Comments on: After the sociopath is gone: No Contact begins in my head http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:06:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: timeheels http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51070 timeheels Wed, 14 Oct 2009 07:17:19 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51070 geminigirl please read this oh and btw P's do hurt prolly more than us! imgine if your ego was so big that you had to keep it alive by any means? thats pain baby! i like mrbuffalos posts becasue its the truth. plain and simple. he wasnt afraid to speak it and he got flamed for it. i dont think he did it from a place of looking down on us. i think he really did want to help and now the poor guy is hurt because someone couldnt handle it. skylar is bad news and so is kim sure they were just being obnoxious girls and yet again this proves that mrbuffalo was right, they thought he was P and what do they do? they engage him and if he really was a P their heeling process would be slowed down because they just had to talk to a P. whos fault is that? THATS why i like mrbuffalos posts, not only was it impressive sounding it played out before our eyes. ego and all. skylar felt her postiion was being threatened so she attacked him with all she had. thats ugly and if she hadnt done that he would have still been here postin some gold. i lost all respect for skylar and kim they acted like the perfect victims. and they wonder why men hate them and they hate men. no normal man would even go near them i bet in real life. mrbuffalo not only “won” this, he won it without being a P, and they think he’s a P and he DID IT ALL IN THE NO CONTACT THREAD! genius. pure and simple. shows how much this place helps. geminigirl please read this oh and btw P’s do hurt prolly more than us! imgine if your ego was so big that you had to keep it alive by any means? thats pain baby!

i like mrbuffalos posts becasue its the truth. plain and simple. he wasnt afraid to speak it and he got flamed for it. i dont think he did it from a place of looking down on us. i think he really did want to help and now the poor guy is hurt because someone couldnt handle it. skylar is bad news and so is kim sure they were just being obnoxious girls and yet again this proves that mrbuffalo was right, they thought he was P and what do they do? they engage him and if he really was a P their heeling process would be slowed down because they just had to talk to a P. whos fault is that?

THATS why i like mrbuffalos posts, not only was it impressive sounding it played out before our eyes. ego and all. skylar felt her postiion was being threatened so she attacked him with all she had. thats ugly and if she hadnt done that he would have still been here postin some gold. i lost all respect for skylar and kim they acted like the perfect victims. and they wonder why men hate them and they hate men. no normal man would even go near them i bet in real life.

mrbuffalo not only “won” this, he won it without being a P, and they think he’s a P and he DID IT ALL IN THE NO CONTACT THREAD!

genius. pure and simple. shows how much this place helps.

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51068 ErinBrock Wed, 14 Oct 2009 07:06:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51068 Kat: "Come on, if you guys can’t spot them by now, I am going to give up hope." what TIME is it? Hmmmmmmmm Kat:
“Come on, if you guys can’t spot them by now, I am going to give up hope.”

what TIME is it?

Hmmmmmmmm

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]]> By: timeheels http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51067 timeheels Wed, 14 Oct 2009 07:04:06 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51067 i like mrbuffalos posts becasue its the truth. plain and simple. he wasnt afraid to speak it and he got flamed for it. i dont think he did it from a place of looking down on us. i think he really did want to help and now the poor guy is hurt because someone couldnt handle it. skylar is bad news and so is kim sure they were just being obnoxious girls and yet again this proves that mrbuffalo was right, they thought he was P and what do they do? they engage him and if he really was a P their heeling process would be slowed down because they just had to talk to a P. whos fault is that? THATS why i like mrbuffalos posts, not only was it impressive sounding it played out before our eyes. ego and all. skylar felt her postiion was being threatened so she attacked him with all she had. thats ugly and if she hadnt done that he would have still been here postin some gold. i lost all respect for skylar and kim they acted like the perfect victims. and they wonder why men hate them and they hate men. no normal man would even go near them i bet in real life. mrbuffalo not only "won" this, he won it without being a P, and they think he's a P and he DID IT ALL IN THE NO CONTACT THREAD! genius. pure and simple. shows how much this place helps. i like mrbuffalos posts becasue its the truth. plain and simple. he wasnt afraid to speak it and he got flamed for it. i dont think he did it from a place of looking down on us. i think he really did want to help and now the poor guy is hurt because someone couldnt handle it. skylar is bad news and so is kim sure they were just being obnoxious girls and yet again this proves that mrbuffalo was right, they thought he was P and what do they do? they engage him and if he really was a P their heeling process would be slowed down because they just had to talk to a P. whos fault is that?

THATS why i like mrbuffalos posts, not only was it impressive sounding it played out before our eyes. ego and all. skylar felt her postiion was being threatened so she attacked him with all she had. thats ugly and if she hadnt done that he would have still been here postin some gold. i lost all respect for skylar and kim they acted like the perfect victims. and they wonder why men hate them and they hate men. no normal man would even go near them i bet in real life.

mrbuffalo not only “won” this, he won it without being a P, and they think he’s a P and he DID IT ALL IN THE NO CONTACT THREAD!

genius. pure and simple. shows how much this place helps.

