Comments on: ASK DR. LEEDOM: Why does it seem I know more than the experts? http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:06:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: OxDrover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-77334 OxDrover Thu, 27 May 2010 03:01:51 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-77334 Dear Hope4, I think many of us have wished our P-ath would die! Believe me I wished my son was the one dead and the girl he killed was in jail for his murder. I would gladly ahve traded places with the girl's mom. That's a horrible way to feel, but acknowledging it is a first step. Forgive yourself for it, your reaction is normal--gosh, you're HUMAN! LOL Dear Hope4,

I think many of us have wished our P-ath would die! Believe me I wished my son was the one dead and the girl he killed was in jail for his murder. I would gladly ahve traded places with the girl’s mom. That’s a horrible way to feel, but acknowledging it is a first step. Forgive yourself for it, your reaction is normal–gosh, you’re HUMAN! LOL

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]]> By: Hopeforjoy http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-77328 Hopeforjoy Thu, 27 May 2010 00:53:03 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-77328 I just read this post from Dr. Leedom and wanted to comment on it. The fact that my spathy always felt happy, even when I was miserable, was weird. He would tell me that he had no reason to ever feel sad because he had everything he wanted. Yep, you might think, "wow, they must have a wonderful relationship", boy, that is so far from the truth. He fact that he didn't show any emotion when close family members passed away or was sad in anyway when I tried to commit suicide, just wanted to send me to ye olde mental institution, but still he was happy. The only reason he is sad (maybe an act) right now is because he is losing his caregiver. He has a prostate problem and I think he wants me around to care for him, and he likes having his son around because his son hasn't figured out what he is. I couldn't figure out why spathy husband could always tell jokes and laugh even when we were fighting. He was spathy happy because he has no conscious. Nope. None. Nada. That part of his brain shriveled up to nothing. It's dead. Here is something I want to share but am embarassed about, I hope you don't judge me too harshly. He went on his motorcycle yesterday and I was hoping he would get in an accident and die. I wanted it to happen and felt let down when he got home. This is not something I would normally wish on my worst enemy but I did wish it upon him. Thinking I should say a little prayer for forgiveness because that was pretty bad. I have some healing water from the Lady of Lourdes well in France, this may help. Oh lordy. Maybe I would have been spathy happy if it happened? Yikes! I just read this post from Dr. Leedom and wanted to comment on it. The fact that my spathy always felt happy, even when I was miserable, was weird. He would tell me that he had no reason to ever feel sad because he had everything he wanted. Yep, you might think, “wow, they must have a wonderful relationship”, boy, that is so far from the truth. He fact that he didn’t show any emotion when close family members passed away or was sad in anyway when I tried to commit suicide, just wanted to send me to ye olde mental institution, but still he was happy.

The only reason he is sad (maybe an act) right now is because he is losing his caregiver. He has a prostate problem and I think he wants me around to care for him, and he likes having his son around because his son hasn’t figured out what he is.

I couldn’t figure out why spathy husband could always tell jokes and laugh even when we were fighting. He was spathy happy because he has no conscious. Nope. None. Nada. That part of his brain shriveled up to nothing. It’s dead.

Here is something I want to share but am embarassed about, I hope you don’t judge me too harshly. He went on his motorcycle yesterday and I was hoping he would get in an accident and die. I wanted it to happen and felt let down when he got home. This is not something I would normally wish on my worst enemy but I did wish it upon him. Thinking I should say a little prayer for forgiveness because that was pretty bad. I have some healing water from the Lady of Lourdes well in France, this may help. Oh lordy.

Maybe I would have been spathy happy if it happened? Yikes!

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]]> By: jeannie812 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-68500 jeannie812 Fri, 26 Mar 2010 04:46:16 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-68500 Hi people, Hi Hislastdance, yes the damage is devastating. It lingers on and resurfaces in day to day relationships. Yes, your doctor friend/husband does sound scary. I'd hate to end up in front of that doctor. I'll bet he demeans his patients. Hi Oxy, I will read on! Hi Kim, isn't it a bummer that we could end up with a record because of these pieces of shit. They are so irritating that they would piss off the pope. Yet, the police see that you were in the wrong. hmmm..... It ain't right. Erinbrock Thank you for the hello. Thank you. Hi people,

Hi Hislastdance, yes the damage is devastating. It lingers on and resurfaces in day to day relationships. Yes, your doctor friend/husband does sound scary. I’d hate to end up in front of that doctor. I’ll bet he demeans his patients.

