Ah, what a shame.

Mine may do the reformed convict preacher, but I doubt it, he is too much into the criminal lifestyle to pull that one off. Yours hasn’t got the criminal patina yet so maybe he can just be SAINTLY enough to pull it of.

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OxD, both of the spath sons in our lives are prime examples of extreme sociopathy and grandiosity. The spath son in my life truly and honestly believes that he has all of the answers and all of the control, especially since he’s become involved in a religious organization. He can talk the talk and STILL bilk people for all they have with impugnity and deliberate malice.

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Welcome to LF, your comments are very thought provoking.

My opinion (for what it is worth as the daughter of a Very Narcissistic P and as the mother of his Clone, my P-son who is also very Narcissistic) I believe both of these men who were/are extremely smart, depended on external proof that they are better & smarter than others. In my sperm donor’s case it was a loud mouth, instilling fear or disgust in others, and money, and living a life openly that HE THOUGHT (mostly wrongly) that would make others ENVY him. When he finally did get the money to afford the THINGS he did them in such an overblown way that most people didn’t envy him, but instead were repulsed by him and his behavior. Even though he was extremely wealthy he had the “class” of Larry Flint.

My P son, started a criminal career early, but was very unsuccessful at it and has been inside prison almost continually since he was 18, he is 38 now. Yet, he is apparently convinced he is the smartest crook in the world and even when a plan fails, he doesn’t take it personally it is someone else’s fault it failed, so he does not ever perceive he LOST or FAILED.

My P son definitely seems to have an UNSHAKABLE sense of HIGH IMPORTANCE, and so did my sperm donor. Both apparently Wanted to be the center of attention in any situation from morning until night.

I think the problem is though with psychopaths is us trying to put mental and emotional motives to their actions. Even if they are Mentally consciously AWARE of what their emotional motive is (and I’m not sure they are) They are such liars that I don’t think we can believe a word out of their mouth. So therefore we look at what they DO (and that includes part of what they say) and using OUR brains, try to find out their motive. I’m not sure it works all that well….it is like trying to put human thoughts into a dog’s brain….sometimes you can see the action, but most of the time you look at a dog and wonder what it is thinking.

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1 a good opinion of oneself, self-confidence, self-assurance, self-respect, self-reliance, secure
2 an unduly high regard for oneself, conceit, vanity, egotism, self-admiration, self-importance

Many people confuse these two definitions and assume that it is possible to have too much self-esteem or that high self-esteem equates with conceit and self-importance.

I help people to raise their self esteem, but I do not help people to be conceited or vain.

I believe your assertion that the pursuit of power is the prime motivator of sociopaths and con artists. I also believe that this pursuit of power is an attempt to ‘push others down’ so that they can seem more powerful than others. Yet nobody with high self-esteem would want to pursue power because they would know they already have it and that they are just as powerful and valuable as everyone else. Thus it is my assertion that these people are hiding a deep fear that they are not good enough and so they constantly attempt to gain social ‘proof’ that they are ‘better’ than other people by conning them.

I would say that the sense of entitlement does not come with unshakable high self esteem and grandiosity, but instead with unshakable high self-importance and grandiosity. The two are not the same.

I think that if you look at it from this perspective, it will answer your final question.

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Hey “not fred”: so, if so many people and government officials are corrupt (which is true), does this mean anyone can con you out of some money and you would take it ok? Let me know so I can get some money out of you. Society this and society that… I understand your point and I know it is true.. but still, it does not justify the actions made by people like Brito.

I can understand he had to lie to be able to get a decent job, but the consequences of his actions did create victims. He is just another puppet of the corrupt society we live in. I do not look high upon him at all. He is just one more out there that lies, cheats and steals. He also seems to enjoy and take pride on what he thinks he has accomplished. I do have to admit it is funny that he actually got a job as a priest and married a couple.

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I just gotta say, this Fred guy is a joke. He uses everything as an opportunity to plug himself. I knew takes22fight’s postings were his before I read Donna’s confirmation.

I don’t want to add to his publicity by adding this post, I just want to say that I did a websearch of his address to see if indeed he lived on some prestigious “ranch,” or if it was another inflated idea of his to make him appear more successful. From the aerial view, Arnold Palmer Ct. in Las Cruces is indeed off of Dripping Springs Road, but these homes are all closely situated on postage-stamp-sized yards, and it is definitely the ‘burbs. Did you mean “Dripping Springs Ranch-styled House,” Fred?

You know, I think I’m getting better at discerning who’s a con artist after 2 experiences I’ve had in the last year and a half–one a business dealing, one personal. I notice that Fred compares himself to Frank Abagnale, which reminds me of other con artists I personally know….They always use relationships with decent people in their lives or people they can compare themselves to as proof of their character or credibility. They don’t build that character or credibility themselves, they borrow the glow off of others in their smoke and mirrors routine.

Thanks, everybody, for teaching me from your experiences.

