Comments on: Boredom and the sociopath http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Tue, 07 Feb 2012 06:52:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Donna Andersen http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42328 Donna Andersen Thu, 23 Jul 2009 22:43:57 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42328 Lovefraud Bloggers: Please do not be quick to jump to conclusions about another's motivations. I am ending this thread. Lovefraud Bloggers:

Please do not be quick to jump to conclusions about another’s motivations. I am ending this thread.

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]]> By: MariaLisa http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42309 MariaLisa Thu, 23 Jul 2009 21:18:04 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42309 Escapee: yes though: why did you think i asked him about his experience with a psychopath, i only just ( after the where are you from comment) started to read back and noticed how pianoman never shares his story. Thanks Escapee for the support. I thought this would be a healing spot but maybe also a learning spot at the same time, all over again. Escapee:
yes though: why did you think i asked him about his experience with a psychopath, i only just ( after the where are you from comment) started to read back and noticed how pianoman never shares his story.
Thanks Escapee for the support. I thought this would be a healing spot but maybe also a learning spot at the same time, all over again.

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]]> By: Escapee http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42308 Escapee Thu, 23 Jul 2009 21:14:29 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42308 Maybe not! Maybe not!

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]]> By: MariaLisa http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42307 MariaLisa Thu, 23 Jul 2009 21:12:37 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42307 nope not them.i meant literary fictional masterpieces. not the stereotypical nietzsche and Machiavelli. that way we probably wouldnt have connected either, cause those are just about power. he would know that wouldnt interest me i guess. dunno. what is your experience with a psychopath? nope not them.i meant literary fictional masterpieces. not the stereotypical nietzsche and Machiavelli. that way we probably wouldnt have connected either, cause those are just about power. he would know that wouldnt interest me i guess. dunno.

what is your experience with a psychopath?

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]]> By: MariaLisa http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42299 MariaLisa Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:58:40 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42299 yeah, he was smart. i wish i could say he was just a redneck, but low cultured as he may be on a lot of levels, he was damn smart. he read great literary works. its how we bonded at first since its my passion. however he got different things out of it than me....but i was always curious to find out his view on things because his view was always so radically new and different. however i found out he also gets a lot of his 'insights' from just copy pasting if you know what i mean. he also told me things an exgirlfriend of his told him. LITERALLY. so i do sometimes wonder to which extent he was capable of having authentic thoughts on emotional matters. but i do believe his view on other themes were his, mainly because looking back they provided some logic looking back at his deeds. manipulation, man eat man world, stuff like that. yeah, he was smart. i wish i could say he was just a redneck, but low cultured as he may be on a lot of levels, he was damn smart.
he read great literary works. its how we bonded at first since its my passion. however he got different things out of it than me….but i was always curious to find out his view on things because his view was always so radically new and different. however i found out he also gets a lot of his ‘insights’ from just copy pasting if you know what i mean. he also told me things an exgirlfriend of his told him. LITERALLY. so i do sometimes wonder to which extent he was capable of having authentic thoughts on emotional matters. but i do believe his view on other themes were his, mainly because looking back they provided some logic looking back at his deeds. manipulation, man eat man world, stuff like that.

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]]> By: MariaLisa http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42295 MariaLisa Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:52:06 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42295 To JUSTHEALED: you think its because they dont want to be alone with their thoughts or because there is so little emotion going on within them that they need constant stimuli? i have no idea, i cant imagine either. cause not wanting to be alone with your thoughts would suggest being confronted with ' your inner voice' and isnt that a conscience? let me know what you think. To JUSTHEALED:

you think its because they dont want to be alone with their thoughts or because there is so little emotion going on within them that they need constant stimuli?

i have no idea, i cant imagine either. cause not wanting to be alone with your thoughts would suggest being confronted with ‘ your inner voice’ and isnt that a conscience?

let me know what you think.

