I believe true recovery from sociopathic betrayal is literally in our own hands.
Many people have quietly become aware of a healing technique known by several names: tapping, energy psychology, emotional freedom technique (EFT). Using this approach, many people have recovered from emotional pain, physical pain, illness, anxiety, depression and PTSD.
So what is it? With your fingers, you tap certain points on your body — mostly on your face — while bringing to mind specific aspects of the condition that you want to heal. The tapping creates an electrical charge that breaks the connection between your memory of your experience and how you feel today.
It doesn’t matter when the past experience happened. I’ve often written here on Lovefraud that sociopaths come into our lives because of a pre-existing vulnerability. We have suffered a previous hurt, betrayal or misunderstanding, and the trauma is still buried in our subconscious. Sociopaths, with their uncanny ability to discover our vulnerabilities, use them to hook us.
Tapping enables us to not only recover from our most recent betrayals, but from the long-buried injuries as well.
A new book called The Tapping Solution: A revolutionary system for stress-free living, by Nick Ortner, was released last year. It’s now a best-seller.
The reason I’m posting about this now is because you can see The Tapping Solution movie online for free until December 20, 2013. In the movie, you can follow as 10 ordinary people with a variety of problems — grief, fibromyalgia, fear, anxiety, pain — learn how to use the tapping technique, and how it helps them. The movie also includes interviews with doctors, researchers and practitioners of tapping.
Watch the movie here:
The movie is about an hour and a half long. You’ll get an overview of the tapping technique, and explanation from several experts of how and why it works, and see how the 10 ordinary people used it for their own healing.
Promise of Energy Psychology
I haven’t yet read The Tapping Solution, but I read another book on the topic called The Promise of Energy Psychology, by David Feinstein, Donna Eden and Gary Craig. I was so thoroughly impressed by the book that I became convinced that this approach is the future of healing.
Energy psychology, Feinstein explains, is a combination of ancient Eastern techniques for shifting the energies of the body and conventional Western ideas in psychology. When you use the technique, you are tapping on special acupuncture points to change your conditioned responses. Feinstein writes:
Stimulating energy points on the skin, paired with specified mental activities, can instantly shift your brain’s electrochemistry to:
- help overcome unwanted emotions such as fear, guilt, shame, jealousy, or anger,
- help change unwanted habits and behavior, and
- enhance you abilities to love, succeed, and enjoy life.
Feinstein isn’t a New Age charlatan. He is trained as a clinical psychologist and spent seven years on the faculty at Johns Hopkins University. Here’s his website: www.innersource.net.
One of the really difficult psychological problems that energy psychology has proven to resolve is PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder. How does it do this? It breaks the connection between a trigger and the body’s autonomic nervous system, which generates the fight, flight or freeze responses. For this reason alone, I believe any Lovefraud reader who is suffering from PTSD should investigate energy psychology.
Tapping is easy. You can do it as often as necessary, and it can’t hurt you. You don’t even have to believe in tapping for it to work. Once you learn the technique, you can do it yourself, which makes it free.
If you have severe psychological problems, you should probably consult with a trained practitioner. You can find them here:
Why tapping works
Here’s what I really like about this tapping technique — it’s founded in science, although not necessarily conventional science.
As part of The Tapping Solution video event, the author posted a half-hour video interview with Bruce Lipton, a cellular biologist and best-selling author. I actually liked this interview better than the movie, because Lipton explains, from a scientific perspective, how our mind works and how we can use our mind to heal ourselves.
I am so impressed with Bruce Lipton’s explanation of how our mind determines our biology that I will post another video tomorrow in which he goes into even greater detail about the science of it.
This technique works
Tapping can relieve emotional and physical pain, which is huge. But it can also do more.
EFT tapping can help you achieve personal goals that require peak performance. In fact, the Energy Psychology book contains several examples of competitive athletes who enhanced their skills through tapping.
Tapping can help you anytime you need to be at your best, such as during a presentation. That’s how I’ve used it.
All my life, I never thought of myself as a public speaker. But since my run-in with a sociopath, and after learning so much about the disorder, I now have something important to say. That means I’ve had to become comfortable with getting up in front of people and speaking, which, as you probably know, many people fear more than death.
So I used tapping to alleviate my stress about public speaking and increase my comfort level. I’ve also used tapping to deal with remnants of the pain about my losses due to the sociopath, which still, 13 years after my divorce, occasionally crop up.
I can say that tapping works.
Help me do research
So why haven’t you heard of tapping before? Because big pharmaceutical companies and medical organizations have no incentive to tell you about it.
Much of today’s medical research is either done or paid for by pharmaceutical companies. Energy psychology and energy medicine do not need drugs! If everyone used the self-healing techniques of energy, Big Pharma companies would out of business.
I believe tapping and energy psychology have tremendous potential as techniques for healing from the betrayal of the sociopath. However, I don’t yet have data to back up this belief. So can you please help me with research?
If you try tapping, let me know how it works for you. Does it dissipate your emotional pain? Does it relieve your physical pain? Perhaps you can even keep a journal of your use of EFT tapping and the results.
If tapping is really a solution, I want to tell everyone that it works.