Archive for June, 2015

What makes a psychopath, and why they don’t change

Richard Matt and David Sweat

Convicted murderers Richard Matt, left, and David Sweat.

America’s attention in recent weeks was focused on the Hollywood-worthy escape from prison by two convicted murderers — Richard Matt and David Sweat.

Matt is now dead. Sweat was shot, captured, and is now under guard at the Albany Medical Center in Albany, New York.

The media have referred to both of these men a psychopaths. Looking at their crimes, I agree.

Sweat was convicted of murdering Kevin Tarsia, Broome County Sheriff’s Deputy, in 2002. But he didn’t just shoot the sheriff. Sweat ambushed Tarsia in a town park, shot him multiple times and then ran him over with a car. Here’s the story:

David Sweat’s brutal path to prison, on PressConnects.com.

Richard Matt had a lifelong history of violence. So what was the crime that landed him in the New York prison? Matt kidnapped, tortured, killed and dismembered his former employer, 76-year-old William Rickerson. Here’s the story:

Alleged Charleston murderer Dylann Storm Roof: Perhaps a budding sociopath who never had a chance

Dylan Storm Roof

Dylan Storm Roof posted this photo on his website.

On the evening of June 17, 2015, Dylann Storm Roof sat in a Bible study group at the Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church, in Charleston, South Carolina, for 45 minutes. Then he pulled out a Glock .45 handgun and shot 10 people, killing nine of them.

All of the victims were African-American. One was the pastor of the church and a state senator, Rev. Clementa Pinckney. Two others were also pastors. Six of the victims were women; three were men.

Fourteen hours later, Roof, 21, of Eastover, South Carolina, was arrested and charged with the murders.

Many people, from politicians to celebrities to men and women on the street, are decrying the mass killing as an indication of virulent racism in America.

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: The Aftermath — The fight against the sociopath is 90% over

The Lovefraud reader who posts as “Winifred” has written about dealing with her husband’s sociopathic ex-wife. Read “The Other Prey — loving someone previously married to a sociopath” and “Survival tips when the ex is a sociopath.”

My husband’s ex sociopath wife and their 2 (now adult) children have been the focus of many of my writings to you and this site. I title this article “The Aftermath” because his youngest of the 2 children with her has just been emancipated at 19 by the state of Indiana, Thank God!

We are still facing 3 more years of college dealings with his ex, but the difficult, emotionally, mentally and physically tolling part is over … we hope!

My husband and I are now finding ourselves like 2 deer in the headlights, not quite knowing how to act or what to do with ourselves or our lives, as bizarre as that sounds! 

The chess game called divorce: Financials with a sociopath, Part 4 of 5

Part of a Now 5 Week Series:

Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath

Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath

Week 3: Preparing for Divorce

Week 4: Divorce and Aftermath Part A

Week 5:  Divorce and Aftermath Part B


Divorce and Aftermath Part A

Mother allegedly used daughter for fraud, until daughter killed her

Gypsy and Dee Dee Blancharde

Gypsy Blancharde, left (yes, that’s the young woman), and her mother, Dee Dee Blanchard. (Greene County Sheriff’s Office.)

Clauddinnea “Dee Dee” Blancharde, 48, was found dead at her home in Springfield, Missouri. Her daughter, Gypsy Blancharde, is suspected in her death.

But then authorities learned that Gypsy, who was somewhere between 19 and 23 years old, did not suffer from leukemia and muscular dystrophy, even though she was always seen in a wheelchair. According to a cousin, the mother apparently confined her daughter to a wheelchair and shaved her head so she could falsely collect benefits and money.

It was all, according to the cousin, a fraud.

A mother’s killing leads police to suspect her daughter’s faked disability was part of an elaborate hoax, on WashingtonPost.com.

Relative: Dee Dee and Gypsy were ‘ticking time bomb,’ on News-Leader.com.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

‘Married at First Sight’ reality TV show apparently cast a sociopath as the groom

Editor’s note: The Lovefraud reader “amille2” wrote the following critique.

I normally do not watch reality TV shows. The few that I have seen seem anything but real.

With that said, I was intrigued when A&E and the DIY networks promoted a show called, “Married at First Sight.” The premise is two people marry ……. without meeting in advance. The men and women are matched by a panel of experts: a psychologist, sexologist, spiritual advisor and a professor with a PhD in Sociology.  A modern twist on arranged marriages. They all claim the participants go through rigorous interviews evaluations, background checks, questionnaires, etc.

One would assume then that while the prospective spouse may not know whom they are marrying, they could at least expect the experts had weeded out a potentially harmful partner?

Posted in: Media sociopaths

New Jersey sex trafficking victim recovers her life

To say that the 38-year-old woman, identified as “M.S.” in Atlantic County court documents, had a hard life is a profound understatement.

Her father was murdered by a serial killer. Her abusive mother abandoned her. A boyfriend got her hooked on heroin. Then another man promised to help her get her son back, but forced her into prostitution.

M.S. eventually escaped, and helped put the trafficker in prison. Under a New Jersey law to help victims of sex trafficking, she just had her criminal record expunged.

It’s an unbelievable story, and evidence that no matter how bad things are, recovery is possible.

Atlantic County sex charges expunged for human-trafficking victim, on PressofAtlanticCity.com.


BOOK REVIEW: The Wise Lesbian’s Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships

Wise Lesbian GuideExploiters are everywhere. Personality disordered individuals can be found in all demographic groups — male, female, rich, poor, all races, all religions, all nationalities and all sexual orientations.

Amber Ault, Ph.D. is s clinical sociologist and a psychotherapist, and also a member of the Lovefraud Continuing Education team. She’s written a book called The Wise Lesbian’s Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting On with Your Life.

Reading the book, I was struck by how much exploitative behavior is the same, no matter what community is involved. There are some dimensions to the experience of becoming involved with a sociopath that are specific to the gay community, which I’ll discuss later in this article. But for the most part, the games, deceit and manipulation are exactly the same as among heterosexuals.

So anyone can benefit from Ault’s explanations, like this one: “A personality disorder is a psychological problem that makes *other people* crazy.”

Let’s Talk Financials with a Sociopath – Part 3 of 5

Part of a Now 5 Week Series:

Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath

Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath

Week 3: Preparing for Divorce

Week 4: Divorce and Aftermath Part A

Week 5:  Divorce and Aftermath Part B

Preparing for a Divorce 

Out of Denial

Now this is where it really gets ugly.  I am going to try and attempt to only highlight the business details of the story, not sure if it’s fortunate or not, but I think I will have enough juice to make a full short story of this.

Advice for Protecting Elderly Relatives from Sociopaths and Gold Diggers

Editor’s Note: Yesterday, Lovefraud posted a story from a reader whom we’ll call “Maura.” She describes how a female sociopath latched on to her recently widowed father, took over his life, and tried to hasten his demise. Read the story. Following are tips that Maura and her family learned the hard way.

Our Advice On How to Protect An Elderly Relative

This is our advice based on our experience to best protect an elderly relative should they marry a sociopath or a gold digger:

1. Immediately hire a private investigator to do a background check on  the new spouse. Verify marriage status, divorce and marriage history, career history, credit history, bankruptcy, ancestry, court records, previous lawsuits, registered businesses,  property ownership,  number and names of children and siblings in the family as well as trade  and university qualifications.  You can investigate this yourself but it takes a lot longer and you may not be aware of the places you need to search or have to pay to access the site.