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Archive for May, 2015

The Opposite of the Sociopath is the Libertarian

By John Hunt, MD

All who read Lovefraud.com know that sociopaths lie, cheat and steal, manipulate, control, defraud. Sociopaths seek out positions of power over others. The low functioning sociopath does this on a small scale—just ruining the life of an unsuspecting spouse, perhaps. The high functioning sociopath does this on a much grander scale, perhaps through the political system—ruining a country.

Sociopaths seek power. What better way to accomplish this than through politics? Think how much politicians have to lie to get elected. It is hard for a good person to get elected, in part because they don’t lie well. Sociopaths lie with practiced ease and no guilt. They concentrate themselves in government, quite naturally.

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Going Back to My Roots

My divorce papers finalized recently and my name was changed back to my maiden name.  I found myself signing my maiden name a couple times today and smiled.  I smiled because for some reason my maiden name means something to me.  It symbolizes who I really am.  Not because a name makes someone who they are, but because of who I was when I was that name.  Being with a sociopath for more than 10 years made me into a person that I was not; a person that I did not want to be.  I lost myself.  Every time I sign my maiden name or someone asks me my name, I feel relieved to respond because I feel like I am stating over and over again who I really am, not who I became.

Truth in Romance Day is coming! June 15th!

Truth in Romance DayBy Joyce M. Short

Most of us here on LoveFraud have been harmed by the lies and manipulations of sociopaths. Our hopes were dashed by betrayal, and we were sexually embroiled in hoaxes. Our struggle to recover our dignity has been a painful process.

Donna has long established this healing community where people can join together to support one another, and I’ve endeavored to raise awareness regarding the criminal nature of what takes place so that it will stop. In my effort to do so, I’ve created Truth in Romance Day to bring to light the painful harm emotional predators create when they deceive their target of sex or love.

The very first annual, international Truth in Romance Day will take place on June 15th. It’s a day to celebrate forthright behavior in sexual and romantic relations and bring the problem to the forefront of society’s consciousness. It’s a day that folks engaging in new relationships should share information to support what they’ve divulged about themselves by exchanging ID and any other documents that back their claims.

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Introducing a new Lovefraud author: “Peace in Chaos”

Candice Doyle photo storyLovefraud is pleased to announce a new contributor to our blog. She’s a woman who was manipulated into marrying a sociopath, pressured into having a child with him, and eventually realized, as we all do, that he was not the man he initially pretended to be.

In reality, he was a lying, cheating, womanizing, swindling … well, I’ll let her tell you about her experiences in her own way.

Because of the young child they share, she can’t reveal her identity, so she’ll be writing under the pseudonym of “Peace in Chaos.” Here’s her bio:

Peace in Chaos is a full time Mom and also a professional dance instructor. She went to school for Fine Arts, but ended up being a self-made entrepreneur, building a commercial construction company.

Mischele Lewis on the front page of the Philadelphia Daily News!

Mischele Lewis

Mischele Lewis on the cover of the Philadelphia Daily News.

Lovefraud has followed the story of Mischele Lewis, of Florence Township, N.J., who fought back against William Allen Jordan, an bigamist and international con man. Jordan is now serving time for fraud.

After reading media coverage about her plight (the original story was written by  Donna Andersen for the Daily Mail), New Jersey Assemblyman Troy Singleton, D-Burlington, wrote a bill to make “sex by deception” illegal.

Yesterday, Mischele was on the cover of the Philadelphia Daily News, interviewed for a story about the bill. Here it is:

Watch out, lovers who lie! Sexual assault by deception could become a criminal offense, on Philly.com.

Will Allen Jordan, aka Will Allen, on Lovefraud.com.

 

 

Commissioner blasts SEC for allowing criminal banks to continue business as usual

Kara M. Stein

SEC Commissioner Kara M. Stein

Last week five big international banks were found guilty of rigging international currency markets and fined $5.5 billion.

The very next day, the Securities and Exchange Commission issued the banks waivers from automatic punishment so they could continue business as usual.

SEC Commissioner Kara M. Stein did not agree with letting the banks off the hook and issued a scathing dissent. The banks — UBS, Barclays, Citigroup, JPMorgan Chase & Co, and the Royal Bank of Scotland — had already been granted a total of 23 waivers after previous wrongdoing.

Bank traders actually met in an online chat room called “The Cartel” or “The Mafia” and conspired to rig rates. The scheme ran for years.

According to USAToday:

“It is troubling enough to consistently grant waivers for criminal misconduct,” wrote Stein. “It is an order of magnitude more troubling to refuse to enforce our own explicit requirements for such waivers.

Why do psychopaths lie?

How to Spot a Liar — that’s the title of TED talk by Pamela Meyer, author of the book, Liespotting. A Lovefraud reader recently sent me a link to the video.

How to Spot a Liar, on HuffingtonPost.com.

In my opinion, the tips and techniques that she suggests in the video are helpful if you’re dealing with normal people. I’m not sure how useful they are when you’re dealing with psychopaths.

Meyer does point out that people who think liars look away and don’t make eye contact are mistaken. The research, Meyer says, shows that liars tend to look directly into your eyes. In fact, they hold your gaze longer than would seem normal.


Man who kept girlfriend in wooden box wanted for killing her

James Barton Horn Jr.

James Barton Horn Jr.

James Barton Horn Jr., of Sedalia, Missouri, is suspected in the murder of his girlfriend, Sandra Sutton, 46, and her son, Zacharay Wade Sutton, 17, who were found dead Thursday morning.

Horn had kept Sandra locked inside a wooden box in the home they shared, until she escaped on April 30. She had been staying with relatives.

Horn is at large and is considered to be extremely dangerous, according to police.

Suspect not found in Sedalia search after woman held captive in box is slain along with her son, on KansasCity.com.

Man who held Missouri woman captive in wooden box now suspected of killing her: Police, on NYDailyNews.com.

 

 

How to tell wicked sociopaths from ordinary sinners

Outraged blonde woman  with arms crossed on white backgroundEditor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

Quite a few people have been sending Lovefraud information lately on the religious and spiritual aspects of an experience with a sociopath. Here’s another link suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

5 Indicators of an evil and wicked heart, on Crosswalk.com.

The article is directed towards Christian counselors, to help them discern between people who have a truly evil heart, rather than an ordinary sinful heart. Read the article, and you’ll see that those with evil hearts are clearly sociopaths.

The author also identifies one of the key reasons why we don’t “see” evil: “We find it so difficult to believe that evil individuals actually exist.”

 

 

 

 

The Universe Wants You To Be With Your Psychopath – Is It True?

Editor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

By Jade Joddle

For those of us who are spiritually awakening or who have a well-developed third eye chakra, the experience of falling in love is a catalyst for peak spiritual experiences. This means that when falling in love, incredible, magical experiences may occur between oneself and one’s lover. Since such experiences are so out of this world, a person experiencing the strange phenomena may then search for meaning in them and conclude that the universe has united them with their partner because their relationship is ‘cosmically meant to be’.


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