Comments on: After the sociopath: How do we heal? Part 11 – Trust http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:17:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: one/joy_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-144142 one/joy_step_at_a_time Sat, 19 Nov 2011 02:12:37 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-144142 Hi Sky, She's pretty candid with what she does say. I don't think it's a concern about the court case (if you read her blog i think it also indicates this - i am often surprised with what she WILL post there.) I recognized the pattern of ruptured trust: emotional openness followed by rapid closing up. I have talked to her lawyer and the asst DA - quite a while ago. the asst DA was the first person i really told the story to. Hens, Will do. Who knows how long this round will take. Couldn't she just slip on a banana (impaled on a spike) or something???! I mean, WHERE is the justice. :) Hi Sky,

She’s pretty candid with what she does say. I don’t think it’s a concern about the court case (if you read her blog i think it also indicates this – i am often surprised with what she WILL post there.)

I recognized the pattern of ruptured trust: emotional openness followed by rapid closing up.

I have talked to her lawyer and the asst DA – quite a while ago. the asst DA was the first person i really told the story to.

Hens,
Will do. Who knows how long this round will take. Couldn’t she just slip on a banana (impaled on a spike) or something???! I mean, WHERE is the justice. :)

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]]> By: DUPED NO MORE! http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-144059 DUPED NO MORE! Fri, 18 Nov 2011 04:05:48 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-144059 This was a great post. Thanks for the 'connection'.... Very validating and true; all of it. Dupey This was a great post.
Thanks for the ‘connection’….

Very validating and true; all of it.

Dupey

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]]> By: skylar http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-144051 skylar Fri, 18 Nov 2011 02:22:49 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-144051 One Joy, it's possible that she is being extra cautious because she is in the middle of the law suit. She can't be sure that someone she talks to won't take stories back to the spath's lawyers. You could, rather than talk to her, talk to her attorney. He/She might find your story useful. One Joy,
it’s possible that she is being extra cautious because she is in the middle of the law suit. She can’t be sure that someone she talks to won’t take stories back to the spath’s lawyers. You could, rather than talk to her, talk to her attorney. He/She might find your story useful.

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]]> By: Hens http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-144049 Hens Fri, 18 Nov 2011 01:45:50 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-144049 Hey Onejoy, I am always interested in any info concerning your spath and any legal action involved, please keep us posted. hens Hey Onejoy, I am always interested in any info concerning your spath and any legal action involved, please keep us posted.
hens

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]]> By: one/joy_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-144021 one/joy_step_at_a_time Thu, 17 Nov 2011 19:34:57 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-144021 when i have an experience that is outside of the 'going' threads, i usually look to Kathleen Hawk's series for the right place to post. So, this one is about trust: i just spoke with the dupe who is sueing the spath. i see myself reflected in her guardedness, her hesitations, fears and sweetness. i heard a sweetness in her voice that caused sadness in me as i can imagine it being manipulated by the spath. only too clearly. i asked to talk to her months ago. and today it happened. i asked and followed up because i need people to be more 3D... i need to have more information about who to trust, and i needed to connect to someone else who has lived this nightmare with the spath. and although she isn't particularly forthcoming and doesn't seem interested in sharing much info., at least i tried. to make my life more real, to take back my power, to reach out, to trust just a bit more - because who knows what that will bring into my life. best, one joy when i have an experience that is outside of the ‘going’ threads, i usually look to Kathleen Hawk’s series for the right place to post.

So, this one is about trust: i just spoke with the dupe who is sueing the spath. i see myself reflected in her guardedness, her hesitations, fears and sweetness. i heard a sweetness in her voice that caused sadness in me as i can imagine it being manipulated by the spath. only too clearly.

i asked to talk to her months ago. and today it happened. i asked and followed up because i need people to be more 3D… i need to have more information about who to trust, and i needed to connect to someone else who has lived this nightmare with the spath. and although she isn’t particularly forthcoming and doesn’t seem interested in sharing much info., at least i tried. to make my life more real, to take back my power, to reach out, to trust just a bit more – because who knows what that will bring into my life.

best,
one joy

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]]> By: panther http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-135359 panther Thu, 01 Sep 2011 19:17:01 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-135359 Yes. That happened to me a lot while reading this. I need to read it again when I have time. It's loaded. Yes. That happened to me a lot while reading this. I need to read it again when I have time. It’s loaded.

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]]> By: skylar http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-135356 skylar Thu, 01 Sep 2011 18:59:57 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-135356 Panther, what I've found about Kathy's writings, is that there is the overall great information and then there are the nuggets of gold: Single phrases that reveal things which we should have known, but nobody ever taught us. She has provided me with so many tools to navigate with. Panther,
what I’ve found about Kathy’s writings, is that there is the overall great information and then there are the nuggets of gold: Single phrases that reveal things which we should have known, but nobody ever taught us. She has provided me with so many tools to navigate with.

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]]> By: panther http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-135354 panther Thu, 01 Sep 2011 18:48:37 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-135354 What an article! Wow! Good writing. Bam bam bam! And WOW I mean WOW I don't even know what to say. It's too much too good information. Mwaha. I needed that. But it stirred like a million and ten emotions. I'll nick-name this article the hurricane. What an article! Wow!

Good writing. Bam bam bam!

And WOW I mean WOW I don’t even know what to say.

It’s too much too good information. Mwaha. I needed that.

But it stirred like a million and ten emotions. I’ll nick-name this article the hurricane.

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]]> By: skylar http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-135342 skylar Thu, 01 Sep 2011 17:32:02 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-135342 NoContactRules, Agreed, this is one of her best articles for me. She articulates the core of how they all think, even if they may seem different on the surface. "It's all about me because nobody can be trusted." How wrong they are. Even though he was seeing and knowing the extent of how much I would do and sacrificefor my spath, he could never FEEL it enough to trust me. It was because he KNEW that he intended to f**k me over and he was preparing for the eventuality of my wanting revenge. That's why he wanted me dead. NoContactRules,

Agreed, this is one of her best articles for me.

She articulates the core of how they all think, even if they may seem different on the surface. “It’s all about me because nobody can be trusted.” How wrong they are.

Even though he was seeing and knowing the extent of how much I would do and sacrificefor my spath, he could never FEEL it enough to trust me. It was because he KNEW that he intended to f**k me over and he was preparing for the eventuality of my wanting revenge. That’s why he wanted me dead.

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]]> By: NoContactRules http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/comment-page-8/#comment-135337 NoContactRules Thu, 01 Sep 2011 17:10:15 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/21/after-the-sociopath-how-do-we-heal-part-11-trust/#comment-135337 I so agree with Kathy's assessment of why they are the way they are. I so agree with Kathy’s assessment of why they are the way they are.

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