Hi Oxy, I will read on!

Hi Kim, isn’t it a bummer that we could end up with a record because of these pieces of shit. They are so irritating that they would piss off the pope. Yet, the police see that you were in the wrong. hmmm….. It ain’t right.

Erinbrock Thank you for the hello. Thank you.

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]]> By: neveragain http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-68403 neveragain Thu, 25 Mar 2010 18:26:52 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-68403 HISLASTDANCE: Thanks for your post....I think it got buried, no one ever means to ignore someone here. It is something to really celebrate that he PAID, but yes, it still leave you devastated. Less than a year is not long after. I'm 2 years, 2 months from the last phone conversation, and 2 years, 10 months from the last physical contact....and still haven't quite shook the last little pieces of him from my daily mind, but I'm surely 500% better than I was crying every hour!!!! I never cry now, haven't for about a year I guess. His birthday came and went without me realizing it...so yes, progress. Just takes time. The man I was hooked up with was a doctor too, and it makes you sick, doesn't it? HISLASTDANCE: Thanks for your post….I think it got buried, no one ever means to ignore someone here. It is something to really celebrate that he PAID, but yes, it still leave you devastated. Less than a year is not long after. I’m 2 years, 2 months from the last phone conversation, and 2 years, 10 months from the last physical contact….and still haven’t quite shook the last little pieces of him from my daily mind, but I’m surely 500% better than I was crying every hour!!!! I never cry now, haven’t for about a year I guess. His birthday came and went without me realizing it…so yes, progress. Just takes time. The man I was hooked up with was a doctor too, and it makes you sick, doesn’t it?

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]]> By: OxDrover http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-68395 OxDrover Thu, 25 Mar 2010 17:10:10 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-68395 Dear Jeannie, Also glad you are here. Keep reading, going back through the archives and read every article. There are a LOT OF THEM but each one has another grain or two of truth that will resonate with YOU. Help you get and stay safe, teach you to see the red flags early on, and to learn to set and hold on to boundaries so you are safe from "the next one" you meet! KNOWLEDGE=POWER Again, welcome! and God bless! Oxy Dear Jeannie,

Also glad you are here. Keep reading, going back through the archives and read every article. There are a LOT OF THEM but each one has another grain or two of truth that will resonate with YOU. Help you get and stay safe, teach you to see the red flags early on, and to learn to set and hold on to boundaries so you are safe from “the next one” you meet! KNOWLEDGE=POWER

Again, welcome! and God bless! Oxy

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]]> By: kim frederick http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-68383 kim frederick Thu, 25 Mar 2010 13:32:26 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-68383 Hi, Jeannie. I agree, better to see them coming than ever let them in your house. I couldn't get rid of mine, either.. he wouldn't go. He'd take the window unit out and climb into my house while I was working. Unfortunately, I did lose my temper and strike him, and I went to jail...It's on my record forever. I'm glad you're here....Good advise about not having any kind of supply to give them. Hi, Jeannie. I agree, better to see them coming than ever let them in your house. I couldn’t get rid of mine, either.. he wouldn’t go. He’d take the window unit out and climb into my house while I was working.
Unfortunately, I did lose my temper and strike him, and I went to jail…It’s on my record forever.

I’m glad you’re here….Good advise about not having any kind of supply to give them.

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]]> By: ErinBrock http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-68380 ErinBrock Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:57:57 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-68380 Jeanie812: Great insight. Glad you found LF......there is so much info here in the various articles and postings. I'm glad you made the decision to leave the various toxic men in your life and it appears your learning about the 'why' you are attractedt to this type.....to avoid it in the future......friends or lovers. When you look into it....you really get an eye opener..... Again, welcome to LF..... Jeanie812:
Great insight.
Glad you found LF……there is so much info here in the various articles and postings.
I’m glad you made the decision to leave the various toxic men in your life and it appears your learning about the ‘why’ you are attractedt to this type…..to avoid it in the future……friends or lovers.
When you look into it….you really get an eye opener…..

Again, welcome to LF…..

