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Archive for August, 2014

Researchers use light to change memories in mice

Researchers at the Massachusetts Intstitute of Technology have found a way to change good memories into bad ones, and bad memories into good ones — at least in mice. The researchers used light to switch particular neurons in the brains of mice on and off, which had the effect of changing their memories.

Although the findings are very preliminary, experts believe the technique may lead to more effective therapies for people suffering from depression, anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder.

Light can switch bad memories to good, on USAToday.com.

Using light technique, scientists find dimmer switch for memories in mice, on NYTimes.com.

Posted in: Scientific research

Cop allegedly violates the women he stops for traffic violations

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Daniel Holtzclaw, 27, a Oklahoma City police officer, allegedly “required” women to undress during traffic stops and then forced them to perform sexual acts on him.

Don’t police recruits take an oath to be the good guys? Daniel Holtzclaw, from Oklahoma City, must have been absent the day the police academy taught that idea because Holtzclaw has allegedly been stopping women for traffic violations and then sexually assaulting them.

Holtzclaw, who’s been on the Oklahoma City police force since 2011, has been arrested on rape, sodomy and sexual battery charges for acts committed during traffic stops. Police Chief Bill Citty reported that they are aware of seven women  Holtzclaw allegedly has assaulted, but it is possible more may come forward.

He is being held in Oklahoma County jail on a $5 million bond.

OKC cop accused of rape, sexual assault of at least 7 women during traffic stops, from AOL.

Struggling with no contact?

No contact is of the utmost importance when it comes to recovering from any unhealthy relationship.  Why, then, can it be so hard to maintain?  How is it that we can do so well for long stretches and then become instant Jell-O with seemingly little warning?

Of the myriad of struggles we may experience during recovery, this seems to be one of the most common snags.  The cold reality is that we are going through withdrawal and there is no methadone to ease the pain of this addiction.  Making matters worse, each and every time we break it, the clock starts over, feeling worse than we did previously.

However, from experience, I know that we do get to the point where we truly do not care to emotionally interact with our past counterparts.  We also genuinely get to the point where their attempts yield little or no emotional response from us.  At the same time, I also know that the road to that place can be quite long and challenging.

If his eyes could talk when he walked out, they would have said “this pond’s been fished out”

Spath TalesEditor’s Note: This Spath story was submitted by Lovefraud reader “Christina2014”

I met him while I was working as a designer.

He was homeless, penniless, hitchhiking through the country.

He told me that his family disowned him and that he is a writer/activist. He introduced himself with a fake name at first, but later, when he realized that I was a worthwhile victim, he gave me his real name and decided to camp out in my life for a while.

I helped him get his identifications (he told me he burned them out of protest, finding out years later that he skipped parole in Illinois), drove him to GE classes and helped him even to enroll into College.

During the 14 years we were together he didn’t work for ten years because he was writing the “great American novel.”

Students develop scientific way to reduce date rapes

Four students from North Carolina State invented a nail polish that can detect date rape drugs.

Four students from North Carolina State invented a nail polish that can detect date rape drugs.

Four students from North Carolina State University invented “Undercover Colors,” a  nail polish that can detect if a date-rape drug has been added to a drink.

A woman wearing the nail polish just stirs her drink with her finger. If a drug is in the drink, the nail polish changes color.

The nail polish is a scientific attempt to thwart a nationwide problem. A recent Washington Post analysis showed more than 3,900 allegations of forcible sex offenses on college campuses nationwide in 2012, a statistic that rose 50 percent in three years

Undercover Colors is currently raising cash to refine its prototype and pay executives. “We are early in the R&D stage for this important product,” says Tyler Confrey-Maloney, a spokesperson for the product, according to the Triangle Business Journal.

New York couple releases two Amish girls after 24 hours in captivity

Stephen Howells and Nicole Vaisey

Stephen Howells and Nicole Vaisey mug shots.

