I recently presented the Lovefraud education program, Sociopaths and Abusive Dating Relationships, to students at Princeton High School in Princeton, New Jersey. As I talked about these social predators, explaining how they seemed to be just like the rest of us but lived their lives by exploiting people, I could often see shock on the students’ faces. This was new, and important, information for them.
The students completed short evaluation forms after the presentation. Most of them thought it was informative and educational. Here are a few of their comments:
The presentation was informative and especially interesting because it applies to people my age and situations we may fall in.
It was helpful in that it explained what these people are actually like and how to recognize them. I found it very interesting as it is something I will certainly be using in life.
I thought it was very informative but also shocking. I’m very happy that I got to listen to the presentation.
Young people suffer more
Young people need to know about sociopaths. In analyzing the data collected for my new book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath, I found some frightening statistics: People who get involved with sociopaths at a young age fare far worse than those who meet sociopaths when they are older and more mature.
I divided the respondents to the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey into two groups. People in the young group were between the ages of 14 and 29 when they met the sociopath. People in the older group were age 30 or older when they met the sociopath. Here is how the two groups compared:
Physical harm experienced by age
|Age when met sociopath||30+||14-29|
|Suffered physical abuse||29%||49%|
|Lives were threatened||30%||44%|
I spoke to about 150 kids at Princeton. In their evaluations, several of the students mentioned that they were “paranoid” after the presentation. I hope that means they got the message. I’d rather they be paranoid than injured or dead.
For more information about this program for students, please visit the Lovefraud Education Programs page.