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Are sociopaths opportunists?

Sociopathic seductionEditor’s note: This is Part 2 of a two-part inquiry from the Lovefraud reader whom we call “Carlotta.” Read Part 1, “What if you see some signs of a sociopath, but not all of them?”

On another note, a personal concern of mine is that I may have chosen that sociopath, not the other way around. I was walking through a department store and out of the corner of my eye I saw a man standing still facing me. I looked up and he was smiling at me. I smiled back. Then we walked in separate directions. But later we passed one another in a different area of the store. I was lost and he was again just standing there smiling at me. I smiled and asked if he was lost like me. We then talked for a long time and exchanged cell numbers, etc.

Here are my concerns. Did I chose him or did he chose me? Do sociopaths wait like an eel in a cave, for the right time and victim to pass within their reach? Can sociopaths be THAT patient? Are some or all sociopaths opportunists rather than movers and shakers? Did that sociopath see me as a victim or possible victim from a distance before we even spoke? Because I don’t understand what happened, thinking about those questions rattles my nerves and makes me leery of speaking to any strangers.

Any insight you can give me about what happened and why is appreciated.

Donna Andersen responds

Yes, sociopaths are opportunists. People with antisocial personality disorder or psychopathy typically go through their days, and their lives, with their eyes open for people to exploit.

If a “mark” crosses their path, they’ll pounce.

Here’s what happens when a sociopath meets you:

  1. The sociopath sizes you up to determine if you have something that he or she wants.
  2. Then, the sociopath looks for your vulnerabilities.
  3. Finally, the sociopath figures out a way, using your vulnerabilities, to get what he or she wants.

Everyone is a potential victim

So did the sociopath see you as a victim from a distance? In a sense, yes, but you shouldn’t feel like you are weak or vulnerable, because sociopaths sees everyone as a potential victim.

People who are antisocial or psychopathic look at the world as predators and prey. They are the predators; everyone else is the prey.

You escaped

Carlotta, instead of being rattled, you should congratulate yourself. You recognized enough of the Red Flags of Love Fraud to end your involvement with this man in six days! That’s terrific!

We are not going to be able to go through life completely avoiding all sociopaths. There are simply too many of them, and they are everywhere.

But we can avoid becoming seriously damaged by them. That’s exactly what you did. You should be proud!

 

 


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  1. Escapefor1 says:

    I want to add something to Donna’s steps above, somewhere between 1. and 3. The spath will test you to see whether you will be likely to go along with his wishes. I realize in retrospect my ex tested me the first week he met me. And I went along. So, as they say, don’t give an inch, they’ll take a mile.

    Also there is a study in which psychopaths (I think ones in prison like rapists) accurately selected women who had been victimized merely be watching them walk a few steps, by their body language. Apparently victims carry themselves differently. So, maybe find out how to show confident body language to avoid being selected in public. And beware of men approaching you in public in unusual circumstances. A mall sounds perfect.

    Also, if I were looking for someone wealthy to move in with and take advantage of, stores catering to new homeowners would be ideal. They have a home and may need help or may be new to the area. Beware. One FBI profiler said she found many psychopaths working in contracting and construction.



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