Comments on: The Inner Triangle: a means of understanding sociopaths http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/ Wake up to the danger of sociopaths Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:17:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Liane Leedom, M.D. http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/comment-page-1/#comment-361 Liane Leedom, M.D. Mon, 19 Feb 2007 18:24:54 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/#comment-361 Dear Worried Sick, Please read my other posts about sociopaths so you understand well what you are likely dealing with. The take home message is that sociopaths are motivated only by their desires for power, sex and possessions. The desire to appear perfect to the outside world is part of the power motivation. You are not morally obligated to take on this likely sociopath on behalf of her daughter. If you decide to, be prepared for the daughter to possibly turn against you. She is torn between the control/abuse and the love she feels for the sociopathic parent. If you carry the feelings of rage for her, she will stop carrying them and feel only love towards the abusing parent. You have to help the victim own all of the rage. Remember, sociopaths do battle better than everyone else because they are not hampered by empathy or the need to give another the benefit of the doubt. Since you are dealing with a legal issue, you might consult an attorney regarding your options. You need to build a network of allies to take on this woman. I'm afraid for your mental and physical well-being should you try to go it alone. Dear Worried Sick,

Please read my other posts about sociopaths so you understand well what you are likely dealing with. The take home message is that sociopaths are motivated only by their desires for power, sex and possessions. The desire to appear perfect to the outside world is part of the power motivation. You are not morally obligated to take on this likely sociopath on behalf of her daughter. If you decide to, be prepared for the daughter to possibly turn against you. She is torn between the control/abuse and the love she feels for the sociopathic parent. If you carry the feelings of rage for her, she will stop carrying them and feel only love towards the abusing parent. You have to help the victim own all of the rage. Remember, sociopaths do battle better than everyone else because they are not hampered by empathy or the need to give another the benefit of the doubt. Since you are dealing with a legal issue, you might consult an attorney regarding your options. You need to build a network of allies to take on this woman. I’m afraid for your mental and physical well-being should you try to go it alone.

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]]> By: worriedsick http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/comment-page-1/#comment-360 worriedsick Mon, 19 Feb 2007 16:24:13 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/#comment-360 My 15 yr old daughter has a best friend also 15 yrs old. I have known the friends family for many years. Over the years I have watched the mother alienate (in not a nice way) people from there lives who get to close to her children. She is very verbally and sometimes abusive to my daughters friend. Here's a quick background on the girl. She is beautiful, bright, respectful and well liked no matter what situation she is in. She is a straight A student, captain of the cheer team, student body president of her class and voted bubbliest personality for the yearbook. Her mother is also the spanish teacher at her high school (very small school). There is not a peer, teacher or a coach that has a negative thing to say about this girl. At home her mother constantly berates and belittles her. Here's a small example of things she says "your nothing but a filthly white trash whore, you'll never be anything but filthy trash to me. That list goes on and on. The girl has also been choked, slapped and punched in the face. The mother also claims to be a good christian, goes to bible study and church every week. At school she acts like she has a perfect family. Outside appearances mean everything to her. When the mother found out the daughter was confiding in me she has completely cut me out of her life just as she has to several people over the years. I believe this child has been reaching out to many adults over the years. I finally told the school after the last go around of violence and they reported it to the police. Now the family is being investigated. Within 24 hours of the mother being investigated by police she has withdrawn the daughter from school saying she will now be home schooled. She has completely isolated her from all of her friends and activities. She has become a virtual prisoner in her home. The police did call me for a statement and I told them everything I know. The problem is the mother seems to be the best liar on the planet. Most of the outside world is starting to look at the mother differently but I'm afraid that will only enrage her more and take it out on the daughter. I've have done extensive research on what kind of possible disorder she may have since her behavior is obviously not normal. I keep coming back to sociopath. She truly has no remorse for the abuse she has inflicted on this child, I actually believe she gets a thrill from it. Nothing seems to have come of contacting the police. I'm worried they are actually believing the mother and I think the daughter is actually starting to believe the things the mother is saying about her since she has know contact with anyone else to tell her different. Is there anything else I can do, I'm so worried about her. She is such a great girl and deserves so much better how can I help her. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME HELP HER!!!!!! My 15 yr old daughter has a best friend also 15 yrs old. I have known the friends family for many years. Over the years I have watched the mother alienate (in not a nice way) people from there lives who get to close to her children. She is very verbally and sometimes abusive to my daughters friend. Here’s a quick background on the girl. She is beautiful, bright, respectful and well liked no matter what situation she is in. She is a straight A student, captain of the cheer team, student body president of her class and voted bubbliest personality for the yearbook. Her mother is also the spanish teacher at her high school (very small school). There is not a peer, teacher or a coach that has a negative thing to say about this girl. At home her mother constantly berates and belittles her. Here’s a small example of things she says “your nothing but a filthly white trash whore, you’ll never be anything but filthy trash to me. That list goes on and on. The girl has also been choked, slapped and punched in the face. The mother also claims to be a good christian, goes to bible study and church every week. At school she acts like she has a perfect family. Outside appearances mean everything to her. When the mother found out the daughter was confiding in me she has completely cut me out of her life just as she has to several people over the years. I believe this child has been reaching out to many adults over the years. I finally told the school after the last go around of violence and they reported it to the police. Now the family is being investigated. Within 24 hours of the mother being investigated by police she has withdrawn the daughter from school saying she will now be home schooled. She has completely isolated her from all of her friends and activities. She has become a virtual prisoner in her home. The police did call me for a statement and I told them everything I know. The problem is the mother seems to be the best liar on the planet. Most of the outside world is starting to look at the mother differently but I’m afraid that will only enrage her more and take it out on the daughter. I’ve have done extensive research on what kind of possible disorder she may have since her behavior is obviously not normal. I keep coming back to sociopath. She truly has no remorse for the abuse she has inflicted on this child, I actually believe she gets a thrill from it. Nothing seems to have come of contacting the police. I’m worried they are actually believing the mother and I think the daughter is actually starting to believe the things the mother is saying about her since she has know contact with anyone else to tell her different. Is there anything else I can do, I’m so worried about her. She is such a great girl and deserves so much better how can I help her. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME HELP HER!!!!!!

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]]> By: newstart http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/comment-page-1/#comment-303 newstart Thu, 25 Jan 2007 07:29:46 +0000 http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/12/15/the-inner-triangle-a-means-of-understanding-sociopaths/#comment-303 Thank you for the explaination, I have recently found out that my sooon to be X is a sociopath, we are in a messy divorce and custody battle. I have found out that he has had a double life all through the marriage and has a serious sex addiction and internet porn addiction as well as drug and alcohol addiction. I am grateful to people like yourself who have enlightened me. It has been rather difficult to face the reality, as I have 5 year old triplets. The court system continues to be challenging. Thank you for the explaination, I have recently found out that my sooon to be X is a sociopath, we are in a messy divorce and custody battle. I have found out that he has had a double life all through the marriage and has a serious sex addiction and internet porn addiction as well as drug and alcohol addiction. I am grateful to people like yourself who have enlightened me. It has been rather difficult to face the reality, as I have 5 year old triplets. The court system continues to be challenging.

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