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Thanks for your explanation of the sexuality of the socio in this article. I was involved with a socio that stated he was constantly aroused by me and wanted me all the time. He talked constantly about how “hot” I made him and how “hot” we were for each other. I believe it was manipulation to build up my confidence to play out the role and continually be available to give him the sex he wanted. It was total control and exploitation.

Like Mato’s account of McGreevey, my ex socio omitted details and left out important things. I saw it as pure selfishness, because he was only concerned with himself knowing details of what was going on, not with my understanding of daily details, social gatherings, etc.

He fed my ego to create a supply of sex for himself. He had a lust/sex addiction. Mostly porn and masterbation. I think having sex with alot of women was over the top for him. He was so in love with himself he preferred his hand and a video. He also had a sexual dysfunction which he was in denial about. He thought himself to be an excellent lover, pleasing every woman he’d been with. He couldn’t orgasm inside of a woman. He had to masterbate. He told me one time that male homosexuals made him nervous because they looked at him like they knew him. He seemed straight and had desire for women only, but with a socio, you never know. He needed attention from everybody. This guy had more friends than any girl I’ve ever known. Most hetero men don’t have tons of male friends. The men I know are lucky if they have 1 close buddy that they actually can share their feelings and life with.

My socio gave up on me because I wasn’t the low-lying fruit that remained easy to control and exploit. I gave him reality and truth and laughed at the things he said and told him he was crazy. Guess what? He moved away to another state and found another girlfriend who he currently controls and exploits.

I am not mocking other victims of sociopaths. I, too, was sucked in and manipulated and used. But when I figured it out, I gave him reality and he split. They will not stay with someone that makes their game difficult! It’s very easy for them to leave a relationship because they truly do not love. I had an additional benefit of his anger. It was explosive. When I gave him too much reality and truth he would rage violently and this created conflict between us. He got tired of blowing up in anger all the time due to the conflict that he said I constantly created, so he left for low-lying fruit.

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This was a really interesting *NEW* idea that I’ll have to ponder further! My psychopath was certainly somewhat “wooden” in many ways (in hindsight) and now I’m wondering if he even enjoyed the sex.

Also… it was only relatively recently that I played your video of the speech your ex-husband made at your wedding. The Australian accent may certainly have helped, but the whole delivery was *so* *so* uncannily reminiscent of the way mine spoke when he was lying his head off.

Incidentally, are there any other Australians who are signed up here? (Please raise your hands.)

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