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]]> By: Escapee http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42293 Escapee Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:41:16 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42293 JAH (you post to confused) I really like your analogy about the bridge. I think I'm a way behind you (still want to blow up the bridge with him on it!). However, the 'journaling' is down to zero, so that's a good sign. Confused: I have found the 'longing for the attention/company' has dissipated - I realise now the 'nice' guy was the illusion - this is a very painful leap but one that I am sure you will make once you pick up the other threads of your life and find meaning in them again (so much we let go of while we're attending to their needs/demands). Up until fairly recently, it was the first thing that I thought of when I opened my eyes in the morning - he was just 'there'. I have noticed now that this is no longer the case and I am hugely glad of this - to reach this point I kept telling myself 'out out out!' I did a mantra every night before I went to sleep telling the people in my life (my family) "Ilove you John, I love you mum, I love you ....." etc. This put the emphasis back on the people who I truly love and care about and those who truly love and care about me. Don't know if this will help you. I still have the odd 'black' day but little by little, most days are good ones and the nights are certainly getting better. My biggest goal is for 'indifference' - much as JAH describesin 'just calmly walking on by the bridge". While I am still angry, outraged etc, I am feeling a passion that I don't want to feel for the S. Once I am indifferent - it's gone. That's my take on it anyway - I think we all have to find what works for us in re-programming our thoughts and emotions to make life manageable again. All love to you Confused and keep posting for strength. JAH (you post to confused)

I really like your analogy about the bridge. I think I’m a way behind you (still want to blow up the bridge with him on it!). However, the ‘journaling’ is down to zero, so that’s a good sign.

Confused: I have found the ‘longing for the attention/company’ has dissipated – I realise now the ‘nice’ guy was the illusion – this is a very painful leap but one that I am sure you will make once you pick up the other threads of your life and find meaning in them again (so much we let go of while we’re attending to their needs/demands).

Up until fairly recently, it was the first thing that I thought of when I opened my eyes in the morning – he was just ‘there’. I have noticed now that this is no longer the case and I am hugely glad of this – to reach this point I kept telling myself ‘out out out!’ I did a mantra every night before I went to sleep telling the people in my life (my family) “Ilove you John, I love you mum, I love you …..” etc. This put the emphasis back on the people who I truly love and care about and those who truly love and care about me. Don’t know if this will help you.

I still have the odd ‘black’ day but little by little, most days are good ones and the nights are certainly getting better.

My biggest goal is for ‘indifference’ – much as JAH describesin ‘just calmly walking on by the bridge”. While I am still angry, outraged etc, I am feeling a passion that I don’t want to feel for the S. Once I am indifferent – it’s gone. That’s my take on it anyway – I think we all have to find what works for us in re-programming our thoughts and emotions to make life manageable again.

All love to you Confused and keep posting for strength.

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]]> By: Leah http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42287 Leah Thu, 23 Jul 2009 19:34:47 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42287 Great quotes. JAH. I noted them in my journal. In a similar vein, my sister has referred to my ex as a legend in his own mind. Great quotes. JAH. I noted them in my journal.

In a similar vein, my sister has referred to my ex as a legend in his own mind.

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]]> By: justabouthealed http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42280 justabouthealed Thu, 23 Jul 2009 19:04:50 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42280 type of books: Best sellers when they first come out, especially if by a single woman that met his "type" so he could write to her and try to make an "impressive conquest" or at least add her to the line of his back burner women. Also books that could tell him how to act or stay young. type of books: Best sellers when they first come out, especially if by a single woman that met his “type” so he could write to her and try to make an “impressive conquest” or at least add her to the line of his back burner women. Also books that could tell him how to act or stay young.

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]]> By: MariaLisa http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/comment-page-7/#comment-42279 MariaLisa Thu, 23 Jul 2009 19:03:23 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/06/18/boredom-and-the-sociopath/#comment-42279 Pianoman: proper literature. i dont wanna name the writers cause it sorta reveals his identity when other victims of him would come here. and that wouldnt be the problem but im exposing quite some personal emotions here so... but master works of literature. why do you ask? the books were all about the evil side of men kind. thematically the lit suited the classic psychopath. ' man eat man world' , ' the selfish against the selfishless' , ' man against himself' , ' the stupidity of ordinairy folks' (im deliberately describing the themes this banal....) i would recommend him more inspirational lit and he would buy the books but accidently leave em somewhere and never read them... Pianoman:

proper literature. i dont wanna name the writers cause it sorta reveals his identity when other victims of him would come here. and that wouldnt be the problem but im exposing quite some personal emotions here so…

but master works of literature. why do you ask?
the books were all about the evil side of men kind. thematically the lit suited the classic psychopath. ‘ man eat man world’ , ‘ the selfish against the selfishless’ , ‘ man against himself’ , ‘ the stupidity of ordinairy folks’ (im deliberately describing the themes this banal….) i would recommend him more inspirational lit and he would buy the books but accidently leave em somewhere and never read them…

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