Comments on: BOOK REVIEW: The Betrayal Bond (redux)

By: lesson learned

lesson learned — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 05:45:54 +0000

I own and have read “Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist In Your Life”.

It is an excellent book about high level narcissists, but great read and good application to any personality disorder. I love the book because of the “spiritual” nature with which it is written.

Great articles. Can’t wait for my book to get here tomorrow!

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By: one_step_at_a_time

one_step_at_a_time — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 12:59:14 +0000

joy is a moralist – it’s her comedic style. she should stick to comedy if she can’t move beyond that.

that poor young woman…the pain so obvious on her face, in her posture, her breathing. the guy from most wanted didn’t call joy out, but he handled it really well.

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By: one_step_at_a_time

one_step_at_a_time — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 12:54:36 +0000

EB’s poem is a really thoughtful considered piece of writing – would make a good spoken word piece.

Personally, I don’t have any desire to have it posted separately; i don’t want to read, in perpetuity, that i am being broken. if you post it eb, leave me out.

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By: ErinBrock

ErinBrock — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 09:23:54 +0000

Duct tape pasties….hmmmmm.

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By: shabbychic

shabbychic — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 08:12:56 +0000

neveragain, I just watched the clip, OMG, Joy Behar is a horrible person, Natasha couldn’t say a word after Joy made that stupid comment, Natasha looked like she was in pain after that, at first she looked confident… that she was doing something to help other girls that are caught in this horrific situation. Yeah Oxy, duct tape would be great on Joy!!!

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By: Ox Drover

Ox Drover — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 22:48:02 +0000

Dear Neveragain,

I think the Behar is an “entertainer” and should stay away from serious subjects about which she knows zip. Too many entertainers, I think try to take on subjects more complex than who’s on Dancing with the Stars, when they should just keep their mouths shut! Wonder what she would have said to Elizabeth Smart or Jaycee Dugan? Or Patty Hearst?

Duct tape was made for several good reasons and it should be used for one of those in pasting it over the mouths of people who should not talk, especially on the airwaves.

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By: neveragain

neveragain — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 22:11:29 +0000

http://joybehar.blogs.cnn.com/.....sex-slave/ is a copy of the clip referred to above.

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By: neveragain

neveragain — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 21:59:08 +0000

I just watched the clip on CNN from the Joy Behar Show about sex trafficking. What an idiot Joy appeared to me, and judgmental, though I think she SORT OF realized her mistake, but not totally. She said something like “Now you know you should have called the police earlier”.

I think there is very little understanding of trauma bonds and maybe they ought to be called trauma chains!!!!

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By: OxDrover

OxDrover — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 16:53:06 +0000

Dear Escapee,

Just got to your post to me about my earlier post…glad you had a good time away….we definitely need that sometimes.

There comes a time I think in our healing from the Ps that it is NO LONGER about THEM, but about US.

There is a great deal of evidence that their behaviors and aggression are genetic, and I wonder if there is something about our passivity that is also genetic. There was a study done by a man at Ft. Roots Veterans Administration Center in Little Rock, AR that spanned two decades, he was breeding a “race” of dogs, starting from one litter, breeding the more aggressive to the more aggressive and the more timid and passive ones to the more timind and passive ones and after about 20 generations, he had two groups of dogs that though they all had the SAME TWO common ancestors 20 generations back, were totally different in temperment. One group viscious and the other so passive that they woujld “belly crawl and whine” at anything. If my P-son could inherit the genes from my P-sperm donor and his ancestors and from his father’s P-father and be aggressive, what is to say that I didn’t inherit the genes, along with the socialization I got to be the “caregiver” and patsy to the aggressive ones?

Makes me wonder, though, if there isn’t some genetic links in at least SOME OF THE VICTIMS too.

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By: kate09

kate09 — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 02:09:30 +0000

Well I went out and bought this book The Betrayal Bond. I am reading it now. One of my main issues dealing with the S in my life is the projection issues.. The S in my life is so good at it.. Any time I try 2 show or share emotions he turns it around on me.. I always end up feeling like I am the unstable one or maybe I ask 2 much.. I used 2 feel weak but I am starting 2 see that I am getting stronger. I have often wonderd why I picked or stayed with a S.. It’s strange how my identical twin sister also is in an abusive relationship. So glad I bought this book.

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