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]]> By: jeannie812 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-68375 jeannie812 Thu, 25 Mar 2010 05:48:40 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-68375 Hi I'm new here. I clicked on a link posted on a domestic violence website that I frequent, and I found this. Tonight I was reading everything I could find about sociopaths, and I couldn't resist posting. I think every man I have been with is one. They looked to hook up quickly with me. They lied, cheated, yelled at me, stole my money. blamed me. etc. Yet, they hid this behavior from others. Of course they couldn't hide it forever. The hardest thing was me figuring out how to leave them. It is not easy cause these sociopaths are scared little children looking for someone to take care of them. When dealing with a male sociopath. Cut off the sex, the money, dinners, no kisses, no hugs, no I love you's. Nothing for him. When you see him coming, lock the door and pull the blinds. Make sure he sees you pulling the blinds so he gets the "hint". If he doesn't get that hint, put up a "no trespassing" sign. I would say contacting the police is last resort cause your house will be labeled "a problem house", cause if you hook up with one sociopath, you are likely to hook up with another. Too many calls to police and they are ready to take YOU to jail. And, your abuser will figure out that he can call the police on you. I had this happen to me. I told him to move out. He showed me. He refused to move, he said I can't make him move. He called the police on me. He said I was beating him up. The thing that got me was he was so bored while talking to 911. He stated in a bored tone that I'm beating him up. The cops came and wanted to arrest me. The cops said that if they get called back that I would go to jail. I said I can't control this man from getting on the phone and calling 911. They repeated that I would go to jail if they get called back. He called the police again. I didn't go to jail, but the police kept saying I would go if they get called back. They saw the problem. It was me. I was the common denominator in this equation. I let this guy in my house and now the police have to waste their time with his 911 calls. Female sociopaths. I know two of those. They are very happy in their parasitic lifestyle. They find it's not a parasites best interest to kill it's host, when a slow feed will sustain the parasite for years. And, these women are fun to be with. They have loads of loyal friends. I think it is the male sociopath that will kill you emotionally until it takes your health and you are dead. Hi I’m new here.

I clicked on a link posted on a domestic violence website that I frequent, and I found this.

Tonight I was reading everything I could find about sociopaths, and I couldn’t resist posting.

I think every man I have been with is one. They looked to hook up quickly with me. They lied, cheated, yelled at me, stole my money. blamed me. etc.

Yet, they hid this behavior from others.

Of course they couldn’t hide it forever.

The hardest thing was me figuring out how to leave them. It is not easy cause these sociopaths are scared little children looking for someone to take care of them.

When dealing with a male sociopath. Cut off the sex, the money, dinners, no kisses, no hugs, no I love you’s. Nothing for him. When you see him coming, lock the door and pull the blinds. Make sure he sees you pulling the blinds so he gets the “hint”.

If he doesn’t get that hint, put up a “no trespassing” sign. I would say contacting the police is last resort cause your house will be labeled “a problem house”, cause if you hook up with one sociopath, you are likely to hook up with another. Too many calls to police and they are ready to take YOU to jail.

And, your abuser will figure out that he can call the police on you. I had this happen to me. I told him to move out. He showed me. He refused to move, he said I can’t make him move. He called the police on me. He said I was beating him up. The thing that got me was he was so bored while talking to 911. He stated in a bored tone that I’m beating him up. The cops came and wanted to arrest me. The cops said that if they get called back that I would go to jail. I said I can’t control this man from getting on the phone and calling 911. They repeated that I would go to jail if they get called back.

He called the police again. I didn’t go to jail, but the police kept saying I would go if they get called back.

They saw the problem. It was me. I was the common denominator in this equation. I let this guy in my house and now the police have to waste their time with his 911 calls.

Female sociopaths.

I know two of those.

They are very happy in their parasitic lifestyle. They find it’s not a parasites best interest to kill it’s host, when a slow feed will sustain the parasite for years. And, these women are fun to be with. They have loads of loyal friends.

I think it is the male sociopath that will kill you emotionally until it takes your health and you are dead.

