Comments on: ASK DR. LEEDOM: I don’t understand why I still care http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:17:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: one_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-101212 one_step_at_a_time Mon, 10 Jan 2011 01:27:31 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-101212 one step is fine. :) pressure relieved, spath reviled. :) one step is fine. :)

pressure relieved, spath reviled. :)

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]]> By: lesson learned http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-101208 lesson learned Mon, 10 Jan 2011 01:01:09 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-101208 One LOL!!!! Are you okay now,CHica? I hope you feel better??? Your ex spath sounds like a REAL winner!! NOT!!!!!!!!!!! One LOL!!!!

Are you okay now,CHica?

I hope you feel better??? Your ex spath sounds like a REAL winner!! NOT!!!!!!!!!!!

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]]> By: one_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-101205 one_step_at_a_time Mon, 10 Jan 2011 00:51:05 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-101205 oh, and i forgot to add, FAKE DEATH OF, AND FAKE RESURRECTION OF, THE FAKE BOY. oh, and i forgot to add, FAKE DEATH OF, AND FAKE RESURRECTION OF, THE FAKE BOY.

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]]> By: one_step_at_a_time http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-101204 one_step_at_a_time Mon, 10 Jan 2011 00:49:49 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-101204 thanks for bumping this thread LL. RANT COMING - 1. Intimacy produces bonding. Sexual intimacy especially produces bonding. There are hormones released during sex that go right to the bonding parts of the brain and turn them on. Since sex with a sociopath is often more intense, so is the bonding. - okay, there was sex. phone sex. but more importantly, THERE WAS NON STOP LAUGHTER. The hormones released by laughter, happiness and joy ARE POTENT. 2. After some bonding is already established, fear and anxiety increase the bonding. This is responsible for the Stockholm Syndrome, a syndrome where victims feel bonded to attackers. Sociopaths know how to suck you in with intimacy and sex, then intensify the bond by creating fear and anxiety. -Ahhh, 'Stockholm Syndrome' . Lying sack of shit evil c spath used to go on and on about the main character, aka the fake boy, having Stockholm Syndrome in relation to the 'bad man' he had lived with for many years. I AM SO ANGRY about all the BS manipulation this woman put me through. SHE KNEW <I>EXACTLY</I> WHAT SHE WAS DOING (TO ME.) She jerked me around ad naseum, creating fear and anxiety about the fake boy: 3 fake surgeries imminent death suicide attempts frequent emotional breakdowns dealings with predatory people dealings with incestuous and predatory family flying a ll over the world to get medical treatment adding new characters to the the fake story who were predatory adding one character in particualr who would later be the main force in destabilizing me agreeing to meet - and pulling out at the last minute.... on and on and on and on ................ ................SHE KNEW EXACLTY WHAT SHE WAS DOING - SHE HAD STUDIED IT! LYING SACK OF SHIT EVIL *C* GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR............................ we now return you to your regular programming.... thanks for bumping this thread LL.

RANT COMING –

1. Intimacy produces bonding. Sexual intimacy especially produces bonding. There are hormones released during sex that go right to the bonding parts of the brain and turn them on. Since sex with a sociopath is often more intense, so is the bonding.

- okay, there was sex. phone sex. but more importantly, THERE WAS NON STOP LAUGHTER. The hormones released by laughter, happiness and joy ARE POTENT.

2. After some bonding is already established, fear and anxiety increase the bonding. This is responsible for the Stockholm Syndrome, a syndrome where victims feel bonded to attackers. Sociopaths know how to suck you in with intimacy and sex, then intensify the bond by creating fear and anxiety.

-Ahhh, ‘Stockholm Syndrome’ . Lying sack of shit evil c spath used to go on and on about the main character, aka the fake boy, having Stockholm Syndrome in relation to the ‘bad man’ he had lived with for many years. I AM SO ANGRY about all the BS manipulation this woman put me through. SHE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT SHE WAS DOING (TO ME.) She jerked me around ad naseum, creating fear and anxiety about the fake boy:
3 fake surgeries
imminent death
suicide attempts
frequent emotional breakdowns
dealings with predatory people
dealings with incestuous and predatory family
flying a ll over the world to get medical treatment
adding new characters to the the fake story who were predatory
adding one character in particualr who would later be the main force in destabilizing me
agreeing to meet – and pulling out at the last minute….
on
and on
and on
and on …………….
…………….SHE KNEW EXACLTY WHAT SHE WAS DOING – SHE HAD STUDIED IT! LYING SACK OF SHIT EVIL *C*

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR……………………….

we now return you to your regular programming….

