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By March 23, 2017 0 Comments

Sociopaths Slowly Dismantle Our Internal Compass

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 41C:

It was the first time in years I had known what I wanted, had gone about the decision the way I wanted, and had not let Paul convince me of what I should want. Knowing that I had not caved in to what Paul told me I should do was satisfying.

By March 22, 2017 0 Comments

How to avoid gold diggers

Spotting the Red Flags of Love Fraud

By Sally Anne Jackson

When I was growing up in the 1950s, I swooned over the 1956 Bing Crosby song, True Love.

While I give to you and you give to me
True love, true love
So on and on it will always be
True love, true love

This song shaped how I believed love really was.

For me, it was disillusioning beyond imagination when at the beginning of my freshman year at Radcliffe, I spent an evening in our dormitory’s lounge, listening to seven classmates talk. They were systematically paging through the catalogue of our Harvard freshmen classmates.

My classmates were assessing what the Harvard men we’d be meeting were likely to inherit.

“His father is giving him a million dollars for his 21st birthday,” said one blond, long-legged beauty, referring to one of the men in the catalogue.

By March 20, 2017 6 Comments

Making meaning of your betrayal by a sociopath

Woman with arms raised at sunset on the beachWhen we realize that we’ve been involved with a sociopath, and that person has callously betrayed us, we inevitably ask, “Why? Why did this happen to me?”

To help find the answer, one of the books that Lovefraud recommends is The Betrayal Bond—Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships, by Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. The book explains the deep psychological wounds caused by trauma, and offers a way for us to identify and overcome abusive relationships that we may have experienced.

When I read the book, I was struck by what Carnes wrote on page 68:

My experience with survivors of trauma is that every journey of recovery depends on the survivor coming to a point where all that person has gone through means something.

I believe there is meaning in what we have experienced at the hands of sociopaths. Here it is: The object of the exercise is to force us to jettison mistaken beliefs about ourselves.

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By March 19, 2017 1 Comments

My psychopathic husband – the more I learned, the worse his behavior got

Spath TalesMarried in 1999, 2 children, I filed for a divorce January 2015, trial begins soon.

He was arrest for a DWI and Felony Aggravated Assault while drinking the first few years of our marriage, which got reduced.

I believed all his strange stories for years until 2009 when I caught him cheating and a lot of money went missing from our company. This is when I began suspecting everything he said because many times things didn’t add up.

The more I learned the worse his behavior got, and now it wasn’t just emotional abuse it became psychical and sexual.

I began really researching. Initially I would just google questions about his behavior and by 2011 I knew he was a Psychopath.

By March 17, 2017 0 Comments

He was lying up to the last minute of our relationship

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call Lana-Marie.

We met online. He was a perfect gentleman on our dates. We had several dates until he started talking about mind, body and spirit. (which meant sex to him) and I mentioned I do not have sex just to be having sex. That night he says let’s be boyfriend and girlfriend.

So we did become BF and GF. I assumed (stupid, but trusting, me) that he would take his dating profile down since now in a committed relationship. I took mine down and never looked again, until one day my GF called me and told me that she was just matched (online dating site) with him. AND that he was currently online searching.

Of, course I called him and he told me some bull story. He says he will take it down and not go on it again.

By March 16, 2017 7 Comments

Sociopaths Play “Whack-A-Mole”– With You!

Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 41B:

The mountain I had chosen to climb—that of my own emotional recovery in the context of an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship that I recognized as complicated and imperfect but not as “abusive”—was steep and high. Not only did I not have a cheerleader, I had the opposite—“crazy making,” deceitful unraveling of any attempt to regain emotional strength. Still, day-by-day and week-by-week, I elevated myself in my mind as someone who deserved happiness and had independent needs that deserved to be met. After a year of weekly sessions with Dr. Davis, I felt ready to lay the foundation for a different future. I needed a life that was not defined totally by being Paul’s wife and Jessica and Daniel’s mother.

By March 15, 2017 0 Comments

Texas woman discovers her fiancé is a con man and calls off wedding

Brett Joseph and Stephanie Hoskins

Brett Joseph and Stephanie Hoskins

Stephanie Hoskins, 23, was set to marry Brett Goodman, a wealthy oil worker from Australia, on March 31. Luckily, before she tied the knot, she discovered her fiancé was not who he claimed to be.

His real name is Brett Joseph, he’s an unemployed con man and love rat who defrauded dozens of women back in Australia.

Stephanie cancelled the wedding.

Texas woman calls off her wedding after discovering her fiancé is a Tinder love rat accused of defrauding dozens of women overseas, on DailyMail.co.uk

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By March 14, 2017 1 Comments

AP reveals alleged physical and emotional abuse in World of Faith Fellowship


Cult turn right

(Photo by Kevin Dooley)

The Associated Press recently published an expose in which 43 former congregants of the World of Faith Fellowship religious sect, based in Spinsdale, North Carolina, claimed they were physically and emotionally abused in the church.

They were “regularly punched, smacked, choked, slammed to the floor or thrown through walls in a violent form of deliverance meant to ‘purify’ sinners by beating out devils,” AP wrote.

Two assistant prosecutors in North Carolina, who were ministers of the church, have been charged with sabotaging investigations into the secretive sect. They allegedly provided legal advice and participated in a mock trial for four congregants who were charged with harassing a former member.

AP Exclusive: Ex-congregants reveal years of ungodly abuse, on APNews.com.

Prosecutors gone from jobs after AP report on church abuse, on USNews.com.


By March 13, 2017 16 Comments

How to attract a new relationship after the sociopath

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly at Longwood Gardens in February, 2017.

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly at Longwood Gardens in February, 2017.

Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader:

I have a question for you. I’ve been divorced for 3 years now from my ex-husband who had a porn addiction. I’ve tried the Internet dating sites on and off since, and have had nothing but bad experiences. What do you suggest I do/ how do I go about finding someone? I am really lonely and would like to have a man in my life. However, I’m so afraid of attracting the wrong kind still. If you have any suggestions, I’d be happy to hear them.

If you’ve had a run-in with a sociopath, before attempting to date again, you must first heal yourself. If you’re feeling lonely and afraid, it is an indication that you are not yet healed.

By March 12, 2017 0 Comments

Documentary producer Vivian McGrath reveals her abusive first marriage

Vivien Mcgrath

Vivian McGrath

When Vivian McGrath was an 18-year-old actress, she met a man at a party who swept her off her feet. He was handsome, intense and oozed sexual chemistry. They talked for hours. Vivian was already hooked.

She tells her story in her first-person article published in the Daily Mail. It sounds like all of the stories published on Lovefraud.

When Vivian was seven months pregnant with their child, her husband strangled her, and almost killed her. Yet when the baby was born, Vivian allowed him back into her life. Every child needs a father, right? He promised to change.

Well, we all know how that went.

After a few more years, Vivian left him for good. She recovered and remarried. Now she is telling her story.

Why I believe some women are ADDICTED to abusive men: Woman who was once trapped in a violent marriage gives a chilling insight into why she wouldn’t leave, on DailyMail.co.uk.