Marriage to a sociopath ends in murder
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The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
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usedabused says:
Hey, Nolife,
I’m a Nevada lawyer. Please ask Donna for my contact info and we’ll see what we can do. It may be doable without your coming down, service by publication. Have some other questions to ask but will ask them off the blog.
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ErinBrockovich says:
Nolife:
You must be a resident of Nevada for 6 weeks prior to filing for a divorce in Nevada. Nevada requires a signed affidavit of residencey with filing.
It doesn’t matter which state you were married in to divorce.
I would go to your local court help desk and ask these questions…..I am sure abandonment would be an issue here. And if you can’t locate the ex, publications can be published in newspapers and if no response, the courts will issue a ‘divorce’ or annulment (not sure which) as default judgement.
Ask what documents you will need to file and time frames etc….
But, yes…..check out your questions in your local juristictionI think this process is much easier than you may think!
Good luck to you……..,
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ErinBrockovich says:
USED……
Are you in Southern N??????
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shabbychic says:
Kelsis mom… thinking about you today… you are in my prayers… I hope you stop by once in a while and let us know how you’re doing.
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kelsis mom says:
Thank you for thinking of me—I had a really hard day on “Thursday—I was just thinking of my baby, looking at pictures of her growing up and I cried sooo much I thought I was going to make myself sick. I spoke at the Safe Place Women’s shelter last week—a young woman showed up with 2 blackened swollen eyes with blood in the whites of her eyes—it was so sad—-afterward I had to go to the cemetery and just cry—-it brought back memories—it was just very very sad
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PInow says:
I am so sorry for your tragic loss. She was a beautiful spirit, you can tell. Please, continue speaking and warning and spreading the word for her and for all of us here. You are in my prayers too tonight.
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shabbychic says:
kelsis mom… good to hear from you, I pray that you find some relief in your work in helping others. I hope you’ll keep writing. I know there are others on this site that have lost their children, I pray for some peace in your heart and everyone’s heart.
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shabbychic says:
kelsis mom… I think about you a lot, even more so this week with the news about the terrible tragedy of Jasmine Fiore. I will never forget what happened to Kelsi and how you have been strong enough to share your story with us and with the women you meet at the shelter.
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kelsis mom says:
Thank you shabbychic for your thoughts—I too was just sickened over the Jasmine Fiore story too—it brought back alot of the memories–I am glad that guy also murdered himself to save her family the trauma of going through a jury and his possibly getting off–I really feel for her family too—–this weekend will be a year since I last saw kelsi alive—I still remember what she had on, all the way down to the shoes and jewelry—
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ANewLily says:
Kelsi’s mom, My heart bleeds for you and it bled again for you knowing you had probably heard about Jasmine. I’m glad to see that shabbychic has been keeping in touch and that you must still be reading since you responded.
I still don’t know why I am still alive and Kelsi and Jasmine are not. I think I am finaly over “survivor’s guilt” and then it comes back with each new story. There are so many — so many hurting family members.
Thank you for sharing your story with others even in the midst of your intense grief. You are a remarkable and strong woman!
God’s blessings, Lily
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skylar says:
Greenfern, my P had the same plan as yours : to stage a suicide. He was telling everyone I was suicidal and after i left him he even called the suicide help line and sent them to my parents’ house. My sleeping pill Rx never lasted the full 28 days, somehow they disappeared a few at a time.
I spoke to the 15 year old daughter of a friend and she was astounded by my story. She wanted me to speak at her school so that others will know about this.
I love what these blogs do for us, but I’m thinking that there should be a non-profit formed that also focuses on educating the public of what is happening with narcissism going rampant. And then we need to get it to the highschools starting at 9th grade. Twice a year. until everyone GETS it and there is no more N-supply in the country.
Should we talk to oprah about it?
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shabbychic says:
kelsis mom, I am glad you have such resolve to educate people about sociopaths/psychopaths, I am sure you have made a difference in many people’s lives and they should thank Kelsi for that, you have probably saved people’s lives, it takes a special kind of person to even make the effort of trying to make a difference, and you are doing it!
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shabbychic says:
skylar, that is really WEIRD how similar your story is to greenfern’s.
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kelsis mom says:
Skyler, i agree with your statement that the schools need to bring about more awareness—I don’t know what state you are in but in Texas, last year, it became a law that the secondary level schools have a Domestic Violence Awareness education in the schools—I think it should be a nationwide law—knowledge & awareness empowers us and it needs to start with the kids—I wish Kelsi had been aware—I don’t think she understood her situation and I know I sure didn’t—I was in the dark about him until that assault in December—I sure wish she would have told us more—I could have given her more and better advice—I just feel awful about it–
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skylar says:
Kelsis mom, so what do we do to get the schools involved.
I really want to get rid of the word DV. It is a stupid word that glosses over the true evil that took your daughter and has taken our sense of selves. There is nothing “domestic” about a con artist, a misogynist, a poisoner, murderer, or a slanderer. DV actually gives credibility to the idea that there is a case of love gone bad. Or love with anger issues. That is why we all fell for the lies. And that is why many more people will continue to fall prey to these con artists. T
The word, DV negates the cold, calculating envy at the root of these crimes. Because love cannot envy.
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shabbychic says:
kelsis mom… your cyber friends are thinking of you today.
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jillsmith says:
Kelsi’s Mom,
This topic is close to my heart and I’ve thought of you and your beautiful daughter often, even though I’m a stranger. Even as I type those words, I’m getting very choked up and I have a very difficult time crying at all lately. I’ll make it brief and I won’t find the words to express what I’m feeling, but please know how sincere they are.
I am so, so, so, so very sorry for your loss. There are not words. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry you don’t have your beautiful daughter in your life. As a mother, I cannot even come close to beginning to imagine your pain.
Please also know that reading about your daughter here on LF has helped me to realize I did the right thing by leaving my abusive ex-husband. On down days, I don’t know why, but sometimes I catch myself wondering if he changed or could change. My life feel so completely upside down when I left him that I often wonder about my decision in leaving. Logically, I know it was good, but sometimes my heart hurts and wonders becuase I lost so much (family) in leaving him. However, your story helps me to realize I did the right thing, for me and for my baby boy. Thank you for being courageous and strong by coming on here. It helps people in your daughter’s situation know how bad it can get. I’m so sorry this doesn’t help your daughter though. I’m so, so, so sorry she did not have this advantage of LF and this support system. Please don’t be hard on yourself. It’s none of my business, so I guess you do whatever you need to do in grieving, but I think you are a beautiful soul and were and are an amazing mom. Please know this and believe it. I can see such a warmth and kindness in Kelsi’s eyes, in this picture. That only occurs in people with very good, kind mothers. I think her inner beauty is a testament to you. Thank you for sharing with us.
Again, I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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jillsmith says:
P.S. To those of you who are struggling with children who are Ps or Ss, please don’t think I think you’re less of a mom by what I said to Kelsi’s mom. I don’t think this at all. You are great moms too and showed much love and patience for your children. I know that having a son or daughter who turns out to be a P or an S is a completely different ballgame.
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