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Love Fraud
How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, by Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com
Donna Andersen worried that her dream of having a family was doomed to die. At age 40, she was a successful businesswoman, but still single. Then, through an online personal ad, she met James Alwyn Montgomery, originally from Sydney Australia. Montgomery was the most dynamic man she’d ever encountered—and he proclaimed his love for her.
Donna was thrilled. Ecstatic. It wasn’t too late. Finally, her dream would come true.
Soon, however, she was living a psychological nightmare. Through a mixture of promises and lies, cajolery and tears, James Montgomery kept asking Donna to fund his grandiose business schemes. Taking seriously her commitment to be a supportive wife, she did—and it almost broke her.
Then Donna discovered that her husband used her money to betray her.
How could this happen? Donna’s life was nearly destroyed, and she didn’t know why. She was an honest and forthright person. She didn’t deserve to have her hopes and dreams crushed. So why did she end up with a man who lied constantly and cheated her out of almost everything she owned? It didn’t make any sense.
Donna worked with a spiritual counselor, and learned to listen to her intuition. Eventually she learned to channel messages from a higher realm. What she discovered was that her soul wanted her to get involved with James Montgomery. The entire experience was planned long before she was born.
In fact, the encounter with a sociopath gave Donna a new mission in life—Lovefraud.com, which has helped thousands of people recognize and recover from the sociopaths in their own lives.
If involvement with a sociopath has left you financially devastated and you cannot afford to buy this book, please request that your local public library purchase it. Anderly Publishing offers a special discount for libraries. Download this information sheet and bring it to your library.
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Getting It Through My Thick Skull
Why I Stayed, What I Learned, and What Millions of People Involved with Sociopaths Need to Know, by Mary Jo Buttafuoco
Perhaps you remember Mary Jo Buttafuoco. She's the woman who, back in 1992, answered the door of her suburban Long Island home and was shot in the head by 16-year-old Amy Fisher. Fisher, it turned out, was having an affair with her husband, Joey Buttafuoco, and in the media circus that surrounded the case, the teenager came to be known as the "Long Island Lolita."
Mary Jo recovered from the gunshot wound, although not without permanent damage, and surprisingly, stayed with her husband almost eight more years. In fact, it wasn't until even later, after she'd known Joey Buttafuoco for almost 30 years, that she understood the reason for his flamboyant, deceitful and self-centered behavior—he was a sociopath.
And she says it—the first sentence of her introduction is, "Joey Buttafuoco is a sociopath." Then she tells, for the first time, her story—why she believed him, why she defended him, how he kept reeling her in. She points out how his behavior was typical sociopathic manipulation, and relates how she finally escaped from the fog of his deception and recovered her own sense of self.
This story is an excellent profile of shocking sociopathic behavior—and how it affects the victim.
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Without Conscience
The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us, by Robert D. Hare, Ph.D.
For a clear, concise and easy-to-understand description of the psychopathic personality, this is the book to read. Dr. Robert Hare explains, in layman's language, the traits and behaviors of the psychopath, a person with no heart, no conscience and no remorse.
Dr. Hare uses the term psychopath, although other mental health professionals use the words "sociopath" or "antisocial personality disorder." Regardless of the label applied, if you're involved with one, in these pages you'll recognize the behaviors.
First, Dr. Hare describes the key symptoms of psychopathy, which often, but not always, leads to a life of crime. Many psychopaths cheat, lie and manipulate without ever coming in contact with the criminal justice system. They have jobs. They get married. They go to church. But they are still destructive to the people around them.
That's why it's important to be able to recognize these predators—they can be anywhere, and often blend easily into society. By reading Without Conscience, you'll be able to recognize them before it's too late.
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Trading Places
The true story of how Natalie Hutchison, winner of Trading Places 2006, turned her life around, by Natalie Hutchison and Mary Turner Thomson
At Lovefraud, we often talk about how childhood trauma makes us susceptible to abuse later in life. Trading Places shows exactly how it happens.
Natalie Hutchison grew up in a home without love. She left at age 17 and married a man who turned out to be more interested in drinking than being a father. Her second husband was a sociopath. Still, Natalie continued to believe, continued to hope—until she could continue no longer.
