Lovefraud Lesson #6: Sociopaths and sex
Many, many people who have been romantically involved with sociopaths have told me that the sex was the best they ever had. In my latest video, I explain why.
Watch Lovefraud Lesson #6: Sociopaths and sex on the Videos page.
Welcome damandarespec,
As soon as you leave him, he will most likely come back with the sexual “carrot” again to lure you back in and then rinse and repeat. Sex/no sex….
So, I suggest when you do make the NO CONTACT choice, you stick to it 100% and do not let him back in, because if you weaken and give him “another chance” it will back fire in your face big time.
Read here and learn, because KNOWLEDGE IS POWER and you must take back the power you have given over to him.
You WILL eventually get him out of your head and you will be “normal” again….DIFFERENT maybe but that’s okay because it will be different in a wiser way, a better, stronger way. God bless and again, welcome to Love Fraud.
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Amanda,
it’s par for the course. They all do that. They give us the best sex ever and then they withhold it. (well, some of them give us great sex, others just give bad sex, but the plan was always to withhold it.)
Meanwhile, rest assured that he is having sex with multiple other partners. They could be male or female, paid or unpaid, it doesn’t matter.
As Oxy said, they do tend to come back once they think you are trying to get free of them.
This is because it was never about anything but power, control and manipulation.
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I agree with skylar. Having had many abusive , controlling partners before age 31 , when I met the guy who turned my life and brain into a 3-ring circus , the start was fast , he asked me to move in with him within 24 hrs , wanted to cut me off from everyone , told me I was wonderful and showered me with surprise gifts and trips , and the sex was better than I had ever had. Then he wanted 3-somes , and more , he would buy me things , things I could never afford for myself , as bribs. When I confronted him with the fact that I knew what he was doing , he blew up , and withheld everything.He had/has sex with ANYONE male or female , is a drug addict and is fake as a botoxed tooth-bleaching sociopath can be , and I hope there is Karma , because I still think of him , even though I am no longer attracted to him , and the cherry on top? He used to be a social worker until he started getting intimate with the people he was supposed to help. But , it wasn’t his fault , they started it/forced him.Sheesh. Now a days , I want to just be alone.Running to get checked for std’s all the time starts to be more than embarassing.
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botoxed tooth bleaching sociopath ~! oh my thanx for the chuckle
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Slowlybut, thanks for this like Moon I had to laugh – knowing the absurd vanity of my abuser- at the botox etc. Very well done to have escaped. Peace and love to you,x
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skylar mentioned them withholding sex in order to manipulate and control….that explains alot.I never experienced the fireworks that other posters mention.However,after 7 yrs of marriage,he decided to withhold the sex.Actually,we’d had a tactful,but firm conversation,about how his weight was affecting the situation.Instead of losing any weight,it only ballooned through the years.
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Blossom4th
I have direct experience with this issue of weight. My “significant other”‘ is passive aggressive and has other issues. He stopped accepting responsibility and became a child while he was supposed to be my partner. His weight balooned up 100 pounds. It was all to punish me.
Unarticulated, of course, and took me years to figure it out.
Athena
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