpful to you. There is a thing called “innocent spouse” in cases like his, and you can hopefully get them to see that you were duped and they will excuse you and go after him. I say GO FOR IT ASAP! At this point, if you don’t, he very well may stick you with part or all of HIS TAX BILL….gather up as much information as you can, as much documentation as you can. Write down the names of any customers, get copies of any bank records, business and personal, and go see them. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE…it could only be a win-win iand I know of several women who were able to get completely off of the tax problems their mates created with illegal business.

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]]> By: wontgetfooledagain http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-116224 wontgetfooledagain Tue, 26 Apr 2011 23:14:55 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-116224 My husband did not pay taxes the last few years we were together. We co-owned a business. He was to do repair work and I was to do the bookkeeping, but I never could get him to give me receipts or info on customers so I could pay taxes to the customer's parish taxing authority. The other day, when I was talking to him about dividing our assets, he made it clear he is counting on sticking me with half of his tax debt. He told the IRS that the kid who stold our laptop reformatted the hard-drive and that that is how he lost all of his tax records. There WAS a theft, but he did not have any real tax records on it. The paltry records that existed were on the house computer. He is now on some kind of repayment plan. I am convinced he is going to stick me with part of the bill, to offset my part of the assets, since I left home with nothing but a suitcase and he now owns everything. I am thinking of going to the I.R.S. and reporting how he gets paid cash as often as possible so he can avoid taxation and how he never kept records to begin with and how, although it is a repair business, he does have inventory in a storage unit, which means taxes should be paid on the inventory as well. I am thinking of writing and offering a deal to be deposed about him in exchange for not being held in any way responsible for the taxes. It's about the money but also about justice. He raped my little sister a number of times, counting on her love for me keeping her from ever telling me. He gave my niece (the same little sister's daughter) a drink and tried feeling up her leg. He also asked another teenage girl, the friend of a nephew, "Do you want to give me a kiss, baby?" She was extremely distressed. WE never got justice for those things, but I am thinking the tax thing would at least be justice, a la Al Capone. Any thoughts? Please! I can't afford an attorney right now and am thinking of writing to the I.R.S. without legal counsel. I know it is risky. I am very nervous. My husband did not pay taxes the last few years we were together. We co-owned a business. He was to do repair work and I was to do the bookkeeping, but I never could get him to give me receipts or info on customers so I could pay taxes to the customer’s parish taxing authority.

The other day, when I was talking to him about dividing our assets, he made it clear he is counting on sticking me with half of his tax debt. He told the IRS that the kid who stold our laptop reformatted the hard-drive and that that is how he lost all of his tax records. There WAS a theft, but he did not have any real tax records on it. The paltry records that existed were on the house computer. He is now on some kind of repayment plan.

I am convinced he is going to stick me with part of the bill, to offset my part of the assets, since I left home with nothing but a suitcase and he now owns everything. I am thinking of going to the I.R.S. and reporting how he gets paid cash as often as possible so he can avoid taxation and how he never kept records to begin with and how, although it is a repair business, he does have inventory in a storage unit, which means taxes should be paid on the inventory as well. I am thinking of writing and offering a deal to be deposed about him in exchange for not being held in any way responsible for the taxes.

It’s about the money but also about justice. He raped my little sister a number of times, counting on her love for me keeping her from ever telling me. He gave my niece (the same little sister’s daughter) a drink and tried feeling up her leg. He also asked another teenage girl, the friend of a nephew, “Do you want to give me a kiss, baby?” She was extremely distressed. WE never got justice for those things, but I am thinking the tax thing would at least be justice, a la Al Capone.

Any thoughts? Please! I can’t afford an attorney right now and am thinking of writing to the I.R.S. without legal counsel. I know it is risky. I am very nervous.

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]]> By: T http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-61286 T Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:49:07 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-61286 My friend and I met this guy for drinks last night at the Red Lion. He tried to stick us with a $300.00 bar tab. We got curious and googled his name. Boy are we surprised!!!!!!!!!!!! My friend and I met this guy for drinks last night at the Red Lion. He tried to stick us with a $300.00 bar tab.
We got curious and googled his name.
Boy are we surprised!!!!!!!!!!!!

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]]> By: eileen http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-57679 eileen Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:26:27 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-57679 Hi Staying sane, thanks! Thankfully he can't make anyone around me believe that I'm crazy - I've pre-empted that, and his arrogance, agressivity and parasitic lifestyle had been noticed by others before. He didn't have the time to isolate me and destroy my self-confidence completely, which I know now was his plan. I do get some satisfaction from the idea that I've escaped his control though, and that he can't stand it - hence the stalking etc. I was nothing to him, finding him out turned me into something: a problem. Which is, I believe, the highest status and the closest thing to a recognition of my existence that I can get from the sociopath! I agree 5% sincere is not enough for qualifying as a human. Even if I knew half of what I know about him I wouldn't grant him that. But like one step writes, rationalising is one thing, but because of emotions there are times when it's hard to dissociate the sociopath from the pseudo-person you thought you knew. I believe it happens less and less with time, and knowing about sociopaths helps: I've realised that if I take out all the sociopathic aspects of his personality as described on this site...there's nothing left! Hi Staying sane, thanks! Thankfully he can’t make anyone around me believe that I’m crazy – I’ve pre-empted that, and his arrogance, agressivity and parasitic lifestyle had been noticed by others before. He didn’t have the time to isolate me and destroy my self-confidence completely, which I know now was his plan. I do get some satisfaction from the idea that I’ve escaped his control though, and that he can’t stand it – hence the stalking etc. I was nothing to him, finding him out turned me into something: a problem. Which is, I believe, the highest status and the closest thing to a recognition of my existence that I can get from the sociopath! I agree 5% sincere is not enough for qualifying as a human. Even if I knew half of what I know about him I wouldn’t grant him that. But like one step writes, rationalising is one thing, but because of emotions there are times when it’s hard to dissociate the sociopath from the pseudo-person you thought you knew. I believe it happens less and less with time, and knowing about sociopaths helps: I’ve realised that if I take out all the sociopathic aspects of his personality as described on this site…there’s nothing left!

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]]> By: Stayingsane http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-57646 Stayingsane Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:26:19 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/10/05/exposing-the-sociopath/#comment-57646 eileen Exactly what you say. As soon as you begin to demonstrate to the P you see through the scam, you will be labelled "not working" "broken" "crazy" and he will be on the sniff for another victim that will be taken in by him to keep up his self inflated version of himself. It's harsh so take it gently on yourself. Please try and look after you and all the love you feel for him find a way of re-directing to yourself. Ah so he has 4 other girlfriends? since when is 5 per cent sincere.... enough for a real human being? you deserve so much more. He won't suffer, but he won't ever be happy....cut loose, love yourself, be 100 per cent sincere to yourself. eileen

Exactly what you say. As soon as you begin to demonstrate to the P you see through the scam, you will be labelled “not working” “broken” “crazy” and he will be on the sniff for another victim that will be taken in by him to keep up his self inflated version of himself. It’s harsh so take it gently on yourself. Please try and look after you and all the love you feel for him find a way of re-directing to yourself.

Ah so he has 4 other girlfriends? since when is 5 per cent sincere…. enough for a real human being? you deserve so much more. He won’t suffer, but he won’t ever be happy….cut loose, love yourself, be 100 per cent sincere to yourself.

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