Comments on: Help for healing from the devastation of a sociopath http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:17:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: akitameg http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-36311 akitameg Mon, 18 May 2009 10:44:34 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36311 ERinB Thank you so much! thanks also to STARGAZER. I did not have any nightmares last night. Wow. I had taken a mg of Ativan before bed-- maybe that helps? bless you all and please think of me as I am at my new little job! ERinB
Thank you so much!
thanks also to STARGAZER.

I did not have any nightmares last night. Wow. I had taken a mg of Ativan before bed– maybe that helps?

bless you all and please think of me as I am at my new little job!

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]]> By: ErinBrockovich http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-36304 ErinBrockovich Mon, 18 May 2009 08:07:02 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36304 OOOPPPSS...AKITAMEG: I must be tired....It's YOU that's starting the new job.... The above post is for you dear..... Sorry..... Also...keep embracing the dreams....it's processing! OOOPPPSS…AKITAMEG:
I must be tired….It’s YOU that’s starting the new job….
The above post is for you dear…..
Sorry…..
Also…keep embracing the dreams….it’s processing!

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]]> By: ErinBrockovich http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-4/#comment-36303 ErinBrockovich Mon, 18 May 2009 08:04:07 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36303 Dear Learned: I am very proud of you for 'shaking it up' with the new job! It will be a great change for you, that will lead you down a path of new discovery. A good excuse to meet new people and be in a new environment. REMEMBER>.....You can be whoever you want to be....show them your best self and keep that smile on your face. Soon it will be contagious! Good luck, have a wonderful first real day and you will feel great after your accomplishment!!!! HAVE A GREAT MONDAY!!!! Dear Learned:
I am very proud of you for ‘shaking it up’ with the new job!
It will be a great change for you, that will lead you down a path of new discovery.
A good excuse to meet new people and be in a new environment.
REMEMBER>…..You can be whoever you want to be….show them your best self and keep that smile on your face. Soon it will be contagious!
Good luck, have a wonderful first real day and you will feel great after your accomplishment!!!!
HAVE A GREAT MONDAY!!!!

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]]> By: Stargazer http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36299 Stargazer Mon, 18 May 2009 06:14:14 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36299 Akitameg, Stay strong! Congratulations on starting a new job! I think you'll find the distraction very welcome. I believe, as everyone else says, that you will get through this if you can just stick it out. Akitameg,
Stay strong! Congratulations on starting a new job! I think you’ll find the distraction very welcome. I believe, as everyone else says, that you will get through this if you can just stick it out.

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]]> By: shabbychic2 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36284 shabbychic2 Mon, 18 May 2009 01:08:32 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36284 akitameg: no, I missed seeing that Larry King show, dang it! akitameg: no, I missed seeing that Larry King show, dang it!

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]]> By: akitameg http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36266 akitameg Sun, 17 May 2009 23:23:32 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36266 Learn the Lesson-- what a great post to me from you. Thank you. I hate that it feels that when I have these nightmares/dreams about him at night, that I am back to ground zero. But maybe the is not true. Learn the Lesson–
what a great post to me from you. Thank you.
I hate that it feels that when I have these nightmares/dreams about him at night, that I am back to ground zero. But maybe the is not true.

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]]> By: akitameg http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36264 akitameg Sun, 17 May 2009 23:19:00 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36264 Shabby-- thanks Any chance you saw Larry King last night? If not-- they may reply it tonight and it was AWESOME. About Karma and thoughts and ego and all of what you have mentioned. or see if you can find it on internet. Shabby– thanks Any chance you saw Larry King last night? If not– they may reply it tonight and it was AWESOME. About Karma and thoughts and ego and all of what you have mentioned.
or see if you can find it on internet.

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]]> By: Tilly http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36247 Tilly Sun, 17 May 2009 21:14:54 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36247 James": I lost a stone in 6 weeks when we first split up. Than I went back to normal after three months. Now I'm piling it on! James”:
I lost a stone in 6 weeks when we first split up. Than I went back to normal after three months. Now I’m piling it on!

