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Lessons from the Josh Powell inferno

Last week, the Josh Powell story exploded in the media. Powell, of Graham, Washington, was supposed to have a supervised visit with his two young sons. Instead, he slammed the door in the face of the social worker, hacked the boys with a hatchet, and then blew up his house. Powell and the two sons died.

I watched three news shows about the tragedy—Dateline on MSNBC, 20/20 on ABC, and Dr. Drew on HLN (Headline News). All of the programs reflected shock, horror and outrage. Dr. Drew Pinsky did actually call Josh Powell a psychopath. But what struck me about the coverage was that this tragedy was almost predictable. All the warning signs were there, if anyone had a complete picture of what was going on, and if appropriate people had known what they were looking at.

The lessons boil down to three: Knowing how to recognize a sociopath, knowing what sociopaths are capable of doing, and acting on intuition.

Josh Powell, the sociopath

Josh Powell clearly exhibited sociopathic behavior. He first came into public view with the disappearance of his wife, Susan, on December 7, 2009. Josh Powell’s ludicrous story was that he left the family home at midnight to take his two sons, aged 2 and 4 at the time, camping in the freezing desert, and when he returned, Susan was gone. He assumed that she went off with another man.

Before then, however, Susan had confided in several friends and family members that Josh was controlling. He was psychologically and emotionally abusive. Susan was asked why she didn’t take the boys and leave. She was afraid to—Josh had threatened that she would have the boys “over my dead body.”

So where did Josh’s sociopathy come from? It appears to be the classic volatile mix of heredity and upbringing.

Last September, Steve Powell, Josh’s father, was arrested and charged with child pornography and voyeurism. Josh and his sons were living with Steve Powell at the time, which prompted the court to take the boys away from Josh and put them in the custody of Susan’s parents, Chuck and Judy Cox.

But that was just the latest, most apparent display of Steven Powell’s personality disorder. Court documents from the 1992 divorce case of Steven and Terrica Powell indicate that Steven Powell had always been a sexual pervert, and taught his sons to disrespect women.

The documents also reveal that at 16, Josh Powell was already heading down the same path. He threatened his mother with a butcher knife. He killed his sister’s pet gerbil. He attempted suicide. And as Josh grew bigger and stronger, even Steven Powell admitted that he didn’t know how to handle his son.

Read: Divorce documents shed light on Josh Powell’s troubles, on SLTrib.com.

Here’s the point: Based on both documentary evidence of the past, and the abusive behavior Susan Powell disclosed to friends and relatives, Josh Powell was clearly a sociopath. It doesn’t matter how he became a sociopath. All that matters is that he was one.

Sociopaths and custody battles

So what does it mean when one party in a child custody battle is a sociopath? Here’s what courts and child protective agencies should know:

• Despite their proclamations to the contrary, sociopaths do not love their children. They view children as possessions, and they feel entitled to do what they want with their possessions.

• Sociopaths are accomplished actors. They are capable of keeping up a charade of appropriate, even loving, behavior, as long as it suits their purpose.

• In child custody disputes, sociopaths are not interested in the welfare of the children. They are only interested in winning.

• If sociopaths have been violent in the past, chances are good that they will be violent in the future.

• Sociopaths do not want to submit to authority. Some sociopaths would rather lash out violently than submit. Therefore, it seems to me that one of the most dangerous times in a child custody case is when a sociopath loses in court.

Losing a round

I don’t know everything that went on in the custody dispute between Josh Powell and Chuck and Judy Cox, the parents of his missing wife. But from the media reports, I see two glaring problems.

First of all, Josh Powell had just lost a round in the custody battle for his sons.

In a status hearing on February 1, 2012, the court was told that a psychologist who completed an evaluation of Josh believed he had made improvements in his life, because he no longer lived in his father’s home and had been cooperative with visitation requirements. Still, the psychologist had become aware of disturbing information about Josh, and had recommended a psychosexual evaluation. The judge ruled that Josh’s sons would remain with the Coxes, and he was ordered to undergo the evaluation, which would include a polygraph test.

Read Josh Powell to undergo psychosexual evaluation; 2 boys will remain with grandparents, on DeseretNews.com.

Yet the court made no changes to the visitation arrangements. Initially, when the Coxes were first awarded custody, Josh had to see his children at a secure childcare facility. But apparently, because of the notoriety of the Powell case, his visits became disruptive to other families, so Josh was allowed to have supervised visits in his home.

And who was the supervisor? She appeared on 20/20. Although she may have been nice, dependable and competent, she was also a middle-aged, out-of shape woman who would have been no match for a young man if things got ugly.  Even Chuck Cox worried about her, and stated on TV that perhaps she should have had extra security with her.

Reunification

The second glaring problem in this case: The court’s goal was to reunite the boys with their father.

The judge reaffirmed this goal in the last custody hearing. The case plan developed by Washington’s Department of Social and Health Services (DSHS) was geared towards reunification of Josh Powell and his sons.

The question is: Why?

Josh Powell was the only “person of interest” in the disappearance of Susan Powell.  Rumors were flying that he would soon be arrested for her murder. Josh was known to be abusive. Police in Utah had found disturbing information about him that caused them concern about the welfare of the children. The man was likely dangerous.