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]]> By: findingmyselfagain http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-1846 findingmyselfagain Wed, 16 Jan 2008 06:06:03 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-1846 Change06 - I too was where you are. I went from when I met him - a confident, successful, attractive, independent woman to a jealous, depressed, internally obsessed, worried and have crazy trying to figure him out, figure us out. Everything was so One extreme to the Other that you cant figure out which way is up in the end. The hardest part now is getting over the resentment that the Sociopath walks away feeling satisfied and mighty proud that they conquered again. For me, it has helped immensely reading and writing every day on this site. It reinforces well, what your subconscious mind already knows. Now you have to train your conscious mind to be in agreement. When you have feelings of driving by or calling... try to remember that is what HE wants - he wants that control over you and wants you to crawl back. Dont give it! You are only taking away your self respect and its time to reclaim it. Sometimes we have to fake our way through things until they feel real. Even though you want to call really badly, say outloud to yourself that you do not want to call. Call your friends or family if only to distract yourself from your temporary craving. Or what I do, log on to this site and begin reading again. You wont run out of stories of people in pain and healing just like you. Its a rotten form of ending of a relationship - so very unfair - but you are the one in charge of saving you so take ownership of that. I think we all feel we almost were with the same man - take comfort in that.. that this group truly understands. Its babysteps but it does come in time, more peace. Change06 – I too was where you are. I went from when I met him – a confident, successful, attractive, independent woman to a jealous, depressed, internally obsessed, worried and have crazy trying to figure him out, figure us out. Everything was so One extreme to the Other that you cant figure out which way is up in the end. The hardest part now is getting over the resentment that the Sociopath walks away feeling satisfied and mighty proud that they conquered again. For me, it has helped immensely reading and writing every day on this site. It reinforces well, what your subconscious mind already knows. Now you have to train your conscious mind to be in agreement. When you have feelings of driving by or calling… try to remember that is what HE wants – he wants that control over you and wants you to crawl back. Dont give it! You are only taking away your self respect and its time to reclaim it. Sometimes we have to fake our way through things until they feel real. Even though you want to call really badly, say outloud to yourself that you do not want to call. Call your friends or family if only to distract yourself from your temporary craving. Or what I do, log on to this site and begin reading again. You wont run out of stories of people in pain and healing just like you. Its a rotten form of ending of a relationship – so very unfair – but you are the one in charge of saving you so take ownership of that. I think we all feel we almost were with the same man – take comfort in that.. that this group truly understands. Its babysteps but it does come in time, more peace.

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]]> By: change06 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/comment-page-1/#comment-1843 change06 Wed, 16 Jan 2008 02:08:09 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/05/02/ask-dr-leedom-why-does-it-seem-i-know-more-than-the-experts/#comment-1843 I am worried that my looking for answers is another way to understand him. And in my own sick mind I think I can figure another way to "get to him". It is so hard for me....I too have the classic unresolved childhood issues. I believe my Father is a Narcissis, I then married a Narcissis, Divorced him and moved onto a sociopath! My additional trouble is I have a problem crying...I cant. So I get sick and do crazy things, like calling and drive by the house. Only one drive by ...but many many calls.. some enraged, some funny, some just saying goodbye. As recent as this evening. No answer from him. Another depressed, anxiety driven, sleepless night for me. My friends dont fully understand. All I do is try to figure out why I allowed this AGAIN, why I love him, and why I cant get it the F**K together. He is a conning, manipulative, verbally abusive, disrespectful, inconsiderate, lying A-HOLE. But so adorable on brief moments....that I hold onto, that sucks me back. I am insane because I justify by saying if I get him back one more time I will leave him and get satisfaction. You know "beat him at his own game." I actually tried that madness this time around but he got me....He got me good. Now I am emotionally unstable, physically looking like crap and mentally drained. Anyone want to post an email address I would appreciate that. I am worried that my looking for answers is another way to understand him. And in my own sick mind I think I can figure another way to “get to him”. It is so hard for me….I too have the classic unresolved childhood issues. I believe my Father is a Narcissis, I then married a Narcissis, Divorced him and moved onto a sociopath! My additional trouble is I have a problem crying…I cant. So I get sick and do crazy things, like calling and drive by the house. Only one drive by …but many many calls.. some enraged, some funny, some just saying goodbye. As recent as this evening. No answer from him. Another depressed, anxiety driven, sleepless night for me. My friends dont fully understand. All I do is try to figure out why I allowed this AGAIN, why I love him, and why I cant get it the F**K together. He is a conning, manipulative, verbally abusive, disrespectful, inconsiderate, lying A-HOLE. But so adorable on brief moments….that I hold onto, that sucks me back. I am insane because I justify by saying if I get him back one more time I will leave him and get satisfaction. You know “beat him at his own game.” I actually tried that madness this time around but he got me….He got me good. Now I am emotionally unstable, physically looking like crap and mentally drained. Anyone want to post an email address I would appreciate that.

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