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By March 15, 2017 0 Comments

Texas woman discovers her fiancé is a con man and calls off wedding

Brett Joseph and Stephanie Hoskins

Brett Joseph and Stephanie Hoskins

Stephanie Hoskins, 23, was set to marry Brett Goodman, a wealthy oil worker from Australia, on March 31. Luckily, before she tied the knot, she discovered her fiancé was not who he claimed to be.

His real name is Brett Joseph, he’s an unemployed con man and love rat who defrauded dozens of women back in Australia.

Stephanie cancelled the wedding.

Texas woman calls off her wedding after discovering her fiancé is a Tinder love rat accused of defrauding dozens of women overseas, on DailyMail.co.uk

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By March 14, 2017 1 Comments

AP reveals alleged physical and emotional abuse in World of Faith Fellowship


Cult turn right

(Photo by Kevin Dooley)

The Associated Press recently published an expose in which 43 former congregants of the World of Faith Fellowship religious sect, based in Spinsdale, North Carolina, claimed they were physically and emotionally abused in the church.

They were “regularly punched, smacked, choked, slammed to the floor or thrown through walls in a violent form of deliverance meant to ‘purify’ sinners by beating out devils,” AP wrote.

Two assistant prosecutors in North Carolina, who were ministers of the church, have been charged with sabotaging investigations into the secretive sect. They allegedly provided legal advice and participated in a mock trial for four congregants who were charged with harassing a former member.

AP Exclusive: Ex-congregants reveal years of ungodly abuse, on APNews.com.

Prosecutors gone from jobs after AP report on church abuse, on USNews.com.


By March 13, 2017 16 Comments

How to attract a new relationship after the sociopath

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly at Longwood Gardens in February, 2017.

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly at Longwood Gardens in February, 2017.

Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader:

I have a question for you. I’ve been divorced for 3 years now from my ex-husband who had a porn addiction. I’ve tried the Internet dating sites on and off since, and have had nothing but bad experiences. What do you suggest I do/ how do I go about finding someone? I am really lonely and would like to have a man in my life. However, I’m so afraid of attracting the wrong kind still. If you have any suggestions, I’d be happy to hear them.

If you’ve had a run-in with a sociopath, before attempting to date again, you must first heal yourself. If you’re feeling lonely and afraid, it is an indication that you are not yet healed.

By March 12, 2017 0 Comments

Documentary producer Vivian McGrath reveals her abusive first marriage

Vivien Mcgrath

Vivian McGrath

When Vivian McGrath was an 18-year-old actress, she met a man at a party who swept her off her feet. He was handsome, intense and oozed sexual chemistry. They talked for hours. Vivian was already hooked.

She tells her story in her first-person article published in the Daily Mail. It sounds like all of the stories published on Lovefraud.

When Vivian was seven months pregnant with their child, her husband strangled her, and almost killed her. Yet when the baby was born, Vivian allowed him back into her life. Every child needs a father, right? He promised to change.

Well, we all know how that went.

After a few more years, Vivian left him for good. She recovered and remarried. Now she is telling her story.

Why I believe some women are ADDICTED to abusive men: Woman who was once trapped in a violent marriage gives a chilling insight into why she wouldn’t leave, on DailyMail.co.uk.

By March 10, 2017 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, holding free online chat 3/19/17 at 8 pm EDT

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group Sunday night, March 19, 2017 at 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the green highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  When the chat room is not open that link will take you to a page with info on the next group.  Hope to see you there!

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By March 10, 2017 3 Comments

My kids are in the clutches of a malicious sociopath

A child waiting for daddy.Editor’s note: A Lovefraud reader wrote the following post.

I am a mother of 4 children. My younger two boys are 3 years old and 18 months. They are  currently in the clutches of their father.

I was in a four-year relationship when I decided to walk away. Loving an alcoholic is exhausting. I was tired of the emotional abuse. This man has been incarcerated longer than he has been free.

I still wanted him to have a relationship with the boys. I decided not to pursue custody through the courts but work custody between us. This was the worse mistake I have ever made.

He came to pick up the boys one weekend in February and I haven’t seen them since. I found out the place where he was staying he was evicted from. He has no physical address for where he and my boys are living. The only address I have is his work address.

By March 9, 2017 3 Comments

An Unwitting Relationship With A Sociopath Changes Us

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 41A:

Over the next year, with Dr. Davis’s help, I changed, but Paul did not. As my emotional strength and awareness grew, albeit slowly, I started to understand one of Paul’s key manipulation tactics, and I refused to be sucked in.

By March 8, 2017 0 Comments

Chaos, destruction and murder – the philosophy of a sociopath

Socipathic eyesLovefraud received a letter from a woman who we’ll call Valerie. She met her husband, whom we’ll call Dylan, at age 18, and has been with him for seven years. She thought they were happy together in their wonderful home with their family of pets.

Suddenly Dylan started acting erratically. He said he didn’t want to be with Valerie any more. He picked fights. She asked Dylan to leave, but made it clear that she was willing to do whatever was necessary to help him. So he left, and wouldn’t tell her where he was. Eventually, Valerie’s intuition told her to check her husband’s Facebook page, where she found Dylan’s love letters to another woman.

Then Valerie found how Dylan described himself on another website. Here’s what he wrote:

By March 7, 2017 0 Comments

14 tactics used by coercive controllers in abusive relationships

Angry psychopath“Coercive control feels like being trapped in a cage and you can’t get out and you don’t know where to turn.” That’s how Dr. Lisa Aronson Fontes described this insidious form of domestic violence. She was one of several experts who spoke at a conference on coercive control in Suffolk, England on March 6, 2017.

Another expert, Dr. Evan Stark, said that around 25 percent of women in abusive relationships are never assaulted.

The program described 14 ways that abusers control their victims, from limiting contact with family and friends to constant phone calls, texts and emails.

‘It’s like being in a cult for one’: Read 14 tactics used by coercive controllers, on EADT.co.uk.

By March 6, 2017 1 Comments

9 control tactics in a classic story of sociopathic manipulation

Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

The following letter, written by a young woman whom we’ll call Chloe, is one of the most complete stories of psychological manipulation that I’ve ever seen yet. Chloe wrote this letter secretly while the sociopath she is living with was at the gym.

I met my boyfriend two years ago. I was 18; he was 33. He’s a photographer; we live on an island that is very small. He has lived here forever (10 years) and I had only been here a few months when I met him. Everybody, especially women on the island, adore him, he is THE BIGGEST charmer.