10 Reasons why sociopaths really are losers

Pimp con man 200x300If you’re struggling to get over an encounter with a sociopath — whether a romantic relationship or some other involvement — keep this in mind: They are losers.

They are not worth any emotional energy that you are spending on them, or any pain that you feel. Here’s 10 reasons why:

 1 Sociopaths cannot love the way you do

The root of serious personality disorders — antisocial, narcissistic, borderline and psychopathy — is an impaired ability to love. These people cannot feel empathy like you do. They are not interested in caregiving – a critical component of real love. People diagnosed as antisocials or  psychopaths are not capable of love at all.

2. Sociopaths cannot be trusted

What do sociopaths really want in life? Power and control. Their objective is always to win – whatever that may look like at the moment. So they always have an ulterior motive, and for that reason, can never be trusted.

3. Sociopaths are empty inside

They have no real passion. Oh, they may have temporary obsessions, but they do not care deeply about any person, thing, place or ideal. Without any real depth, they are caricatures of human beings, cardboard cut-outs, creatures without substance.

4. Sociopaths have no real friends

They have minions. They have co-conspirators. They have dupes. But because of items 1, 2 and 3 above, sociopaths do not have friends. They really are alone in the world. It’s sad.

5. Sociopaths have no real family

Yes, they have parents, spouses, children and relatives (possibly including you), but no one involved will feel a sense of family. The sociopath will just take advantage of relatives, and any relatives who are not themselves disordered will feel abused.

6. Sociopaths’ schemes fall apart

They’re always coming up with get-rich-quick schemes, grandiose plans that depend on other people’s money. Sometimes the plans never get off the ground. Sometimes they get started, and then sputter to a halt. Sooner or later, sociopathic schemes usually fail.

7. Sociopaths have financial problems

Even when they have a job or profession, they often have financial problems. They get fired. They lose contracts. They get sued. But often when there’s a money crisis, other people pay, not them.

8. Sociopaths have legal problems

Many sociopaths are criminals. In fact the definitions of antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy refer to criminal behavior. But even those who aren’t arrested for crimes are frequently involved lawsuits, divorces and child custody battles. None of this really bothers the sociopaths, but it will bother you.

9. Sociopaths crash and burn

Sociopaths may race along for awhile, living on the edge – maybe even for years. But at some point, their unconscionable behavior tends to catch up with them. Their financial empires collapse. They end up estranged from everyone in their lives. They may finally be arrested. Sooner or later, for many sociopaths, it all falls apart.

10. Sociopaths tend to die earlier

Promiscuous sex, drugs, crime, violence – this is how many sociopaths live. Whether it’s health problems, accidents from risky behavior or angering the wrong person, many sociopaths end up dead. And those who don’t may suffer a lonely old age. If anyone takes care of them, it’s because of a sense of duty, although I don’t think it’s warranted.

If you’re struggling to break the bonds you feel with a sociopath, refer to this list. Really, they are not worth the aggravation.

19 Comments on "10 Reasons why sociopaths really are losers"

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  1. laclsa03 says:

    AMEN. I really needed to see this right now! Thank you for this website!

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  2. Imara says:

    Haven’t been on for a while…. but this article AND comments ring so many bells for me!!!!
    For those who do not know my story, my wolf in sheep’s clothing was my greatest life lesson.
    ALL the points in the article resonate…This man who I once thought of as a brilliant engineer Sr. Global position in multinational tech companies is AGAIN unemployed. Four jobs in four years…..this time though he must have become impatient and played hard enough to become named as a company’s officer in a class action suit by share holders. SEC investigations are brutal!!!!
    He has spent SO irrationally on lawyers and bling for his targets that I remain his first lien holder. ( Never going to see a dime of it).
    He has had to stay married to the woman he had an international long distance affair with…He is miserable and tries to pity play me CONSTANTLY!!!
    NO family relationships
    No relationship with my daughter…..My son has estranged himself from all of us.
    No friends.
    Shallow unhappy and miserable….Thank God I’m not with him now!!!
    He was SOOOOOO covert for 28 years I was never married and miserable. But once the mask slips……RUN and keep away!!!
    For me as well the greatest sorrow has been estrangement from my son.
    My daughter has openly told me that she is aware that she too has traits but makes conscious choices to be good. Almost seven years and I have a zero BS tolerance. Stargazer if you read this it came from one sentence you had written: “If its not fun I’m done!!!!”
    In a healthy happier place now!!!!

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