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Archive for July, 2013

The sociopath, dogs and manipulation

Editor’s note: The following another essay by the Lovefraud reader Quinn Pierce, who writes under a pseudonym.

By Quinn Pierce

The first thing I did when my husband and I moved into our first home together was adopt a puppy. I had grown up with many pets, and I can’t remember a time when I didn’t have a dog. I always felt dogs made a home more complete. So, I was thrilled when Ellie, a Border Collie, Golden Retriever mix arrived at my door step, literally.

At the time, I was working as a veterinary technician. I had graduated from college in May, gotten married the following fall, and decided to explore my childhood dream of becoming a veterinarian. One morning, when I arrived at the veterinary hospital to begin my shift, I was greeted at the door by a squirming box that made the telltale sounds of puppies that had been abandoned sometime that night. Unfortunately, this was not an uncommon occurrence. What was unusual, however, was opening the box to find eleven of them.

Open letter to Huma Abedin: You’re married to a sociopath

Huma Abedin

Huma Abedin photographed for Vogue in 2007

Dear Ms. Abedin,

People are perplexed. Your husband, Anthony Weiner, has humiliated you — again. Yet at a press conference last week, you continued to support him, and his candidacy for mayor of New York City. “I love him. I have forgiven him. I believe in him,” you said.

Why would you do this? Speculation by media pundits, New York City voters and average citizens usually follows three themes:

  1. You want to keep your family together at all costs.
  2. You believe you can help your husband overcome his problems.
  3. You are a political animal and will do anything to get your husband elected.

Read: Why does Huma Abedin put up with Weiner?, on CNN.com.

Deceptive fundraising at “America’s Worst Charities”

The Tampa Bay Times and the Center for Investigative Reporting have just released a list of America’s 50 worst charities. When telemarketers and other solicitors contact you on behalf of these charities, they keep almost all of the money that they raise. According to the report:

The 50 worst charities in America devote less than 4 percent of donations raised to direct cash aid. Some charities give even less. Over a decade, one diabetes charity raised nearly $14 million and gave about $10,000 to patients. Six spent nothing at all on direct cash aid.

America’s 50 worst charities rake in nearly $1 billion for corporate fundraisers, on TampaBay.com.

Our list of the 50 worst charities, on TampaBay.com.

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.

 

Minnesota woman scams $840,000 from elderly neighbors

Carolyn J. Cassar, of Rochester, Minnesota, continually suffered terrible tragedies and needed money. Her daughter died in a car crash. Her ex-husband was accused of killing her sister overseas. Unfortunately, her elderly neighbors believed the tales of woe. Over six years, they gave her $840,000. Cassar has pleaded guilty.

Rochester woman with dream of lavish villa told wild tales to bilk $840K from elderly couple, on StarTribune.com.

The end of the article reports that every year, approximately 2.1 million elderly Americans are victims of abuse, neglect or exploitation. It’s a problem that is only going to get worse.

 

Charles Manson and Dale Carnegie

While we’re talking about famous serial killers, how about a man whose name is synonymous with brutal murder — Charles Manson? A new book on Manson, to be released next month, reveals that the criminal participated in Dale Carnegie training while in prison, before he became a cult figure. According to a pre-release book review:

In his new book, Manson: The Life and Times of Charles Manson, author Jeff Guinn credits Carnegie training with transforming Manson from “a low-level pimp” to the “frighteningly effective sociopath” who created a cult of killers in the late 1960s.

Read the review: Charles Manson’s turning point: Dale Carnegie classes, on Businessweek.com.

I haven’t read the book, but I am positive that Manson was a sociopath before he took the Dale Carnegie classes. Perhaps he learned tips and techniques, but he certainly had an innate ability to con and manipulate. He eventually became a cult leader, and I believe that cult leaders are simply sociopaths who take their manipulative behavior to a level far above run-of-the-mill predators. I wrote about this in a previous Lovefraud article:

BOOK REVIEW: My Friend Dahmer

My Friend DahmerEditor’s Note: The following review was written by “Sellenna,” a Lovefraud reader. To see a picture of Jeffrey Dahmer, check out the CNN slideshow in the recent Lovefraud article, “The Boston Strangler and other famous serial killers.”

If you like books about psychopaths and true crime, I highly recommend a graphic novel called “My Friend Dahmer,” written and illustrated by comic book artist and journalist Derf Backderf, a former high-school classmate and acquaintance of serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer. It’s a comic book, but it deals with very adult themes; some that are quite unsuitable for children. In this book, Backderf describes what Dahmer was like as a teenager before he committed his first murder at the age of eighteen, after he left high school.

Posted in: Book reviews

Seasons of change

I would like to thank the Lovefraud community for allowing me to be part of your journey.  It is with sadness that I am announcing my departure from regular contributions, at least for the time being.  However, I promise to check in from time to time with articles, as I am able.

I am about to embark on a new path, one which I must dedicate myself to fully, in an effort to further our cause and others equally as important.  Back in 1829, Supreme Court Justice Joseph Story asserted, “The law is a jealous mistress and requires a long and constant courtship.”  I suppose I concur.  Therefore, I must go tend to that relationship.

Finding strength and surprises  

Sexual predators for mayor: Anthony Weiner and Bob Filner

My husband and I live in New Jersey, close enough to New York City that when Terry goes to the local convenience store for coffee, he can also buy the New York Post. He loves the paper’s clever, double entendre headlines and pull-no-punches stories. So when he heard Anthony Weiner was going to run for mayor of New York, he was thrilled. “I can’t wait to get the paper,” he chortled. “It will be full of Weiner jokes!”

Yesterday the news broke—Anthony Weiner was at it again, sexting women he never met.

He held a press conference declaring that his behavior was wrong, it was behind him, and he was still a candidate for New York City mayor. His wife Huma Abedin was by his side. She read a statement, saying she loved and believed in her husband, forgave him, and they were moving forward.

Leaving the sociopath, applying for food stamps

Editor’s note: The following essay is by a Lovefraud reader who writes under a pseudonym.

By Quinn Pierce

This isn’t exactly the interview I had prepared for. As a matter of fact, this wasn’t an interview I even knew how to prepare for. All I knew was that somewhere along the way, my life had taken a detour without any warning. Looking back, it’s almost embarrassing how many warning signs there actually were, but in context, they were seemingly harmless acts that built up over time to construct the house of cards my life had become. But I didn’t want to think about that at the moment, all I wanted was to get this over with, and go home.

The Boston Strangler and other famous serial killers

The Boston Strangler is in the news again. Albert DeSalvo, who admitted to killing one of the victims, and then retracted the admission, has been positively linked to the crime through DNA evidence, even though he was stabbed to death in prison in 1973.

CNN has the story, and a slideshow of 25 famous serial killers.

Lab: Confessed Boston Strangler’s DNA on slain woman’s body, on CNN.com.