DSHS representatives were interviewed by Dori Monson of KIRO-FM radio in Seattle, Washington. They defended their actions and procedures. The bottom line? They were following court orders. Listen to the interview:

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The main problem, at least in this case, appears to be that judges don’t comprehend how dangerous sociopaths can be, and how court decisions can turn deadly.

Intuition

Many warnings were available in this case, but were not recognized and acted upon. Perhaps the biggest warnings were the gut feelings, the sense of dread, the intuitive fear, experienced by many, many people.

In the TV interviews, several friends and relatives of Susan Powell described being creeped out about Josh Powell. And both Judy and Chuck Cox, the grandparents, said that they had “bad feelings” before that last fateful visitation. Chuck wondered that perhaps the visit should be skipped. Judy felt the same way, but was worried that they’d “get in trouble” if they didn’t send the boys to their father.

Even the two boys didn’t want to see their father on February 5, 2012. But the grandparents did what they thought they should do. The boys went to see their father, and we all know what happened next.

I am not blaming the grandparents at all. They are heartbroken. But perhaps they should have risked “getting in trouble” and kept the boys home. I’m sure they wish they did.

Here’s what we all need to know: Our intuition is designed to protect us. Fear is our friend, and it is based on intuition. If we ever have a really bad feeling about anyone or anything, we should trust ourselves and take appropriate action to get away.

If the court really knew what sociopaths were capable of, and if many people had listened to their instincts, those boys might still be alive.

More about the case

Watch:

A family’s story on Dateline NBC

Sins of the father on 20/20

Steve Downing, the lawyer for Chuck and Judy Cox, talked to local media about his impressions of Josh Powell. He is obviously describing a sociopath.



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  1. DUPED NO MORE! says:

    Shelley: Warrior Queen. hahahaha
    You would think so the crap I have waded through the past ten years!!!!! Since ppath experience happened to my world, it has been the largest theater “I” have ever seen! I don’t need companionship and so called ‘affection’ THIS/THAT BAD in my life that I need to sell myself out the way is expected by ppath. THAT is the point. Staying strong and stealthed and not allowing your emotions to overtake you and make you weak and vulnerable.

    I no longer feel weak and vulnerable. I feel strong because I know who I am and who I was before all this and I am and have been reaching BACK for myself and there is hardly anything left of that person. That person was lost to myself just about six years ago now, with the amount of constant abuse emotionally and psychologically, that I have been subjected to. I came through this one another time in my life, with my biological brother, after he returned from Viet Nam. There was NO issue with the fact that my brother came home a full blooded psychopathic person capable of great harm on people if crossed. It’s a very complex situation and I have been pretty much entirely on my own because it has been impossible to find ANY ASSISTANCE for myself, anywhere, except for the counselors I have had. I have two of them. One who deals with military issues and the other a general psychologist, without them, along this journey, keeping me glued together, and my EMDR therapy, I wouldn’t have made it otherwise. And, that’s the serious truth.

    I can’t possibly imagine a person coming through the ((as skylar would call it))mindf**k not having a support system around you. I think of myself as a very strong, inside, kind of person…not one to easily crumble, not ever, however, this situation with ppath had completely bazooka d me straight off my feet in one flail swoop too!

    The mind control and psychological abuse was and still is just very overpowering. It was almost as if our minds were somehow ‘sewn’ together, almost 24/7. They likened the aftermath that I was left with to being held captive for 5 years. Yah, just like that. I lost my world, my friends, my family…he totally consumed me. And he didn’t live with me but would come by a couple times a year to visit me and keep the fire aglow….stock, as it were. Part of the flock, I would later find out.

    I am happy I have made you feel ‘welcome’ and ‘secure’, Shelley, being here and posting. We need your voice and your thoughts. PLEASE, stay, keep posting and tell us more of your thoughts on all this.

    It’s amazing to me that something like this can occur in our lives when I think that basically, all of us here, are very kind, nice, upstanding kind of people and we have all been somehow purposely targeted in one way or another and have went through some very unspeakable things. Change can only come to help in the future, by our collective voices.

    There is so much to understand and so little time.

    I think the point I am trying to make is that if we allow ourselves to continue being miserable by the harm that was intentionally inflicted upon us, if we allow that to affect all of our tomorrows, than the ppath has become victorious by also taking away our future thoughts and in essence, our lives. Like a time bomb, slowly ticking….I think I have successfully diffused the bomb.

    Thank you Shelley, for your kind words.
    Have a great weekend; would you??? xxoo

    ‘THE OLD BATTLE AXE ON THE LEFT COAST’
    😉



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  2. KatyDid says:

    WHO KNEW??
    We did.

    See today’s revelation that Josh Powell had over 400 images of kiddie porn on his computer, from over 2 yrs ago. And that authorities knew, and let those little boys continue with “parenting” home visits. Missing wife. Ridiculous story about camping and her disappearance. And the child porn.

    Why was such vital info not shared with the ones putting those boys in harms way?



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  3. DUPED NO MORE! says:

    KatyDid: Gosh, how’d that happen?

