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By January 11, 2017 1 Comments

Why I wrote my new book, ‘Combating Romance Scams, Why Lying to Get Laid Is a Crime!’

combating-romance-scamsBy Joyce Short

Romance scams are a crime epidemic! We read about them daily in the news and many of us here on Lovefraud have suffered from this malicious behavior! We were defrauded of our highest emotion, which is love, and deceived into sex by someone totally different than who they pretended to be. Millions have fallen victim to this crime wave. It won’t stop ‘til we do something about it!

That’s why I wrote Combating Romance Scams: Why Lying to Get Laid Is a Crime!

I recently learned that Federal Prosecutors in Missouri included information about my blog, Stop Rape By Fraud, in their indictment to lock up a “serial rapist.” He’d used false pretenses to con over 30 victims. But blogs hit or miss. They don’t convey a cohesive sense of the crime or the solution for it like a book can.

By January 10, 2017 0 Comments

Dylann Roof sentenced to death for murdering nine people in church

Dylann Roof, they 22-year-old white supremacist convicted of murdering nine churchgoers in an African American congregation, was sentenced to death.

Roof acted as his own attorney during the sentencing. He was unrepentant. He said:

“In my confession to the FBI, I told them that I had to do it. I felt like I had to do it when I said that and I still feel that way.”

Roof also said,

“There’s nothing wrong with me psychologically.”

Spoken like a true psychopath.

Dylann Roof sentenced to DEATH by jury for cold-blooded massacre of nine black Charleston churchgoers after the unrepentant killer refused to defend himself and said he would do it all again, on DailyMail.co.uk

 

 

By January 9, 2017 20 Comments

How the messages we hear all our lives keep us vulnerable to sociopaths

Outraged blonde woman with arms crossed on white backgroundEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman who signed it “Tired of Being Targeted.”

My son’s wife sends me nasty text messages and leaves insulting voice messages. Then she complains to her husband I’m being rude and disrespectful to her. It’s crazy making and she’s clearly projecting.

In the past I took the high road and didn’t tell him but all it got me was year after year of estrangement from my son. With nobody to speak in my defense and expose the truth and her unfounded slander habit, I finally decided to send him a long letter and copy him on all her text messages. I’m now waiting to see if he’ll respond. Even with the facts squarely in front of him, I realize he might still go along to get along with his wife.

By January 7, 2017 0 Comments

Lovefraud CE Webinar: Helping women escape abusive same-sex relationships

women arguingHelping Lesbians Leave Crazy-making Relationships: Addressing barriers to treatment and delivering effective support
Presented by Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
Thursday, Jan. 19 • 12-2 pm ET • $49
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If you’re a therapist with lesbian/bi/trans women clients who are in abusive relationships, this Lovefraud CE webinar explains exactly how to help them.

Life in a society that still shaped by both heterosexism and homophobia creates unique challenges for lesbian and bisexual women in identifying abusive relationship patterns, seeking relief from psychotherapy and natural supports, and ending abusive relationships.

You may be of the opinion that intimate partner violence doesn’t occur in same-sex relationships between women, or that, in the absence of physical violence, same-sex relationships do not include cycles of abuse. Women in same-sex relationships often hold the same beliefs, which also serves as an impediment to seeking help.

By January 6, 2017 1 Comments

Dr. George Simon presents an alternative approach to treating character disorders

Man Figure In SilhouetteLovefraud Continuing Education Webinar:
Character Disturbances and Disorders
Jan. 30 and Feb. 2, 12 PM to 2 PM ET
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If you’re a therapist, you may find yourself increasingly dealing with individuals with significant personality and character disturbances and disorders. You may have found your traditional insight-oriented therapy approaches to be ineffective in such cases.

While some therapists simply dismiss personality-related problems as unmodifiable or untreatable, Dr. George Simon shares a unique perspective that provides new understanding of the nature of character disturbance and a framework for effecting change in challenging clients.

You probably learned that in classical psychology, emotional and psychological distress is believed to be caused by internal, unconscious conflict. This conflict is eventually manifested in psychoneurotic symptoms. But according to Dr. George Simon, this traditional conceptualization does not explain what is happening in people with character disturbances and disorders.

By January 5, 2017 4 Comments

Dr. Jekyll + Mr. Hyde Behavior = Sociopath

Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 35B: The Weeds Always Win

Consistent with sociopath math, Paul’s refusal to help knew no bounds. One Sunday, I went down to our basement to do laundry, only to discover two inches of water on the floor. The water heater had broken and flooded our basement with over sixty gallons of water.

Grumbling about being distracted from watching a football game, Paul sized up the situation, went to another part of the basement, and returned a minute later with our seventy-pint dehumidifier. He placed it in a remote, dry part of the basement.

By January 4, 2017 4 Comments

If our emotions are triggered, there’s more pain to process

Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader—we’ll call her Sally:

It’s been almost four years since I left my ex psychopath. He almost had me take my own life through guilt, when it was him lying, cheating, committing fraud, you name it—a textbook case.

The reason I write to you today, however, is I am so sad and disappointed in myself yet again. Four years and I thought I was over the damage done by the psychopath so I stepped out of my comfort zone to contact an old friend I had not seen since before the psychopath came into my life.

I made a decision to visit my male friend and we had a nice time. When I returned I started analysing the situation. Was my friend just after one thing? He had made a few small promises that had not come through (generally that wouldn’t bother me too much). I felt like it was happening all over again. I felt cheated, lied to and manipulated by such minor matters.

By January 3, 2017 0 Comments

Kelly Cochran, possible serial killer, awaits trial in Michigan

Kelly Cochran

Kelly Cochran

Kelly Cochran, of Caspian, Michigan, began an affair with a co-worker, Chris Regan. But when Kelly’s husband, Jason Cochran, found out, he was furious, and threatened to kill Regan.

Instead, the Cochrans allegedly hatched a plot to kill Regan together. Then they dismembered his body.

But Kelly Cochran was angry, and 16 months later, she allegedly killed her husband, making the death look like a heroin overdose.

Kelly told a police detective that she wouldn’t lose sleep over her husband’s death. “You feel (emotion),” she said, according to DetroitNews.com, “and I can’t.”

Killings may go beyond U.P. woman’s husband, lover, on DetroitNews.com.

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.

 

By January 2, 2017 3 Comments

New Year’s Resolutions for Recovering from a Sociopath

free-fireworks-image-11 cropIf you’re in the process of leaving behind a sociopath, or even just contemplating leaving a sociopath, here are New Year’s resolutions to help you accomplish your goal and get on the path to healing in 2017.

Resolution #1: NO CONTACT!!!!

Do not have any contact with the sociopath. Nothing! Nada! Zilch! Zero! This is the most important first step you can take.

No Contact is how you escape the sociopath’s magnetic pull. It enables the fog in your head to dissipate, so you can clearly see this person for what he or she is — a predator, parasite, or both. No Contact enables you to find your strength and take back your power.

When you implement No Contact, you do not see or talk to the sociopath. You do not send emails or text messages. You do not even snoop on their Facebook page.