Comments on: SSSP meeting highlights: Psychopathy in women http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:17:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: bluejay http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81115 bluejay Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:46:50 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81115 ErinBrock, I hear you! I do PRAY that we end up with terrific men, being great partners. Life is brief, not wanting to waste time on unproductive relationships. ErinBrock,

I hear you! I do PRAY that we end up with terrific men, being great partners. Life is brief, not wanting to waste time on unproductive relationships.

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81114 ErinBrock Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:44:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81114 Melanie: If you want independence from someone, toxic or not.....YOU need to go out and 'get it'. If the person is controlling you financially, become finacially independent of them. Reduce and eliminate ANY control this toxic person has over you. Be in control of your own life! It may take a reduction in lifestyle for a bit.....but the benefits of becoming independent are well worth the temporary reduction. When you don't rely on someone for something......YOU can state your wishes without being on eggshells your gonna be punished. NO CONTACT IS THE ONLY OPTION! Unless you learn to 'play the game'.....and quite frankly.....the expense of playing the game with a parent or someone you don't have to be involved with is HIGH! If you are co-parenting with a spath.....then your in it until kids turn 18....so ya better start learning the 'game'. But.....a parent.....evolve away from them if you are being destroyed by them...... Melanie:
If you want independence from someone, toxic or not…..YOU need to go out and ‘get it’.
If the person is controlling you financially, become finacially independent of them.
Reduce and eliminate ANY control this toxic person has over you. Be in control of your own life!

It may take a reduction in lifestyle for a bit…..but the benefits of becoming independent are well worth the temporary reduction.

When you don’t rely on someone for something……YOU can state your wishes without being on eggshells your gonna be punished.

NO CONTACT IS THE ONLY OPTION!
Unless you learn to ‘play the game’…..and quite frankly…..the expense of playing the game with a parent or someone you don’t have to be involved with is HIGH!

If you are co-parenting with a spath…..then your in it until kids turn 18….so ya better start learning the ‘game’.
But…..a parent…..evolve away from them if you are being destroyed by them……

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81112 ErinBrock Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:32:00 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81112 WOW......go girls!!! Bluejay~ I don't think most of us want the celebate lifestyle.....but after awhile it's like turning back into a virgin again! I've learned to 'value' myself in the sexual way too! Something I never did with spath. I was his to do as he pleased....not what I desired. If I asked for something.....It was a guarentee I wasn NOT going to get it!!! So, at this point, 2.5 years into my 'celebate lesbian' lifestyle.....(I say this because I value my gf's and our relationships.....BUT....don't want to have sex with them). I can confide in my gf's, I can do activities with my gf's, I can cry and share joy with my gf's.....and that is what I want from a male relationship....include sex in the male relationship too. I've got it all, minus the sex.....with my gf's.....so i'm a celebate lesbian! :) One day.....I will meet the man I choose to give the gift of me to.....one who will value ME, cherish ME and partner with ME. Until then......well.....I hope the electricity doesn't go out!! :) WOW……go girls!!!

Bluejay~ I don’t think most of us want the celebate lifestyle…..but after awhile it’s like turning back into a virgin again!
I’ve learned to ‘value’ myself in the sexual way too! Something I never did with spath. I was his to do as he pleased….not what I desired. If I asked for something…..It was a guarentee I wasn NOT going to get it!!!
So, at this point, 2.5 years into my ‘celebate lesbian’ lifestyle…..(I say this because I value my gf’s and our relationships…..BUT….don’t want to have sex with them). I can confide in my gf’s, I can do activities with my gf’s, I can cry and share joy with my gf’s…..and that is what I want from a male relationship….include sex in the male relationship too.
I’ve got it all, minus the sex…..with my gf’s…..so i’m a celebate lesbian! :)
One day…..I will meet the man I choose to give the gift of me to…..one who will value ME, cherish ME and partner with ME.

Until then……well…..I hope the electricity doesn’t go out!! :)

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]]> By: bluejay http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81110 bluejay Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:05:51 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81110 erin1972, I did some computer work, then returned to this site. I don't want to think about THAT because I do miss it, not wanting to be celibate the rest of my life, that's for sure. erin1972,

I did some computer work, then returned to this site. I don’t want to think about THAT because I do miss it, not wanting to be celibate the rest of my life, that’s for sure.

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]]> By: erin1972 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81109 erin1972 Tue, 06 Jul 2010 04:48:26 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81109 bluejay said-"I have to get off"---Dirty!!!! bluejay said-”I have to get off”—Dirty!!!!

