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Sociopaths are nothing but one-dimensional cartoon characters

Photo by Tigger11th

Photo by Tigger11th

Editor’s note: This comment was posted by the Lovefraud reader “Stargazer” a few weeks ago. Readers have asked that it be highlighted as a post.

By Stargazer

After the shock had worn off and I no longer took the lies personally, I became fascinated with sociopaths in general. I wanted to learn everything I could about them because I thought they were fascinating.

After a while, and after reading so many similar stories on Lovefraud, I found all the traits to be one-dimensional. It’s as if I were reading a novel that only skated on the surface of the characters – what they are doing, what they are wearing, etc., but never dipped below to examine their character or their motives. It became boring. I tried to scratch below the surface to see what the motivations were of sociopaths. All I saw was story after story of lies and deception with no real outcome except the life energy of the victims being sucked out of them.

Psychopaths are naturally skilled at spotting potential victims

Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

When I was married to James Montgomery, who was later diagnosed as a psychopath, we once attended a local trade show together. We ran into a woman whom I didn’t know at all and James barely knew. After about one minute of conversation, James started offering to help her with some project that she was working on.

“What did you do that for?” I asked James after we continued on our way.

“What?”

“Offer to help that woman. You hardly know her.”

“Do you know who she’s married to?” James asked. It was a man that he believed could possibly be useful to his plans.

Psychopaths are always on the lookout for people they might be able to manipulate. A study published by Canadian researchers seems to indicate they have an enhanced ability to spot and remember potential targets.

San Diego district attorney to present seminar on ‘Romance Scams and Love Fraud’

Romance scamWow — a financial institution in the U.S. is finally taking romance scams seriously. On Wednesday, March 1, 2017, the San Diego County Credit Union will present a seminar called “Romance Scams and Love Fraud.”

The speaker is Paul Greenwood, San Diego County deputy district attorney. He will cover current scams, romance scams and ways to protect yourself.

If you’re in San Diego, California, you may want to stop by. It’s from 12-1 p.m. PT at the San Diego County Administration Center, 1600 Pacific Coast Highway. The event is free, and they’ll even serve you lunch!

SDCCU Financial Wellness Wednesdays presents free seminar on romance scams and love fraud, on CUinsight.com.

 

UK children’s author Helen Bailey killed and dumped into a cesspit by her fiance

Ian Stewart

Ian Stewart

Ian Stewart, 56, the United Kingdom, was sentenced to 34 years in prison for murdering his fiance, author Helen Bailey, and her dog, and throwing both bodies into a cesspit under their home.

Judge Andrew Bright said it was “difficult to imagine a more heinous crime,” according to the BBC.

Helen Bailey met Stewart on a bereavement website after the death of her husband. While Bailey was planning their wedding, Stewart was planning to kill her. His goal, according to the judge, was to inherit her fortune.

Stewart drugged and then killed Bailey and her dog, but told authorities she had been kidnapped. Their bodies was found under their home in Royston, Hertfordshire, last July.

Helen Bailey murderer Ian Stewart jailed for 34 years, on BBC.com.

Helen Bailey’s fiance jailed for at least 34 years for cesspit murder, on DailyMail.co.uk.

Posted in: Media sociopaths

In A Relationship With A Sociopath, We Come To Accept the Unacceptable

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 40A:

Whether I was alone or on the phone with a friend or my mother, tears flowed daily. I felt worthless, entombed in quiet despair. Hardly anyone would argue that, with Daniel twelve and Jessica going on fifteen, parenting would be a breeze. Yet, my parenting unraveled far more than can be attributed to dealing with two young teenagers or preteens. I grew increasingly short-tempered with Daniel and Jessica and nagged them constantly.

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Learn to use EFT Tapping to heal your life – FREE 10-day online summit starts 2/27

Natural PsycholgistIf after dealing with a sociopath you’re feeling stuck, even trapped, in your life, EFT Tapping can help you break free and move forward. It’s an amazing technique that can heal deep emotional wounds, calm PTSD, and overcome health problems. I’m not kidding.

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. Tapping is what you do — with your fingers, you tap specific accupressure points, mostly on your face, while bringing to mind the situation that you want to address. This changes the energetic connection between your memory or perception of the situation and specific structures in your brain. When the energy changes, your life changes.

 

This stuff works. I’ve used it myself, and I’ve heard from plenty of Lovefraud readers who have used it as well.

On Monday, February 27, 2017, the 9th annual Tapping World Summit begins. It’s an opportunity for you to learn how to use this technique from the most famous practitioners in the field. It’s online, and it’s absolutely FREE.

Posted in: Donna Andersen

Don’t try to understand their lies, because sociopaths ARE the lie

Photo by Tigger11th

Photo by Tigger11th

Editor’s note: This comment was posted by the Lovefraud reader “Stargazer” a few weeks ago. Readers have asked that it be highlighted as a post.

By Stargazer

You can try endlessly to figure out why a sociopath lies, but you can never quite grasp it because the motives are not really human as we know it. Sociopaths themselves ARE the lie. They lie because they lie because they lie. They lie because they can. They lie because it’s fun. They lie because they want something in the moment. They lie because to them a lie has same value as telling the truth. Truth has no inherent virtue to them. And they mistakenly assume that because they lie, everyone lies. It is just a way of life to them.

Identifying and recovering from psychological abuse

Healing from Hidden_72dpiBook Review: Healing from Hidden Abuse, by Shannon Thomas, LCSW

Review by Donna Andersen

Mind games — everyone who has tangled with a sociopath, psychopath, narcissist or other exploiter knows them. The sociopath makes a statement, and then denies ever saying the words. You call out the sociopath’s bad behavior, and it’s all turned around on you. And the lies — well, the objective of lies is to poison your perceptions.

The more formal term for this destructive behavior is psychological abuse. And now there’s a book that explains exactly what psychological abuse is, why perpetrators engage in it, and the steps of recovery.

Healing from Hidden Abuse —A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse, was written by Shannon Thomas, LCSW. It’s the first book I’ve seen that specifically addresses the mind games played by disordered individuals.

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, holding free online chat 3/5/17 at 8 pm EDT

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, March 5, 2017 at 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the green highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  When the chat room is not open that link will take you to a page with info on the next group.  Hope to see you there!

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Romance Scams Part 4: Fake dating apps and malware

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Photo by Pat138241

Here’s yet another take on the dangers of online dating: The website Information Security Buzz reports that a number of fake dating apps have been created specifically to record your private data. And some dating sites have spread malware and malicious content.

So if you’re involved with online dating, not only do you need to worry about suitors using fake profiles to steal your heart and your money, but you also need to worry about your computer being infected with a nasty virus.

The risks associated with online dating just don’t quit.

The ins and outs of online love scams, on InformationSecurityBuzz.com.