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By October 23, 2016 2 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW offers free online support chat room on Oct 30th


Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, Oct. 30th, 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  Hope to see you there!

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By October 22, 2016 3 Comments

Donna Andersen explains sociopaths on Blog Talk Radio

This week, in recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I appeared on the Blog Talk Radio show, Golden Life Living with Charise. 

In this 43-minute interview, I explained some of the Red Flags of Love Fraud — the warning signs of sociopathic behavior. I also discussed typical sociopathic strategies for undermining their targets and the best way to avoid these predators.


By October 21, 2016 1 Comments

I almost left my husband for a narcissist

LETTERS LOGO 2Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Marguerite.”

Hi Donna. I have recently read your book Love Fraud and am now reading Red Flags of Love Fraud, both of which I found were excellent. I feel I am recovering from being in a relationship with a narcissist, although I feel blessed that things did not progress from the love bombing stage, which was exactly as you describe in your second book.

Showering me with attention

It was a very intense period of showering me with a huge amount of attention, adoration and admiration, and I now believe telling me the things I wanted to hear. I’m ashamed to say I was already married when I met him, and at the time wanted to leave my current relationship. I believe this left me vulnerable and gave the narcissist a way in – he was going to help me leave and support me in any way I needed and wanted.

By October 20, 2016 6 Comments

Marital Therapy With A Sociopath—Don’t Waste Your Time

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.


Chapter 28: All The World’s A Stage—To A Sociopath

I researched marital therapists, searching for a male counselor (hoping to make Paul more comfortable) with an office near Paul’s work so appointments would be minimally disruptive to his stressful, all-consuming job. And so the charade began.

By October 19, 2016 1 Comments

Banks in Singapore train employees to spot romance scams

Malaysian-Ringgit-375x150A flustered elderly woman walked into an OCBC bank branch in Singapore. Her “friend” was in trouble in Malaysia, and she wanted to send him money.

The woman knew her “friend” from the Internet. His bank details didn’t match his name. And if he was locked up by the police, how was he able to call the woman?

The bank customer service representative, Kristie Chiang, spent hours talking to the woman, trying to convince her that the request for money was a scam. Finally, the woman agreed to file a report with the police.

According to another employee, the bank continually trains them to watch out for romance scams, which is a massive problem in Asia.

Conflicting bank details raise alarm of love scam, on tnp.sg.


This weekend: How to get a toxic partner out of your life

Five Step ExitBy Amber Ault, Ph.D.

To celebrate the first anniversary of the publication of my book, The Five Step Exit: Skills You Need to Leave a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Other Toxic Partner and Recover Your Happiness Now, I’m offering two gifts to Lovefraud readers.

First, a free coaching call on Saturday, October 22, 2016 [12 noon Pacific 2 pm Central, 3 pm Eastern, 8pm London/Dublin]. On the call, I’ll share five skills you need to prevent a crazy-maker from making you crazy and offer free, live coaching, so you can get some relief from the crazy-making situation in your life.  To take part, sign up at amberault.com.

The second gift: this week, the digital edition of  The Five Step Exit: Skills You Need to Leave a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Other Toxic Partner and Recover Your Happiness Now is available on Amazon.com for $1.99. You don’t need a Kindle to get the Kindle edition; Amazon.com offers free software to let you read digital books on any device.

By October 17, 2016 1 Comments

Video: Basic rules for a custody battle with a sociopath

In this edition of “Letters to Lovefraud” videos, a reader is facing a custody battle with her son’s father, who she believes is a sociopath. She asks, “What are my options? Can I mention him being a sociopath in court without looking crazy?”

I explain the basic rules of a custody battle with a sociopath. I emphasize that this is not a court procedure with a reasonable person who wants what is best for the child. And I explain your most important tool for building your case.

By October 16, 2016 2 Comments

Discovering the double life: For 6 years, I was sleeping next to the devil (Part 2)

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Nadine.” Read Part 1.

I met my partner’s parents very early on in the relationship.

I was equipped with some knowledge about Narcs due to one of my friends having a Narc ex-mother-in-law. My radar was up, but unfortunately I was looking closely at mother and father instead of him.

I did not know about love bombing, so I had no clue he was even remotely like his parents. I knew she was bad news the day I met her. Father was the silent brooding intimating type. Throughout the relationship I was constantly standing my ground with boundaries that were continuously ignored or disrespected.

As the mask of my Narc started to slip, I blamed his parents for all of his problems. I started to loathe their presence in my life and how they had caused so much pain to the person I was committed to.

By October 15, 2016 1 Comments

Discovering the double life: For 6 years, I was sleeping next to the devil (Part 1)

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Nadine.”

When the mask of your Narcopath is ripped off in a split second you spend your days reeling from the shock of what you discovered. This is my story of how I took my power back and why I need to keep reminding myself it’s still in my hands.

The bad days make me forget I have the power; the good days make me grateful I do.

I’ll call him the Narc from this point forward, however I’m still unsure what his diagnosis is. He could be a sociopath/psychopath/anti social. My psychologist thinks he has a dual diagnosis of some type. He doesn’t fit any of the boxes neatly, but he is on the spectrum without a doubt.

By October 14, 2016 1 Comments

A reader’s proposal for a con artist database

con manEditor’s note: The following proposal was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Francine.”

I wrote a letter to my congressperson about proposing a national database, where someone can find out if a person has scammed others. As you know and other scams victims to do also, or will find out, there is little you can do criminally. I hope by posting by posting this on your forum, other members/victims will write to THEIR legislator and perhaps ONE of them will propose legislation. I know my local congressperson will NOT.

I was scammed out of thousands of dollars, and while it may be more emotionally satisfying to beat the crap out of him, not only is it illegal and unbecoming, it will do nothing to prevent this from happening to others, which is my best revenge.