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By January 28, 2017 1 Comments

Woman fakes blindness for 15 years, collects nearly $400,000 in veteran’s benefits

Blind_Woman 2_200x247Back in 2001, Veronica Dale Hahn, 60, of Bonifay, Florida, told the U.S. Department of Veteran’s Affairs that she was 100 percent blind in both eyes due to her military service. The VA believed her, and started paying her veteran’s disability benefits. In 15 years, she collected $394,800.85.

In the meantime, she obtained driver’s licenses in New Mexico, Alabama and Florida, with no vision restrictions. She drove her vehicle and worked full-time as a case manager at state correctional facilities.

Hahn pleaded guilty last week. When she is sentenced, she faces 10 years in prison.

Holmes County woman pleads guilty to fraudulently receiving veterans disability benefits, on Justice.gov.

By January 27, 2017 14 Comments

I continued to choose him over everyone and everything that ever mattered to me

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received this story from a reader whom we’ll call “Ellie.”

This is the story of how I allowed myself to become emotionally dismantled by the man to whom I chose to give my heart.

I loved him unconditionally. I accepted and forgave him without judgment. I empathized with stories of his childhood, when he felt unseen, unloved and insecure. I nurtured him through times of deep depression, drug abuse and alcoholism. I made excuse after excuse by rationalizing his behavior and convincing myself that I knew he could be more than what he was. I believed he could be the man I saw him to be, the man he wished he could be … I held on to hope that it would be ok, and that there wasn’t anything we couldn’t get through together.

By January 26, 2017 18 Comments

My Unwitting Relationship With A Sociopath Corroded Who “I” Was

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 37B: “It’s Like Déjà Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra)

Soon after, I required minor surgery. As I had with Jessica’s testing, I involved Paul when setting a date for the procedure to ensure he would be available to help the kids and me. I was forced to reschedule my procedure two times, because Paul’s work demands kept trumping my health needs. Two days before the surgery, he called me from Chicago.

“Something’s come up,” he said. “A huge account’s at stake, and I can’t get back. You can handle this, right? This client’s worth lots of money. I need to stay.”

By January 25, 2017 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW offers free online support chat Jan 29th at 8 pm

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, Feb 12, 2017 at 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the green highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  When the chat room is not open that link will take you to a page with info on the next group.  Hope to see you there!

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By January 25, 2017 0 Comments

‘Sextortion Queen’ tricks men into performing sex acts on Skype, then blackmails them

Maria Caparas

Maria Caparas-Regalachuelo, the ‘Sextortion Queen’

Maria Caparas-Regalachuelo of the Philippines, aka the “Sextortion Queen,” boasts that it only takes 30 minutes to convince men to get naked and perform sex acts via Skype. Then she posts the videos to YouTube and threatens to send them to the victims’ families, unless they pay up.

In an exclusive interview with the Daily Mail, she details exactly how the scam works. She has a crew of “chatters,” mostly young girls and transgender men, who troll the Internet looking for targets. When they find a target, they play a pre-recorded video of an Asian woman performing a striptease, and then send a string of racy text messages.

The whole process is tightly scripted.

Caparas is now in prison in the Philippines. She claims to be sorry for her actions.

By January 24, 2017 1 Comments

One easy way to know if the soldier you met online is a scammer

Photo courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Photo courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Valentine’s Day is coming, and the U.S. Army expects a surge in scam reports.

Thousands of lonely women, looking for love online, meet members of the U.S. military. The men are handsome and rugged, they’re serving in harm’s way, and they’re also lonely. The men chat the women up, the women fall in love. The men want to pursue the relationship, but, they say, they need financial help to do it. Can the women send money?

Don’t do it! It’s a scam!


An authentic U.S. service member NEVER needs financial assistance for transportation, communication fees, medical costs or marriage processing fees. If someone is asking for money, it’s likely he is a scammer from West Africa.

By January 23, 2017 7 Comments

Vocabulary 101: 10 terms to help you name your experience with a sociopath

AnxietyDepression_300x200One of the reasons why it’s so difficult to explain what happens when you’re involved with a sociopath is that you don’t have the words.

Because of the general lack of awareness about personality disorders in society, and the lack of education about it, there is no generally accepted terminology to describe various aspects of the experience.

But descriptive language has evolved among online communities of survivors. Here is a vocabulary to help you name what you experienced. When you can name it, you can begin to recover from it.

1 Love Bombing

When sociopaths set about reeling you in, a key seduction strategy is love bombing. They shower you with attention and affection, want to be with you all the time, make you feel like the most important person in the world.

By January 21, 2017 1 Comments

Girl, 15, charged with killing her father to protect her mother from abuse

Bresha Meadows

Bresha Meadows

Johnathan Meadows lay sleeping in the early hours of July 28, 2016, when his 14-year-old daughter, Bresha, allegedly shot him in the head with his own .45 caliber gun.

“Now mommy, you’re free,” Bresha said to her mother, Brandi.

Brandi had endured years of abuse from Johnathan, she said. Her husband would get drunk and menace the family with a gun.

“I wasn’t strong enough to leave,” she told Fox8, calling her daughter a “hero.”

Supporters pack courtroom where teen girl, 15, is charged with killing her father to protect her mother after ‘years of abuse,’ on DailyMail.co.uk.


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By January 20, 2017 0 Comments

How to recognize narcissistic abuse

Just about everyone who visits Lovefraud.com has experienced narcissistic abuse, although you may not know it.

If you go for therapy, your counselor may not know it either. Why? Tiffany Ketterman, LPC, explains a big reason: The mental health community has yet to agree on an official definition of narcissistic abuse.

Still, there is a cluster of behaviors that are typical of narcissistic abuse. And there is a cluster of symptoms in people who are on the receiving end of the abuse.

Tiffany explains all of this in her upcoming Lovefraud CE webinar, Understanding and Recognizing Narcissistic Abuse, which will be offered on Monday, Feb. 13, from 7-9 pm ET. The cost is $49.

Psychologists and social workers can earn two continuing education credit hours for this program.

By January 19, 2017 3 Comments

Being Criticized, Undermined, And Dismissed – The New Normal Once Hooked By A Sociopath

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 37A: “It’s Like Déjà Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra)

After the first seven years of my doomed marriage, Paul and I had “bottomed out,” and I almost left. Seven years later, our marriage was back on life support. By then, Jessica was twelve and Daniel almost nine. I was miserable. Nothing I did was ever right. If I made breakfast for Paul, he said he was too busy to eat breakfast together. “Can’t you see how busy I am? Why are you trying to slow me down?” If the next morning I made breakfast for only the kids and me, he rolled his eyes and suggested I was inconsiderate for not including him—that of course he had planned to have breakfast with the family, but now he was so hurt because I had excluded him that he just wanted to get to work.