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One more point… all of you write with a sense of hate and vindictiveness. Beating your chests like you are all mightier than thou. Any reader will think that you are all very hateful and as this guy says… “Scorned Women.” You actually prove it by HOW you write. And the word scorned is a word that I use lightly.

He, on the other hand actually writes with some common sense. While I DO NOT support him in the least or his past, he certainly comes across as smart, articulate and well rounded. He is by far the most accomplished Con Artist I have ever seen in my 23 years with the Los Angeles Sheriff’s Department. I saw him on Dateline. He is very smooth.

So the point that I make is what you all write is just feeding HIS fire. If you stop and move on… you prevent him from feeding on the attention YOU give him.

Many of the comments that you all write are not quite accurate. There is nothing that anyone of us can do to stop a man like this. Only law enforcement can. And from what I was able to confirm from confidential records that I have access to, his last felony conviction was in June 2002 in Los Angeles Superior Court. That mean that he is seven years “clean.” What he has done since is nothing that violates the law. He can write all the resumes he wants and use any name he wants. It is not a crime.

Seven years without another arrest or conviction is a long “clean” stretch for a career criminal. Most criminals don’t last 90 days after release from prison. Is it even possible that he is on the road to recovery? Time will tell. So far seven years clean is a pretty good run.

The best thing that we can do is stop writing or talking about him. This does more to kill his ego than anything. He is a publicity hound.

I spoke to is Publicist Karen Ammond in New Jersey. She is still his publicist, and will return to work for him when his book(s) get published. That is right BOOKS… he has three coming out, and a seminar tour across the U.S. and the Motion Picture. So it seems like this guy is going to be doing quite well financially despite what people say about him. It only makes his story even more interesting.

As for running for State Senate. He can legally do it. He has voting rights and in New Mexico, California and other states it is legal for a felon to run for public office. If he runs, he not only gets local publicity… but national as well. Just what he is craving.

I am a Criminal Analyst for the Los Angeles Sheriff’s Department, I have a pretty solid ability to track this guy… so I know what I am talking about.

One more point I wold like to recommend. If you are going to continue to write about him, which I know many of you will, be sure to write not from your emotions but from your brain. All of you come off as very angry and sour, and any reader like me will just think that you are all kind of ill as we as he is. Use your MIND not your emotions. That is what makes this guy come off so well. He uses his mind not his emotions. He wins… you lose when you come off sounding (as he says) “crazies.” It is just my observation. Take if for what it is worth.

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Nope. I don’t need counseling. I hate crime and don’t think much of people who victimize others, especially in the manner which Brito has chosen to conduct himself for what looks like the vast majority of his life. Normal law abiding citizens *should* feel the same way. My previous statement was based on his words and his criminal records, which are fact, not gossip.

My energy will be spent changing the laws and having them made harsher and making sure people like him stay locked up – he shouldn’t be out of jail, ever, period.

Don’t spend so much time looking in the mirror that you aren’t looking over your shoulder Brito because if you commit crime again, you can expect I’ll be there campaigning and yelling to make sure you’re locked up for the maximum and
by then the punishment may already be harsher.

We need to join together to lobby the legislatures on a local and federal level to take these guys out of society for good. They don’t reform, they just run away…and pretend to be priests or ultimate fighters…trying to escape getting caught.

Now if Brito were lobbying to get laws made harsher, and giving ALL the rest of his time and money and energy to repaying every cent to every one he stole from, conned, lied to, etc, etc.

Also, he tries to say we all make mistakes. Multiple Felony Crimes go far beyond “mistakes”. A mistake is forgetting to put a stamp on an envelope, not stealing a car or getting up in front of a church and marrying a couple when you ARENT a priest and obviously Brito is not reformed since he can’t differentiate between the definition of a “common mistake” and committing a crime.

I also saw a comment that he posted on the internet saying “Well I’ve never been convicted of a violent crime” – the same type of thing, trying to minimize it. He doesn’t get it that what he did is wrong. He’s speaking out just to get attention. He’s not reformed in the least and doubtful that he would seek counseling since he has a grandiose ego where he thinks he’s a qualified counselor by osmosis.

I recently sat in the police station and listened to a different sociopath on a speaker phone with a detective. The detective was looking at the sociopath’s criminal record and stated, “You were arrested on X date for X crime”. The sociopath, unaware several of his victims were listening in, proceeded to actually DENY to the police officer that he had been arrested. After a several minute exchange where the detective kept repeating “You were arrested” and “I am looking at your criminal record” – finally he admits he was arrested by saying “fine, if you want to call it that”.

Then, the sociopath, who had just called one of the victims and threatened to kill her, proceeds to explain how HE is the victim and starts to tell all kinds of lies, which are blatantly obvious expecially since the victim just put a stack of documentation proving otherwise in front of the detective.

They are simply mentally ill and they should be locked up to keep them from hurting us. The legal system needs to wake up and start protecting us better and these loopholes that are being exploited by criminals have GOT to be closed.

And no, we’re not going to go “look in the mirror” so that we won’t see you reaching into our wallet to steal our cash.

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