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]]> By: kat_o_nine_tales http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51066 kat_o_nine_tales Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:57:08 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51066 Well not trying to project. FOR ME it's about my ex. Not, of course, for everybody in the place. And I'll be the first to admit I have a terrible time getting over my exes. I really do. A lot of us do. That's part of what makes you feel so dumb sometimes. You don't love feeling like crap, you hate what they do, but somehow you still love them. Well not trying to project. FOR ME it’s about my ex. Not, of course, for everybody in the place. And I’ll be the first to admit I have a terrible time getting over my exes. I really do. A lot of us do. That’s part of what makes you feel so dumb sometimes. You don’t love feeling like crap, you hate what they do, but somehow you still love them.

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]]> By: kat_o_nine_tales http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51063 kat_o_nine_tales Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:52:30 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51063 Time.. if the guy suffered, let's hear his story. We don't need his benefits if he's above it all looking down on us poor miserable wretches. Yes, this place is sometimes full of negative emotions, hurt, deep grief and even a desire for revenge. But these are stages along the road to healing, not the final destination. For a lot of us, feeling sorry for ourselves is actually a new experience. I know it's no fun watching people wallow in it. But that's why people come here, pour out their pain, get support and caring sometimes for the first time in years. And yeah get angry, and feel sorry for themselves for a while. But that's also why in time they move on, and come here once in a while to keep up with people who helped them when they were down. Now I say again.. if Mr. Buffalo is hurting and healing.. let's hear the story of his hurt and grief. Grieving is a big part of healing. And why is it exactly that you have suddenly become a big fan/supporter? Alias? Time.. if the guy suffered, let’s hear his story. We don’t need his benefits if he’s above it all looking down on us poor miserable wretches.

Yes, this place is sometimes full of negative emotions, hurt, deep grief and even a desire for revenge. But these are stages along the road to healing, not the final destination.

For a lot of us, feeling sorry for ourselves is actually a new experience. I know it’s no fun watching people wallow in it. But that’s why people come here, pour out their pain, get support and caring sometimes for the first time in years. And yeah get angry, and feel sorry for themselves for a while.

But that’s also why in time they move on, and come here once in a while to keep up with people who helped them when they were down.

Now I say again.. if Mr. Buffalo is hurting and healing.. let’s hear the story of his hurt and grief. Grieving is a big part of healing. And why is it exactly that you have suddenly become a big fan/supporter? Alias?

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]]> By: kat_o_nine_tales http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51061 kat_o_nine_tales Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:44:22 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51061 time.. the people here have already been hurt enough. They are dealing with painful truth every day. There is a big difference between "victim mentality" and true victimization, as you know. Most of the people here from what I've read over the last year or so have been very hesitant to even perceive themselves as victims at all, and have had to "wake up" to that fact just to even start to heal. Buffalo guy might not have been on some big offensive when he started posting, and made some really good points, but to me it's about intuition and gut feeling, and to me he sounds just like my ex-husband. When pushed he sounds exactly like him, in fact. Skylar and Kim sounded like girls-night-out being obnoxious and laughing too much, but Buffalo guy is doing the entire thing.. the pomposity, the finger-pointing, the name calling. Come on, if you guys can't spot them by now, I am going to give up hope. And now, I've said my piece and put in my two cents, so I won't be responding to any more of that stuff... Erin is right.. I'm putting up my "don't feed the troll" sign time.. the people here have already been hurt enough. They are dealing with painful truth every day.

There is a big difference between “victim mentality” and true victimization, as you know. Most of the people here from what I’ve read over the last year or so have been very hesitant to even perceive themselves as victims at all, and have had to “wake up” to that fact just to even start to heal.

Buffalo guy might not have been on some big offensive when he started posting, and made some really good points, but to me it’s about intuition and gut feeling, and to me he sounds just like my ex-husband. When pushed he sounds exactly like him, in fact. Skylar and Kim sounded like girls-night-out being obnoxious and laughing too much, but Buffalo guy is doing the entire thing.. the pomposity, the finger-pointing, the name calling. Come on, if you guys can’t spot them by now, I am going to give up hope.

And now, I’ve said my piece and put in my two cents, so I won’t be responding to any more of that stuff… Erin is right.. I’m putting up my “don’t feed the troll” sign

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]]> By: kat_o_nine_tales http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51058 kat_o_nine_tales Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:16:31 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51058 Yes and guys don't play his game please. Like Gem sez, this is so unhelpful and just makes us look like a bunch of paranoid freaks. which is what they love us to look like. Yes and guys don’t play his game please. Like Gem sez, this is so unhelpful and just makes us look like a bunch of paranoid freaks. which is what they love us to look like.