In upstate New York, Nicole Vaisey and her boyfriend Stephen Howells Jr. allegedly lured two Amish girls, ages seven and 12, away from the family vegetable stand they were working and into their car.

St. Lawrence County Sherriff’s Sgt. Brooks Bigwarfe said the couple shackled the girls and intended on turning them into slaves.

According to police, the pair got frightened by news reports and released the girls 24 hours after their capture  some 30 miles from where they had been abducted. Authorities revealed that the girls had been sexually assaulted while in captivity.

Nicole Vaisey’s defense attorney says the woman was Howells’ slave. “She was in a master-slave relationship,” Bradford Riendeau said, according to the Associated Press. “I believe she’s not as culpable as he is.”

Couple Used Dog to Lure Amish Girls, Police Say, from abcNews.

Robin Williams, suicide and sociopaths

Robin Williams

Robin Williams

Like millions of fans around the country and the world, I gasped when I heard the news: Robin Williams was dead of an apparent suicide.

How could it be? He was so funny! Every time I watch Birdcage I practically fall off the sofa laughing.

And he was such an amazing talent! In Good Morning Vietnam, Williams ad-libbed all of the Adrian Cronauer’s broadcast scenes. And the movie Aladdin was rejected for an Academy Award for Best Adapted Screenplay because Williams, as the Genie, ad-libbed so many lines.

See some of Williams’ magnificent improvisations here:

Robin Williams Ad-Lib: Remembering the late, great actor with 9 of his greatest improvised moments, on IBTimes.com

But it turned out that, like many comics, Robin Williams’ humor was born of pain. He struggled with depression and substance abuse, and on August 11, 2014, the pain became too great. He hanged himself.

I had a seven-year affair with my sociopath pastor

Spath Tales

Editor’s note: This story was written by a reader whom we’ll call “Carlotta.”

My story began rather sad. I met the P when I was almost 15.

I am 22 now and had dated this man for seven years in a secret relationship that no one knew about. At that time (seven years ago), he was married for a year and was a pastor of a church.

He began using his authority to get close to me and hang out with him more and one day approached me and told me that he is attracted to me and loves me, also mentioning that he feels so loved by me and no one else.

He said his wife had cheated on him with someone else and he receives no love from her whatever and really loves me. I was confused at the time but he charmed me away and I let all my guards down. He made me feel like I was on the top of the world.

Selena Thomas declines marriage proposal, ends up dead

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Selena Thomas and Alfredo Martinez, from her Facebook page.

Selena Thomas, of Nampa, Idaho, was surprised when her boyfriend, Alfredo Martinez, unexpectedly showed up at her job with an engagement ring and proposed. But Thomas’ response was that “they’d talk about it at home later.” Probably not what the man her co-workers called “a very controlling guy” wanted to hear.

A few days later Thomas didn’t show up for work, or respond to phone calls or text messages. Her mother, Lori Moon, reported her missing.

Investigators found Thomas’ car in the driveway with the keys in it. The carpet in the  trunk had been removed,  and there appeared to be blood smears near a trunk hinge.

Selena Thomas’ body was later found in a corn field in a remote area near Snake River. Martinez is being held, although he hasn’t yet been charged. Three men were charged with helping Martinez cover up Thomas’ death: Daniel Francisco Sena, Jose Cruz Flores and Jorge Luis Garcia.

My ‘knight in shining armor’ turned out to be a sociopath

SPATH TALES

Editor’s note: The following was written by “Cajungirl.”

I found my “knight in shining armor” as a single mom of a six-month-old baby. My boyfriend was too good to be true to myself and my son. I fell in love quickly and soon life was easier and we settled into home life.

Three years later I am pregnant with my second child and decided to marry the man I loved.

He traveled 4-5 days a week so we decided I would be the at-home caregiver.

My relationship changed abruptly when I began to feel isolated and out of touch. I had to fight for a part time job to have a social outlet. I was a fine dining server and enjoyed the easy money that was mine. I had to work only when my husband was home to take care of the kids.