Finally, though, Natalie found the strength to leave and go after what she wanted. She started a business, and in 2006, earned the Barclays Bank Trading Places Award, given to individuals who overcome tremendous personal adversity to turn their lives around.
Trading Places is valuable for anyone trying to understand why women fall into abusive relationships. It illustrates how a woman can get into a bad situation because of the emotional injuries of childhood, and portrays the rationalizations that prevent her from leaving it. But it is also a story of triumph, because this woman, Natalie Hutchison, got out, found love and prospered.
How to Heal Your Life When Your World Explodes, by Eve A. Wood, M.D.
Dr. Eve Wood is a practicing psychiatrist and an author of motivational books. When, after 27 years of marriage, she discovered that her own husband led a double life, she had to decide how to respond.
Dr. Wood chose to learn from the betrayal experience and use it as an opportunity to create the life she always wanted. Then, she wrote the book that she wished she could have read when she was going through her trauma.
Dr. Wood identifies 14 key lessons for women who have been betrayed, and writes a chapter on each of them. They include:
You have a choice: Do you seize your power or become the victim?
Could you have been married to (or involved with) a sociopath?
Take action to create the life you really want
Stay present to the gift of the moment
The Gift of Betrayal is written for women who have been betrayed by men. Dr. Wood specifically emphasizes that if the man was a sociopath, the only way to heal is to leave the relationship. Then, she offers solid advice for recovering from the experience, moving forward and becoming free at last.
Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships, By Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D.
Why is it so difficult to leave and get over someone who has deceived, manipulated, drained and abused you? You know this person is toxic—why do you long for him or her?
The answer may be a betrayal bond.
A betrayal bond is a highly addictive attachment to someone who has hurt you. These bonds may be formed or strengthened due to trauma, which occurs when danger, risk, fear or anxiety is present. You may be experiencing this if you:
Obsess about people who have hurt you and they are long gone
Continue to seek contact with people whom you know will cause you further pain
Go overboard to help people who have been destructive to you
Again and again trust people who have proven to be unreliable
Often, betrayal bonds in a person’s past make them susceptible to more abuse in the future. This book lays out a step-by-step program for discovering the roots of a betrayal bond, then confronting and ultimately healing it.
A Guide to Overcoming Your Child's Genetic Connection to Antisocial Behavior, Addiction and ADHD, by Liane J. Leedom, M.D.
If you've realized, to your horror, that you've had a child with a sociopath, what do you do? Research shows that the traits that can lead to sociopathy are highly genetic. How do you prevent your child from growing up to be another sociopath?
This was exactly the situation faced by Dr. Liane Leedom, a board-certified psychiatrist. When her son was six months old, she realized that his father had the personality disorder. She spent the next three years researching the scientific literature, learning how sociopathy develops, and how to prevent it.
The result is this book, Just Like His Father? In it, Dr. Leedom explains how to nurture the at-risk child. The key is being appropriately responsive to the child, which will enhance your child's ability to love. Dr. Leedom provides practical guidance for every stage of a child's life, from birth through the teenage years.
Even if your child is not at risk, the book offers excellent parenting advice to help your child grow up to be healthy and happy.
Overcoming the Devastation of Legal Abuse Syndrome
Warning: Protracted litigation can be hazardous to your health, by Karin Huffer, M.S., M.F.T.
"Unlike violent crime, deceptive assaults quietly wound that very sacred, inner place which is the essence of the self," author Karin Huffer writes. "Although the attack is invisible, it is as brutal as violent assault."
Then, after a victim has experienced this type of deadening assault, the "justice" system makes it worse.
Opposing lawyers purposely deny the truth, delay cases and attempt to deplete the victim's resources, and the victim's own attorney fails to provide adequate representation. Court bureaucrats lose information; judges don't bother to discern the real facts. Some "professionals" working in the legal system are blatantly corrupt. For the victim, it is a formula for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Legal Abuse System helps victims overcome the pain caused by their psychological reaction to profound and prolonged injustice. It explains eight steps to recovery—how to transform yourself from victim to veteran.
Even if you aren't involved in a legal battle, the eight steps to recovery listed this book can help you move past the deception and devastation of a run-in with a sociopath.