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]]> By: tobehappy http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-101203 tobehappy Mon, 10 Jan 2011 00:36:25 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-101203 Yes...great article! My x would tell me in texts or on the phone..how much he loved me...then ten texts later...he was Mr.Hyde.....said..."Ok...I'm moving on...its over...why can't you?" and he would hang up on me!! Of course, he would text me back the next day how much he loved me. LOL! Pathetic Yes…great article! My x would tell me in texts or on the phone..how much he loved me…then ten texts later…he was Mr.Hyde…..said…”Ok…I’m moving on…its over…why can’t you?” and he would hang up on me!! Of course, he would text me back the next day how much he loved me. LOL!

Pathetic

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]]> By: lesson learned http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-101201 lesson learned Mon, 10 Jan 2011 00:10:28 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-101201 Great article. BUMP! Great article.

BUMP!

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]]> By: Renewedhope http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-61111 Renewedhope Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:58:31 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-61111 What is it about these people that makes us still love them? Even after they are gone they seem to have gotten into our DNA. Is it a unrequited love?Is that it? Never having the love from that person because they are incapable of giving it back? Maybe that is it. I know in my heart, mine will always be there in the recesses of my mind and heart even if I never see her again. But I must be strong. I must never tell her again what I feel for her because she would only see that as a weakness and an opening to use me again. I know that now..Thank God! I know that now! What is it about these people that makes us still love them? Even after they are gone they seem to have gotten into our DNA. Is it a unrequited love?Is that it? Never having the love from that person because they are incapable of giving it back? Maybe that is it. I know in my heart, mine will always be there in the recesses of my mind and heart even if I never see her again. But I must be strong. I must never tell her again what I feel for her because she would only see that as a weakness and an opening to use me again. I know that now..Thank God! I know that now!

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]]> By: pollyannanomore http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-57485 pollyannanomore Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:25:20 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-57485 Many thanks Dr Leedom- this gives a good explanation of why things get so messed up with them. You are dead right that the bond starts to fade when we are well away from them! Many thanks Dr Leedom- this gives a good explanation of why things get so messed up with them. You are dead right that the bond starts to fade when we are well away from them!

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]]> By: kat_o_nine_tales http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-10415 kat_o_nine_tales Wed, 20 Aug 2008 11:11:20 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-10415 TY Henry, I love your posts as well, they make me laugh and they make me think. Lostingrief - you know what? How they act is not even about how they feel at all...these people know very well that their feelings are not compatible with society's expectations.. their words are never indicators of what's going on inside of them. It's like a post by someone else on this site said: They try to figure out always what "card" to play. He most likely doesn't care about the resume much, he's just gauging your reaction. In a couple of minutes he gathered: How angry you are with him, what exactly is pissing you off the most, checked the possibility of keeping you on the side to do favors for him, checked also what is probably one of your usual "buttons", that is the button of "I need you", and even got himself a little self-esteem boost because he has two women in love with him at the same time.. what an arse.. there aren't words for the stuff they do.... but I'll tell you right now, trying to figure out their thinking by what a normal person would think.. you could go nuts, and many have...their thinking has an entirely different basis, it's like they don't even live in the same world as we do. TY Henry, I love your posts as well, they make me laugh and they make me think.

Lostingrief – you know what? How they act is not even about how they feel at all…these people know very well that their feelings are not compatible with society’s expectations.. their words are never indicators of what’s going on inside of them.

It’s like a post by someone else on this site said: They try to figure out always what “card” to play. He most likely doesn’t care about the resume much, he’s just gauging your reaction. In a couple of minutes he gathered: How angry you are with him, what exactly is pissing you off the most, checked the possibility of keeping you on the side to do favors for him, checked also what is probably one of your usual “buttons”, that is the button of “I need you”, and even got himself a little self-esteem boost because he has two women in love with him at the same time.. what an arse.. there aren’t words for the stuff they do…. but I’ll tell you right now, trying to figure out their thinking by what a normal person would think.. you could go nuts, and many have…their thinking has an entirely different basis, it’s like they don’t even live in the same world as we do.

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]]> By: Beverly http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/comment-page-1/#comment-10412 Beverly Wed, 20 Aug 2008 07:58:28 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2007/03/10/ask-dr-leedom-i-dont-understand-why-i-still-care/#comment-10412 Au Revoir Henry, dont stay away too long. If you feel it all gets too much, pop back here, or pop back to say hello. hugs xxx Au Revoir Henry, dont stay away too long. If you feel it all gets too much, pop back here, or pop back to say hello. hugs xxx

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