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]]> By: timeheels http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51057 timeheels Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:15:50 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51057 hey kat o nine tales since wen is tellin it like it is disrespectful. and whats this about him being "new"? so just because your a longtime memeber gives you more rights than him? haha so hes supposed to just take abuse from other users? no. again ppl are just mad that this guy was intelligent and wasnt afraid to let you all know including me that we are also responsible for what happend to us the day you can take responsibility is the day you wake up and smell the cofee. kat o nine tales if this site isn't about whats right or helpful then what is it? a extra large pity party? truth hurts. read the posts from mrbuffalos 1st to last and look at how SKYLAR (yes im pointing fingers now because shes suspect) and KIM got offended. he didnt dispesepct anyone they started and you can even tell they was mad at him. hey kat o nine tales

since wen is tellin it like it is disrespectful. and whats this about him being “new”? so just because your a longtime memeber gives you more rights than him? haha so hes supposed to just take abuse from other users? no. again ppl are just mad that this guy was intelligent and wasnt afraid to let you all know including me that we are also responsible for what happend to us the day you can take responsibility is the day you wake up and smell the cofee.

kat o nine tales if this site isn’t about whats right or helpful then what is it? a extra large pity party?

truth hurts. read the posts from mrbuffalos 1st to last and look at how SKYLAR (yes im pointing fingers now because shes suspect) and KIM got offended. he didnt dispesepct anyone they started and you can even tell they was mad at him.

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]]> By: kat_o_nine_tales http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51055 kat_o_nine_tales Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:04:31 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51055 What Buffy fails to realize, is that this site is about hurt, broken people helping and supporting each other. His comments when affronted were vicious and finger-pointing. Just not at all what any of us would write. It's not that it's impossible to say anything helpful, or even profound, without deep feelings, it's just that this site isn't about dictating to others what's right and helpful, or even defining them. Lovefraud has had some weird opinions at times, and yeah probably been a bit "paranoid" once in a while. BUT, and this is a big BUT... this is a support group. We aren't here to call each other names or diagnose each other. We've survived other trolls and sociopathic posters before. They always, without fail, get bored. There is no "food" here for their egos. We all have their number. Now you all don't be making too many excuses for old Buffy. He's been pretty disrespectful of the members of a site that he's brand new to. And he's not sticking to issues but instead using personal invective. So let's not be afraid to call a spade a spade, ok? What Buffy fails to realize, is that this site is about hurt, broken people helping and supporting each other. His comments when affronted were vicious and finger-pointing. Just not at all what any of us would write.

It’s not that it’s impossible to say anything helpful, or even profound, without deep feelings, it’s just that this site isn’t about dictating to others what’s right and helpful, or even defining them.

Lovefraud has had some weird opinions at times, and yeah probably been a bit “paranoid” once in a while. BUT, and this is a big BUT… this is a support group. We aren’t here to call each other names or diagnose each other. We’ve survived other trolls and sociopathic posters before. They always, without fail, get bored. There is no “food” here for their egos. We all have their number.

Now you all don’t be making too many excuses for old Buffy. He’s been pretty disrespectful of the members of a site that he’s brand new to. And he’s not sticking to issues but instead using personal invective. So let’s not be afraid to call a spade a spade, ok?

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]]> By: geminigirl http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/comment-page-13/#comment-51053 geminigirl Wed, 14 Oct 2009 05:59:34 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/16/after-the-sociopath-is-gone-no-contact-begins-in-my-head/#comment-51053 Skylar and kim,Im sorry but I think its SICK sick sick to engage and play cat and mouse with someone who is so obviously{after a out 2 posts} a narcopath. I think its just plain stupid to engage with them at all.Its like dancing with the devil.Dont forget these people get their rocks off on being insulted and led on .What are you trying to prove? remember, if you lie down with dogs, expect to come up with lots of fleas!!.I personally think T,{now gone, thankfully}, pianoman, and bison are one and the same.And sky, what is the point about bragging about your contact with gary ridgeway? You were lucky you werent killed.Erin is right, we should all just report these freaks,NOT engage.I know I did it too, but all this shit re "pinky doodle" what is that?Skating on thin ice, peeps, these types always think they have won, so why engage?And what are newbies here going to think? Just when we all thought it was safe to get back in the water,after T, another shark labelled B appears!Grey rock it is! Love, gem. Skylar and kim,Im sorry but I think its SICK sick sick to engage and play cat and mouse with someone who is so obviously{after a out 2 posts} a narcopath. I think its just plain stupid to engage with them at all.Its like dancing with the devil.Dont forget these people get their rocks off on being insulted and led on .What are you trying to prove? remember, if you lie down with dogs, expect to come up with lots of fleas!!.I personally think T,{now gone, thankfully}, pianoman, and bison are one and the same.And sky, what is the point about bragging about your contact with gary ridgeway? You were lucky you werent killed.Erin is right, we should all just report these freaks,NOT engage.I know I did it too, but all this shit re “pinky doodle” what is that?Skating on thin ice, peeps, these types always think they have won, so why engage?And what are newbies here going to think? Just when we all thought it was safe to get back in the water,after T, another shark labelled B appears!Grey rock it is! Love, gem.

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