    Yah, authorities just don’t quite seem to ‘get it’ because this pathology is so relatively ‘new’ in getting the attention it needs and deserves, from not only the psychological fields but medical fields and law enforcement and the legal fields as well. So these ‘beings’ just wander around not really being realized for who and what they are and everyone involved sits back and waits until someone dies or something happens and then they say: “Gosh, how’d that happen?”

    That is inexcusable for a response. That kind of response is as dysfunctional as the problem itself. And the ppaths walk away laughing that they were smarter and more able to get away with their trickery.

    There is no excuse for what happened to these poor innocent children. SOMEONE, somewhere, should have yanked those children from him before they lost their lives. We have a responsibility as human beings to protect the children; ALL THE CHILDREN. If their lives become so inconsequential as all the other narcissistics, then what point do we have to survive and/or hold anything with respect? THAT is the point. If you can’t respect life itself, what kind of human beings are we?

    At least perhaps this sad sad sad story will burn a lesson in the minds of a whole bunch of people. So much so that it will bring about so many changes. THAT is what would honor those poor little boys. I have no doubt their ‘father’ is not currently with them in Heaven.

    Dupey



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  4. KatyDid says:

    Dupey
    I am hoping people will be So outraged that there will be changes. Or at least, when it happens again (and it will), the outrage will rear up again and maybe THEN there will be changes. It won’t be a “one off”.

    Immediately after Josh MURDERED (I refuse to use a lesser word b/c it diminishes what he did) those boys, instead of looking to improve how they managed their cases, look at all those who got on TV and made excuses b/c people were holding them accountable. I know the 911 operator could have been perfect and it still would not have saved those boys, but I also think the way he handed the call revealed the attitude of that law enforcement community. The same attitude prevailed with whomever had that VITAL info about Josh’s kiddie porn collection… upon which ALL decisions flowed.

    This carp is why I have come to believe there is NO SUCH THING AS JUSTICE. People get to rape, beat, steal, destroy, murder… Look at Houston Tx, with over 6000 unprocessed rape kits. THINK of that number! That many crimes with NO hope for those victims. Why bother even reporting the crime done against you. They justice system is only going after the glory cases. Ordinary people don’t matter, not to the ones is charge of who gets justice… and who doesn’t.

    ps I AM SO PROUD OF those who stepped up and purchased those graveplots so Josh’s parents could not bury him next to those boys. They saved a place for his mother. I think his family members have a good idea where to look for the boys mother. People, even spaths, have habits. (just like Caylee’s body being discovered where her mother used to bury her animals.)



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  5. Joanie123 says:

    Dupey : You’re right. He’s not in heaven with them. There’s a belief in the Pagan/Metaphysical community that “sociopaths” do not possess human souls.
    If this belief stands correct which we won’t know till we get there “sociopaths” do not go to the same afterlife we humans do.
    So whether you believe in ‘heaven, the Summerland, hell brimstone and fire’
    they don’t go to the same afterlife as we humans.



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  6. MiLo says:

    Dupey & Katy ~ Just had to add, I am in total agreement with you.

    The entire “UNjustice system” failed these little boys. The grandparents talked about driving to the county where Josh’s parents got divorced, pulled the public records from the divorce proceeding and found where Josh had taken a butcher knife and threatened his mother, amoung other things. WHY was this something that the grandparents had to do and the law enforcement had not.

    I understand law enforcement was waiting until they had the “perfect case” against Josh BUT why sit on something as important as the images on Josh’s computer when two little boy’s lives were at risk. UNFORGIVABLE

    I WISH this case would make a difference, I don’t think it will. It is well on it’s way to being forgotten. The public has moved on to more important news items – the death of Whitney Houston, the election, whatever.



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  7. KatyDid says:

    I think you are right MiLO. People are too prone to write this off as an exception. That’s why I wrote that at least I hope the next time it happens, people will realize it’s happening too often and that changes are made how at risk children are managed to PROTECT them and not to exploit them for someone’s career move.

    But these crimes are NOT an exception. For ex: I shared how many rape kits are backlogged and NOT processed in Houston. They go back over 10 years! We know rapists rarely rape ONCE. How many are repeat offenders? THose who escalated into murders?

    People don’t care until it happens to them. The justice system is not just a means for a prosecuter to build their career into politics. Justice is a travesty.

    JUSTICE is rare. So rare that it is JUSTICE that is the EXCEPTION.



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  8. KatyDid says:

    Joanie123
    Your post about how the metaphysical community explains spaths is very comforting.

    I always thought the idea that somehow people deserved such horrors perpetrated by spaths and psychopaths was a weak arguement.

    Since I believe that souls never die, it makes sense that souls derive from different sources and thus those aberrant souls are missing aspects of humanity.



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  9. Steven Powell, father-in-law of Susan Powell, who disappeared, had thousands of photos of her — some suggestive.

    4,500 photos released in the case of missing Utah woman Susan Powell.

    http://www.latimes.com/news/nation/nationnow/la-na-nn-4500-photos-released-in-case-of-missing-utah-woman-susan-powell-20121207,0,5545291.story



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