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Archive for January, 2015

A father writes: Open letter to my son

 Happy African American Father and Mixed Race Son Playing PiggybaEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a man whom we’ll call “Scott.” Scott was involved with a woman who he now believes is a narcissist or sociopath. We’ll call her “Valerie.”

Valerie had a son and told Scott that he was the father, although he had his doubts. The two split up, but Scott supported the boy for 18 years and was active in his life. Then Scott found out that he was not the boy’s father, and Valerie is now doing everything she can to keep the boy away from Scott.

A father’s tragedy

I claim you as my son. I claim you as only a father can! However, you don’t claim me, the man who raised you.

The first time I saw your face your were born in the hospital. I shared your first minutes holding you. Touching your skin, counting toes and fingers, staring at you. I wanted a son and you came to me, reaching, crying for me.

After military romance scam, Australian woman fights back

fort bragg line filterTracee Douglas, 49, of Australia, was getting lonely as she cared for her elderly mother. So she went online looking for love. And she found a handsome soldier who wanted everything in life that she wanted — including opening an orphanage in Vietnam.

They fell in love. He sent her an engagement ring. And then he asked for money.

Well, as Lovefraud readers know all too well, the guy was a complete and utter fake, and it did not go well for Tracee Douglas.

But she fought back. And now she continues to fight back, helping other people who have been caught in military romance scams.

A Lovefraud reader heard Tracee Douglas being interviewed on the BBC. Listen to this shocking story here — it’s the first 16 minutes.

Scammed by my online love, on BBC.co.uk.

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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 2 of 2)

Spath TalesEditor’s note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Carmella.” Read Part 1.

I had been asking questions to the family friend about why the guys were either quitting or getting fired within a few weeks. My guy kept blaming them; they started out great but in his eyes they turned out to be lazy.

The next day is when I spoke to family friends that had worked for him only to be fired or had quit. He was bullying them and had told them what they did together stayed between them, don’t tell me.

They confirmed my suspicions, he had a fling with my old neighbor, was talking to other women on the phone, meeting other woman for lunch and kissing them goodbye etc. All the while telling me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that he loved me, he cared about me.

I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 1 of 2)

Spath TalesEditor’s note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Carmella.”

I met him on the job. He has an extensive background, a felon. He was a very hard worker, very charming, charismatic, exuded an excellent work ethic, polite, respectful, and impresses most with all of these qualities but mostly with work ethic. That is what impressed me, plus his intelligence.

I expressed that I hoped he got his life together once he was released because he was too intelligent and hardworking to have allowed himself to get into this trouble. Once I made that statement, it was on.

He was very aggressive in being polite, a gentleman, always there to help me and talk to me. He spent countless hours volunteering to work longer than necessary with me. He gave me a very nice and polite birthday card, not out of line at all.

Heather Mack, 19, and her boyfriend, indicted for murdering her wealthy mother in Bali

Heather Mack and her boyfriend, Tommy Schaefer.

Heather Mack and her boyfriend, Tommy Schaefer. (Instagram)

Last August, Heather Mack, 19, of Chicago, and her wealthy mother, Sheila von Weise-Mack, were on vacation at the St. Regis Hotel in Bali, Indonesia.

But when Weise-Mack’s body was found bludgeoned and stuffed in a suitcase, her daughter and her daughter’s boyfriend, Tommy Schaefer, 21, were charged with murder.

If found guilty, they face death by firing squad.

Heather Mack, who is seven months pregnant with Schaefer’s child, was recently granted access to her $1.56 million trust fund to pay attorneys for her defense.

American ‘Bali suitcase murder’ suspect wanted to hire a $50,000 hit man to kill her mom, prosecutors say, on WashingtonPost.com.

Teen charged in mom’s Bali murder to get payment from trust fund, on ChicagoTribune.com.

 

American Sniper: Sheep, wolves and sheepdogs

Bradley Cooper as Chris Kyle in "American Sniper."

Bradley Cooper as Chris Kyle in “American Sniper.”

American Sniper, starring Bradley Cooper and directed by Clint Eastwood, is one very intense movie. It tells the story of Chris Kyle, the Navy SEAL sniper with 160 officially confirmed kills, although in his memoir of the same title Kyle says he probably killed twice that number.

Regardless of what Lovefraud readers may think about war, guns, the military, Iraq, etc., I want to talk about one scene from the beginning of the movie.

In the scene, Chris Kyle is a boy of perhaps 11 or 12, sitting at the dinner table with his family. Earlier in the day, he got into a fight to protect his younger brother. Kyle’s father uses the incident to gravely address his boys. He says:

Telepathic experience with a sociopath: ‘It was an absolute terror’

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Clint.”

You have heard the story hundreds of times. I was a naive do-gooder with a new friend that i just could not figure out. Last night, he explained himself to me in way I would not have believed possible.

A little background on me: I am an engineer/scientist in my education and way of thinking. I do not believe anything that cannot be proven in a controlled experiment or supported by scientific data. I do not believe in magic, ghosts, ESP, UFO’s, voodoo, witchcraft, good & evil, etc. etc. That is until last night. I realize now that i should not dismiss things not fully understood.

Sunday Jan. 25: NBC Dateline tells how Mischele Lewis exposed bigamist con man Will Jordan

Mischele Lewis and Will Jordan

Michele Lewis, left, and Will Jordan, attended friend’s wedding.

Lovefraud has been writing about William Allen Jordan for years — the guy who pretended to be a CIA agent, and then a British Defense Agency bodyguard, when in reality he was a con man.

He served prison time for swindling multiple women in the U.K., then returned to his home in New Jersey and starting swindling again.

But one of Jordan’s victims, Mischele Lewis, of Florence Township, New Jersey, turned the tables on him, and got him exposed, arrested and prosecuted.

This Sunday, January 25, at 7 p.m., NBC Dateline tells the story. Here’s the show:

Mystery Man, on NBCnews.com/dateline

Lovefraud con man William Allen Jordan – AKA Liam Allen – busted by his latest victim in New Jersey, on Lovefraud.com

Childhood adversity and psychiatric disorders affect our cells

New research suggests that cells can be affected, and the aging process accelerated, by childhood adversity or psychiatric disorders at any age.

“Stress exposure and psychiatirc conditions are associated with inflammation and health conditions like diabetes and heart disease,” said the study’s author, Audrey Tyrka, M.D., Ph.D., as reported by MedicalExpress.com.

Connection between childhood adversity and psychiatric disorders seen at cellular level, on Medical Express.com.

Thanks to the Lovefraud reader who recently posted this link in a comment.

Posted in: Scientific research

She told me to give her money or stay out of our child’s life

Spath TalesEditor’s note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Sebastian.”

Dated a female sociopath over 3-4 years and have a child with her. The child is now over 2 years old.

She was held for 72-hour observation on average once every 3 months. Constant shoplifter, abused Rx medications, and would cheat on occasion.

The stealing and drug-use was accompanied by remarks, for example, “I stole cause you don’t give me enough money,” or “prescription medications are fine because doctors prescribe them,” and “I did it cause you didn’t pay enough attention to me.”

I was working 40+ hours a week, going to school full time, and still taking her to 4 therapy sessions a week. During this time she did not work and was filing for disability.