Comments on: After the sociopath: How do we heal? Part 11 – Trust http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Thu, 09 Sep 2010 06:28:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: one_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-78994 one_step_at_a_time Sun, 13 Jun 2010 13:00:22 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-78994 Donna - posted to the june 9 oxytocin thread. post shows as there, but the thread won't come up on the side bar. any ideas? thanks. one step Donna – posted to the june 9 oxytocin thread. post shows as there, but the thread won’t come up on the side bar. any ideas?

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]]> By: Renewedhope http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72728 Renewedhope Wed, 21 Apr 2010 17:42:35 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72728 So So True! So So True!

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72643 conomo Wed, 21 Apr 2010 06:44:23 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72643 I am ..I don't know how I can validate ,you/or vilify her??? I take some of the blame for my situation...we all do...but I think we had to tell them to take a hike...that's what I have had to do...I am no prolific poster.. just don't let her infiltrate your life again...it was good when it was...but it was false... I am ..I don’t know how I can validate ,you/or vilify her??? I take some of the blame for my situation…we all do…but I think we had to tell them to take a hike…that’s what I have had to do…I am no prolific poster.. just don’t let her infiltrate your life again…it was good when it was…but it was false…

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]]> By: Renewedhope http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72642 Renewedhope Wed, 21 Apr 2010 06:26:11 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72642 Conomo; You are a late comer. I knew my S woman for 27 years as a lover 3 different times and a friend in between. I got hurt by her badly in 1993 and it took 3 years before I could date again and then I met my wife I have now and we have been together for 14 years. The S woman told me last fall that she was dying and as a ex lover/ friend I had to tell her I still had feelings for her. Well she took that and ran with it and told me she still loves me too. It began a 2 month emotional affair long distance. Via emails and phone calls. Call it a mid life crisis if you wish. There was never sex but there was romance which I regret now having pursued. It almost cost me my marriage but I came to my senses and ended the affair. Actually she did because she went through another one of her Sociopathic cycles. By the time the 2 months ended, she was bored with me and I don't know for sure but think she went on to someone else.I am still awaiting my fathers probate to clear and I will be getting around $9,000 when it does and I think she wanted some of it. She never asked me for anything..just mentioned it in passing that I need this and I need that..and of course me..I fell for it and offered it. But it's all water under the bridge now and I can go on and not feel bad anymore. She still claims that she didn't lead me on and that it was all my fault. Not true. She lead me on for 27 years off and on. It wasn't until this time happened that I realized what she was. And that she won't ever change.That's my story. I am not happy about what happened. But at least I didn't have sex with her or walk out on my wife. Today my wife and I are back on track and happy again. I have no need to want anyone but her. I merely emailed her because I felt bad about the hateful way I worded my final email to her. No I don't feel bad anymore. I will take half the blame for what happened but not all the blame. Conomo; You are a late comer. I knew my S woman for 27 years as a lover 3 different times and a friend in between. I got hurt by her badly in 1993 and it took 3 years before I could date again and then I met my wife I have now and we have been together for 14 years. The S woman told me last fall that she was dying and as a ex lover/ friend I had to tell her I still had feelings for her. Well she took that and ran with it and told me she still loves me too. It began a 2 month emotional affair long distance. Via emails and phone calls. Call it a mid life crisis if you wish. There was never sex but there was romance which I regret now having pursued. It almost cost me my marriage but I came to my senses and ended the affair. Actually she did because she went through another one of her Sociopathic cycles. By the time the 2 months ended, she was bored with me and I don’t know for sure but think she went on to someone else.I am still awaiting my fathers probate to clear and I will be getting around $9,000 when it does and I think she wanted some of it. She never asked me for anything..just mentioned it in passing that I need this and I need that..and of course me..I fell for it and offered it. But it’s all water under the bridge now and I can go on and not feel bad anymore. She still claims that she didn’t lead me on and that it was all my fault. Not true. She lead me on for 27 years off and on. It wasn’t until this time happened that I realized what she was. And that she won’t ever change.That’s my story. I am not happy about what happened. But at least I didn’t have sex with her or walk out on my wife. Today my wife and I are back on track and happy again. I have no need to want anyone but her. I merely emailed her because I felt bad about the hateful way I worded my final email to her. No I don’t feel bad anymore. I will take half the blame for what happened but not all the blame.

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]]> By: Renewedhope http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72639 Renewedhope Wed, 21 Apr 2010 06:11:59 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72639 Dear Shab; God did I needed to hear someone tell me that! I thought I was just being a fool again. But I think she(S Woman) needed closure too because she never said the things she said until I sent the email today. I don't feel bad anymore. I know what really happened no matter what came out of her twisted mouth and mind. I can look straight ahead now! I just erased every email I had saved from her going back to 2002! My email is now rid of any sign of her! I have some more healing to do obviously. I thought I was almost past her but I wasn't. Which is why I still need this place to feel validated. Thanks for your kind words! Dear Shab;
God did I needed to hear someone tell me that! I thought I was just being a fool again. But I think she(S Woman) needed closure too because she never said the things she said until I sent the email today. I don’t feel bad anymore. I know what really happened no matter what came out of her twisted mouth and mind. I can look straight ahead now! I just erased every email I had saved from her going back to 2002! My email is now rid of any sign of her! I have some more healing to do obviously. I thought I was almost past her but I wasn’t. Which is why I still need this place to feel validated. Thanks for your kind words!

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]]> By: shabbychic http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72632 shabbychic Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:55:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72632 Renewedhope, good to hear from you, glad you are being gentle with your feelings and thoughts about yourself, maybe your email was just taking care of you, every situation is different. Of course she said it was all your fault... they are blameless, ha!!! Now you have ended it the way you wanted to! Towanda, dude!!!! Renewedhope, good to hear from you, glad you are being gentle with your feelings and thoughts about yourself, maybe your email was just taking care of you, every situation is different. Of course she said it was all your fault… they are blameless, ha!!! Now you have ended it the way you wanted to! Towanda, dude!!!!

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72623 conomo Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:26:13 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72623 That I ruined her friendship with her and ruined the realtionship with her and my wife and our mutial best friend.----I think I missed something...you have a wife and a girlfriend?? That I ruined her friendship with her and ruined the realtionship with her and my wife and our mutial best friend.—-I think I missed something…you have a wife and a girlfriend??

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72622 conomo Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:10:24 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72622 Renewed: Don't get into it again!!! You / We deserve much more...that means....truth...honesty...did you get that ...when it was all said and done!!!! NO...we don't get that..we want it however it escapes us..........much as we try ... Renewed: Don’t get into it again!!! You / We deserve much more…that means….truth…honesty…did you get that …when it was all said and done!!!! NO…we don’t get that..we want it however it escapes us……….much as we try …

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]]> By: conomo http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-7/#comment-72620 conomo Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:00:41 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-72620 Dear Mom...I am not sad/sorry that you are not perfect...I wish you could admit those times you weren't ....those time make me sad/sorry...I recently learned/realized she may be blocking...wow....who knew?? Dear Mom…I am not sad/sorry that you are not perfect…I wish you could admit those times you weren’t ….those time make me sad/sorry…I recently learned/realized she may be blocking…wow….who knew??

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