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]]> By: melanie http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81107 melanie Tue, 06 Jul 2010 04:32:23 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81107 so u divorce thsoe people..or think of it that way? it seems so hard to get away from family members.....I agree as I dont like to call her 'mother'....but other names....but it's hard as the ties just feel like they're there....I wish I could, but it seems harder as the years go by....my mother/family also has control over me in other forms legally or financially....so tis hard to say goodbye and they have that much more control.....but the worst part is....their continuous abuse....so i get they want to break their victims down, maybe but what pleasure do these sick people get in trying to stop others from succeeding in life, living life, being independent, and they want dependence on them..... aside from being dysfunctional/narcissists is there a real solid reason why these people want tos top others from succeeding doing things, how theyre so successful at it....and why they get away with it---is this just evil.....the worst part is their success at destroying 'you' your happiness, your soul everything....they somehow 'win' and end up ruining you....is their motive based only on being evil....it confuses me because....what kind of people are out to destroy others and nothing else and so jealous that they go out of their way and so determined to do this.....their determination alone makes them so successful at doing this....other than no contact, there has to be a way to deal with these monsters or creeps....and their sick ways and abusive tactics.....for some reason i cant seem to figure it out though and it seems like some impossible feat....why are sp's so successful at destroying trapping their vcitims so u divorce thsoe people..or think of it that way? it seems so hard to get away from family members…..I agree as I dont like to call her ‘mother’….but other names….but it’s hard as the ties just feel like they’re there….I wish I could, but it seems harder as the years go by….my mother/family also has control over me in other forms legally or financially….so tis hard to say goodbye and they have that much more control…..but the worst part is….their continuous abuse….so i get they want to break their victims down, maybe but what pleasure do these sick people get in trying to stop others from succeeding in life, living life, being independent, and they want dependence on them….. aside from being dysfunctional/narcissists is there a real solid reason why these people want tos top others from succeeding doing things, how theyre so successful at it….and why they get away with it—is this just evil…..the worst part is their success at destroying ‘you’ your happiness, your soul everything….they somehow ‘win’ and end up ruining you….is their motive based only on being evil….it confuses me because….what kind of people are out to destroy others and nothing else and so jealous that they go out of their way and so determined to do this…..their determination alone makes them so successful at doing this….other than no contact, there has to be a way to deal with these monsters or creeps….and their sick ways and abusive tactics…..for some reason i cant seem to figure it out though and it seems like some impossible feat….why are sp’s so successful at destroying trapping their vcitims

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]]> By: bluejay http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81106 bluejay Tue, 06 Jul 2010 04:27:12 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81106 Hens, I have to get off, but I agree with erin1972 - you're a great guy. It's unfortunate how our family of origin (and the world at large) can totally screw us up, mistreat us, really damaging our psyche, causing us to spend our adult years trying to undo the harm that was done. We need more people like you in this world. As far as I'm concerned, people should be more careful about what they say, thinking before they speak (referring to your father). Words have power in them, blessing and/or cursing others. Hens,

I have to get off, but I agree with erin1972 – you’re a great guy. It’s unfortunate how our family of origin (and the world at large) can totally screw us up, mistreat us, really damaging our psyche, causing us to spend our adult years trying to undo the harm that was done. We need more people like you in this world. As far as I’m concerned, people should be more careful about what they say, thinking before they speak (referring to your father). Words have power in them, blessing and/or cursing others.

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]]> By: hens http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81104 hens Tue, 06 Jul 2010 04:00:18 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81104 Erin Your so sweet - hey that's one of the nicer thing's my Dad said too me. I am happy to see your progress Erin - it does my heart good when peeps come here and I see them get their life headed in a good direction.. Erin Your so sweet – hey that’s one of the nicer thing’s my Dad said too me. I am happy to see your progress Erin – it does my heart good when peeps come here and I see them get their life headed in a good direction..

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]]> By: erin1972 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81102 erin1972 Tue, 06 Jul 2010 03:55:39 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81102 HENS-that's awful-you're not a mistake! We all love you! HENS-that’s awful-you’re not a mistake! We all love you!

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]]> By: erin1972 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/comment-page-3/#comment-81101 erin1972 Tue, 06 Jul 2010 03:54:05 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/05/02/sssp-meeting-highlights-psychopathy-in-women/#comment-81101 Oxy-you can have some of my rain anytime you want it but I don't know where to send it. A tropical something is also about to come in. It started pouring down three times today while the sun was beating down. NOLA is the only place I know where you need to take your umbrella and sunglasses with you at all times! It rains cats and dogs, stops suddenly and then there is steam coming off the ground and the sun is so bright you can't hardly see. #1 for my list: I QUIT SMOKING TWO YEARS AGO. I did it so the spath would date me. I told myself I would get fat when I did it but it was better than being smoker. Now I can't even STAND to be around the smell-and when spath left, he said-"I guess you're going to start smoking again since I'm leaving"! HAHAHAHAHA BIG LOSER-NEGATIVE!!!!!! I love myself for quitting!! Oxy-you can have some of my rain anytime you want it but I don’t know where to send it. A tropical something is also about to come in. It started pouring down three times today while the sun was beating down. NOLA is the only place I know where you need to take your umbrella and sunglasses with you at all times! It rains cats and dogs, stops suddenly and then there is steam coming off the ground and the sun is so bright you can’t hardly see.

#1 for my list: I QUIT SMOKING TWO YEARS AGO. I did it so the spath would date me. I told myself I would get fat when I did it but it was better than being smoker. Now I can’t even STAND to be around the smell-and when spath left, he said-”I guess you’re going to start smoking again since I’m leaving”! HAHAHAHAHA BIG LOSER-NEGATIVE!!!!!! I love myself for quitting!!

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