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Archive for May, 2014

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW: Support group for destructive relationships

Mary Ann Glynn adBy Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, located in Bernardsville, New Jersey

Last summer I got a support group off the ground comprised of clients, all of whom had been in a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath or combination thereof. The reason I began the group is because, first of all, there appears to be an epidemic out there of conscience-free people who are destroying the lives of their partners. Just in my practice there were enough clients to start a group. Now there are many others.

“Nobody heals alone”

Traumatic Bonding: When You Love Your Abuser

Last Memorial Day weekend, as I was picking out flowers for my mom and dad’s graves, my dad kept coming to my mind:  What flowers would he like?……..Red was always his favorite color, I’ll get some red flowers……I should put a little American flag with his flowers, he would like that…….

There were a lot of scary, unsettling times in my life with my parents, but one thing that stayed pretty consistent was the soft spot I had for my dad.  It sounds odd, because I was terrified of him.

Letting your guard down was never an option.  The smallest thing would trigger a violent rampage.  Yet, I’ve always had an inexplicable fondness for my dad.  There were many times during my childhood when I defended him.

Reality is:  he was not only a conscienceless sociopath, he was also a child molester.  I know this.  I should say my brain knows this, because it never quite reached my heart.

The Sociopath as Coach, Part II

Some sociopaths make the “best” coaches.

At least, that’s what everyone thinks at the time.

So during the athletic banquet at the end of each season, people will often spend more time applauding this beloved individual than they do the young players on the team. Even if those players just broke six individual records.

Parents will send “thank you” cards and gifts by the dozen to this coach.

Particularly if he or she’s also charming, humble, and from the same hometown.

They’ll talk constantly for weeks and even months about how happy they are that this particular coach came into their child’s life. How this person changed everything. Built confidence. Gave a sense of accomplishment. Brought out the best.

Florida sheriff’s officers accused of rigging child custody case

The Lovefraud reader Anne Stevenson has written another article about corruption in the family court system. This time it’s in Florida, where Broward Sheriff’s Deputies David Benjamin and Jeff Alan Poole were charged with rigging a child custody case.

Broward County Sheriff’s deputies aiding Ponzi schemes, prostitutes and corruption, on Commdiginews.com

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After 30 years, hit man admits to New Jersey murder

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Larry Thompson admits he killed Maria Marshall in 1984 NJ Garden State Parkway murder

Late night. Husband and wife on the way home from a night out, pull into the highway rest stop. Husband gets out of the car to check the rear passenger side tire. Thunk. Husband is knocked out. Bang. Bang. Wife in the car is dead; shot twice in the back with a .45 caliper gun. Her body is staged and her purse is thrown out the window.

Sound like a movie? It is — well, actually  it is a TV miniseries based on author Joseph McGinniss’ book  Blind Faith. Most importantly it is the real life story of how Robert Marshall hired a hit-man to kill his wife, Maria Marshall. The hit man was Larry N. Thompson.

Political correctness and vulnerability to sociopaths

Mark Cuban, tech entrepreneur, star of the TV show Shark Tank, and owner of the Dallas Mavericks pro basketball team, sparked a firestorm on Twitter last week when he admitted to being a bigot.

The firestorm was based on the sound bite:

I know I’m prejudiced. I know I’m bigoted, in a lot of different ways. If I see a black kid in a hoodie on the same side of the street, I’m probably going to walk to the other side of the street.

Some of those who lambasted Cuban ignored the continuation of his statement:

If I see a white guy with a shaved head and lots of tattoos, I’m going back to the other side of the street. If I see anybody that looks threatening, chances are there’s part of me that takes into account race and gender and age. I’m prejudiced. But other than safety issues, I always try to catch my prejudices and recognize and be very self-aware that my stream of thought is never perfect and I’ve got to be careful. To me, that’s part of growing up.

The Sociopath and His Dog

I’ll start by saying that the “his” in my title comes from the fact that this story is about my sociopathic male ex. That being said, I’m sure many of you can think of women who fit this unique description of an “animal lover.”

So let’s begin.

My ex loves to tell people how much he loves dogs. He’ll also say he loves horses and sheep and cows and chickens and all other sorts of farm and wild animals, but dogs are tops.

And there’s something really unique about the way a sociopath “loves” a vulnerable creature. It’s confusing, wonderful, horrifying, and most often blindsiding. Sometimes, it’s even used to shame others. Like me.

Convicted murderer, Bernie Tiede, casts a sociopathic spell over filmmaker Richard Linklater

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Jack Black plays convicted killer Bernie Tiede in the movie “Bernie.”

Editor’s note: Missy Beattie has written for National Public Radio and Nashville Life Magazine. She was an instructor of memoirs writing at Johns Hopkins’ Osher Lifelong Learning Institute in Baltimore. Email: missybeat@gmail.com

The Bernie Tiedes  story

By Missy Beattie

Bernie Tiede was released from prison, the Telford Unit, on May 6, 2014. Convicted in 1999, the former Carthage, Texas mortician was 38 when he fired four shots into the back of his companion, 81-year-old Marjorie Nugent, and stuffed her body in the freezer beneath the Marie Callender pot pies. Bernie indulged, spending Marjorie’s money and lying as to her whereabouts until she was found nine months after her death.

Read about this case here:

Man convicted of murdering companion, stuffing body in freezer, on Amarillo.com

Over 15 years, a town’s stance on a convict shifts, on NYTimes.com

The “Functional Female Sociopath”…..Good For Society?

According to various opinions, not all sociopaths are created equal. There are the “non-functional” sociopaths (i.e., serial killers) and “functional” sociopaths (i.e., successful sociopaths).  The functional female sociopath uses her lack of empathy to annihilate those pesky male counterparts (or, frankly, anyone who gets in the way), paving the way for woman-kind.

Yay them!  Right?   I mean, why can’t functional female sociopaths be on the same playing field as functional male sociopaths?  Well, they can be.  And they are.  The last time I checked, evil is still evil.  You can put a dress suit and lipstick on it, or you can put starched collars and neckties on it, sociopathy is still a blemish on humanity regardless of how you dress it up.

What I’m referring to is the piece Donna posted last Monday (May 19, 2014).   HuffPost Live featured a live chat discussing Digg.com’s article “The Female Sociopath“, featuring the article’s author Merve Emre, Donna, Dean Haycock (author of Murderous Minds), and a diagnosed female sociopath.

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: People will never understand I am married to a sociopath

Editor’s Note: This Letter to Lovefraud was submitted by reader whom we’ll call “Juniper.”

I have been married for 22 years and have five children. I realized the first year of our marriage that I had married a “psycho” but thought I could help him with my unconditional love and support. He is completely controlling, manipulative, abusive, selfish, and has never shown empathy or compassion to me or our children. He doesn’t have relationships with his kids because he chooses not to bond with them.

I stayed with him because I believed there must be some good somewhere in him, after all, he was a born again Christian, knew almost every verse in the Bible from memory and sometimes preached on Sundays. Deep down he was a “good” man and I believed he just needed the love and support of a good woman to turn him around.