Comments on: Why have sociopaths failed to develop a conscience?

By: arlenejohnson57

arlenejohnson57 — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 16:26:11 +0000

I can not go of loving my children who were disconnected with me. It hurts me to see how loving we were together and now they are so unempathetic. Knowing they may well turn out to be adults the same way as their father is something sometimes I can not bear. I am older so it is not like I can erase those memories nor the bonding> No matter what I do I can not seem to go beyond it. I guess that means your normal I suppose because I always believed in bonding with your loved ones.

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By: Liane Leedom, M.D.

Liane Leedom, M.D. — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 19:29:02 +0000

Sociopathy, antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy are defined by the damage done to others. All sociopaths and psychopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists exploit people to the degree required for the additional diagnosis of sociopathy.

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By: awolf56

awolf56 — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 23:16:33 +0000

I am wondering what is the difference between a sociopath and a narcissist. My ex, who was pathologically commitmentphobic and terrified of intimacy, also had no empathy, no sense of remorse or shame and took no responsibility for his behavior. He would blame others, especially me, for his bad behavior toward me. Is he a sociopath, or a narcissist? And what is the difference.

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By: will be okay

will be okay — Thu, 28 Dec 2006 23:11:03 +0000

AHH.. Little one’s enjoying having power over others… I think that’s what created my ex sociopath and I saw that trend continue with his son. I had wondered what caused it in my ex. His father is incredibly arrogant and condescending, but he is a momma’s boy unlike any I’d ever seen… They let him live rent free in his grandparents old house, they feed him everynight, and his mother pop’s the zits on his back… YUCK!! and he’s 37 years old!!!! Since his mom babies him so much, I wondered what caused it!.. But there it is…Enjoying having power over others!!.. He probably ran the household, just as his son does now.

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By: Donna Andersen

Donna Andersen — Thu, 14 Dec 2006 23:57:55 +0000

Lovefraud received this comment from a reader via e-mail:

I completely agree with the lack of physical contact causing serious issues later in life. I had read about this prior to having children and decided that I would be extra close to them. They slept with me until they were two, nursed for over a year and were almost always rocked to sleep. I cannot tell you how secure this made them feel! Even today we are still physically close…..my daughter and I hold hands while talking and my son hugs me daily and and sits close by me when we talk on the couch. They both still receive ( and give) lots of hugs and kisses on the cheek and it is wonderful ! The value of human touch, so the studies say, is so, so important and is also about feeling connected to others in an often frightening world.

Enjoyment of affection is definately a MUST for developing empathy. Positive words and actions by the parent toward the child are essential.

And yes, the sociopath LOVES the power and control. It is so scary. They can’t love people for they cannot love themselves. People are completely and totally replacable to them….it is sick. For example, my ex husband left his first wife for a woman he met at a conveinence store one night (!) and left his second wife for his economics professor ( he was in college with the wife paying for it!!) and left me for a woman 12 yrs. my senior who he had known 30 years before because…. “it was time to move to another situation” Those were his exact words…. another “situation”….telling words, no?

Since our divorce 6 or so years ago , he has had about 8 girlfriends, ALL of whom he asked to marry him within ONE MONTH of meeting them. When one turns him down, he hangs on until he can get another woman lined up, then devalues and discards the latest girfriend in a nasty break up. He has always written me upon most of these break ups ( via email) whcih I find puzzling, to say the least and outlines why the break up occurred. WITHOUT EXCEPTION, it is the woman’s fault AND she is mentally ill….every single one of them. Of course, he called me mentally ill too! Talk about projection!!!! And he has never ever said that any part of the break up was his fault and I believe that this is because he truly cannot see that anything could be his fault…..they just cannot think that way and are incapable of seeing their part in anything.