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]]> By: learnthelesson http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36242 learnthelesson Sun, 17 May 2009 20:38:37 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36242 Akitameg -- Ok ...the good news....CONGRATULATIONS YOUR THYROID TEST CAME BACK NORMAL. THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN ONE MORE THING TO PUT YOU OVER THE EDGE...I ASSUME MAYBE HE DID OTHER BLOODWORK AS WELL? AND IF SO THAT ALL CAME BACK NORMAL TOO?! THIS IS GREAT REASON TO CELEBRATE..OUR HEALTH IS FIRST AND FOREMOST AND ITS ONE LESS THING FOR YOU TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH ON YOUR SHOULDERS...We have to get you to a better place soon though, or this will start to take a toll on your health...and we wont be able to point to the S!!!! It falls on us to make sure we stay healthy, eat healthy, regain our strength and our way AGAIN. Secondly, NEW JOB TOMORROW! Way to go! I know the amount of pay was a concern for you, but for right now I personally think this IS THE BEST STEP AND DIRECTION FOR YOU. IM PROUD OF THIS MOVE!!!! Its so hard for us to get back on our feet and get even one foot in the door let alone what you have accomplished with two feet in the door, and training is always a drag, but somehow theres always something new to learn or refresh ourselves with. The new meds...TOWANDA...you feel improvement...TRIPLETOWANDA... Can your dentist make a mouth guard for TMJ?? Much love and positive thoughts and continued strength to you from me...sometimes its traumatic for us to step out of the comfort of the hell we are in...that sounds so messed up...but it makes sense...often when we try to get out of it...move on...we are subconsiously drawn back to it (the place/stage/state of mind of "cant believe what he did, or simply reliving it everyday stuck in it unknowingly "comfortably numb" for us... its the point where it now becomes 100 percent up to us to cut the cord from the past and start taking breaths of fresh air in our future...your cord is so close to being cut....new meds...clean bill of health...new job...unknown.... or staying in the "comfort" of grief and solace and hurt and pain...when you are ready to cut and leap forward you are going to blow us all away leaps and bounds....I just know it!!! Your journey has been long and god awful...your healing and learning and growing has been a challenge... your future is going to be skys the limit...its truly in your hands, when you are ready to get back to being YOU at your best! YOU ARE DOING IT! Just have to make the choices now, to choose the future not the past...when you are ready!! xoxo Akitameg –

Ok …the good news….CONGRATULATIONS YOUR THYROID TEST CAME BACK NORMAL. THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN ONE MORE THING TO PUT YOU OVER THE EDGE…I ASSUME MAYBE HE DID OTHER BLOODWORK AS WELL? AND IF SO THAT ALL CAME BACK NORMAL TOO?! THIS IS GREAT REASON TO CELEBRATE..OUR HEALTH IS FIRST AND FOREMOST AND ITS ONE LESS THING FOR YOU TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH ON YOUR SHOULDERS…We have to get you to a better place soon though, or this will start to take a toll on your health…and we wont be able to point to the S!!!! It falls on us to make sure we stay healthy, eat healthy, regain our strength and our way AGAIN.

Secondly, NEW JOB TOMORROW! Way to go! I know the amount of pay was a concern for you, but for right now I personally think this IS THE BEST STEP AND DIRECTION FOR YOU. IM PROUD OF THIS MOVE!!!! Its so hard for us to get back on our feet and get even one foot in the door let alone what you have accomplished with two feet in the door, and training is always a drag, but somehow theres always something new to learn or refresh ourselves with.

The new meds…TOWANDA…you feel improvement…TRIPLETOWANDA… Can your dentist make a mouth guard for TMJ??

Much love and positive thoughts and continued strength to you from me…sometimes its traumatic for us to step out of the comfort of the hell we are in…that sounds so messed up…but it makes sense…often when we try to get out of it…move on…we are subconsiously drawn back to it (the place/stage/state of mind of “cant believe what he did, or simply reliving it everyday stuck in it unknowingly “comfortably numb” for us… its the point where it now becomes 100 percent up to us to cut the cord from the past and start taking breaths of fresh air in our future…your cord is so close to being cut….new meds…clean bill of health…new job…unknown…. or staying in the “comfort” of grief and solace and hurt and pain…when you are ready to cut and leap forward you are going to blow us all away leaps and bounds….I just know it!!! Your journey has been long and god awful…your healing and learning and growing has been a challenge… your future is going to be skys the limit…its truly in your hands, when you are ready to get back to being YOU at your best!

YOU ARE DOING IT! Just have to make the choices now, to choose the future not the past…when you are ready!! xoxo

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]]> By: justabouthealed http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/comment-page-3/#comment-36240 justabouthealed Sun, 17 May 2009 20:19:27 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2008/02/25/help-for-healing-from-the-devastation-of-a-sociopath/#comment-36240 Another technique....our brain is searching for an answer about our encounter. That is part of our pain. Accepting the reality of who the P/S/N was and is. But we can give our brain another puzzle to work on. Just say a question to yourself a couple of times a day, then forget it. Keep doing it every day. Soon you brain will start delivering answers to you, without you thinking about it. THAT will become an "intrusive thought". Lately I've been asking "Why am I so happy?" ....because I was feeling a bit down. And you know what? Intrusive thoughts are popping into my head every now and then about why I AM happy! I love my pets, I love the lilacs, I love the hugs I get, etc..... Another technique….our brain is searching for an answer about our encounter. That is part of our pain. Accepting the reality of who the P/S/N was and is.

But we can give our brain another puzzle to work on. Just say a question to yourself a couple of times a day, then forget it. Keep doing it every day. Soon you brain will start delivering answers to you, without you thinking about it. THAT will become an “intrusive thought”. Lately I’ve been asking “Why am I so happy?” ….because I was feeling a bit down. And you know what? Intrusive thoughts are popping into my head every now and then about why I AM happy! I love my pets, I love the lilacs, I love the hugs I get, etc…..

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