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Psychopathic rapist released from prison early, murders elderly woman

Graeme Jarman, 47, a serial sex offender who was released from prison early, is wanted by police in the United Kingdom for the bludgeoning death of a 77-year-old woman.

Jarman had previously served seven years for raping a 17-year-old girl at gunpoint. The Daily Mail quoted her:

‘I suffered seven hours at the hands of that man,’ she said. ‘He told me to shut up and do what he said, adding, “I am your everyday psychopath”. Those words will live with me for ever.’

Read: ‘I am your everyday psychopath’: What rapist wanted for murder of 77-year-old spinster told earlier teenager victim on DailyMail.co.uk.

Posted in: Laws and courts

Reaching Out And Healing

Today I would like to reach out to everyone here on this site. I have been deeply touched by your comments and on-going conversations, and I feel so much of the pain and confusion that many of you are still experiencing. Your stories resonate so strongly with me on numerous levels – because I’ve been there too. I know how it feels. I ache for each and every one of you who is currently going through the heartbreak and insanity. And I’m here to tell you, today, that it WILL get better. You WILL come through – particularly with the help and support of sites like this – and there WILL come a time when you can look back at where you are now, recognize all you have achieved and give yourself a huge great pat on the back. I know this road is painful. I know it’s fraught with dangers. I also know from my own experience that it’s a road that leads to someplace better than I could possibly have imagined back then. So, in my opinion, it’s a hugely valuable journey – although there were certainly moments when it didn’t feel that way!

Letter from a sociopath

From time to time, Lovefraud receives email from people who identify themselves as sociopaths. Here’s one that came in recently:

I have read your website, and i am not impressed. You give the impression that all sociopaths are murderers and haters, incapable of loving, and should be thrown away as a tragedy to the human race. You do not mention the difference between a high-functioning sociopath and a low-functioning sociopath. I happen to be a high-functioning sociopath, and your website is all lies and misguided information, and whats worse, you gain money out of creating a stigma of us, and abusing the victims of certain relationships, which although do happen, aren’t generally what high functioning sociopaths are about. Who’s the one with no conscience? I would say you.

The criminal brain

The Criminal Justice Degrees Guide website posted an article about the criminal brain. For the most part, the information is consistent with what research has shown about antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy. I hope this means that people pursuing criminal justice degrees are learning it.

Read 10 Incredible facts about the criminal brain.

Girl busts Indiana lawmaker looking for gay sex

Kameryn Gibson, 20, of Indiana, posted an ad in the m4m (men for men) section on Craigslist, looking for a sugar daddy. Forty-seven minutes later, Indiana state Rep. Phillip Hinkle, offered him $80 plus a tip for a “really good time.”

When the two were in a room in the JW Marriott hotel, Hinkle told Gibson who he was. Gibson freaked out and called his sister. Megan Gibson came for her brother, cussed out Hinkle, and then told the whole story to the Indianapolis Star because she thought Hinkle was “creepy.” Yeah!

Read Email rendezvous entangles state Rep. Phillip Hinkle on IndyStar.com.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Leaving the abuser, then expected to co-parent

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Gloria.”

I have been divorced from my abusive husband (mental, physical, sexual against me but he NEVER LEFT A MARK ON ME.) for 11 years and we have 3 teenagers together. I have known him 20 years. For most of this time, I have been puzzled about why I could not “move on” after the divorce.

Yes, I left him. During the marriage I did not know the name “abusive,” so I just kept trying to be a good wife and mother, fulfill my marriage commitment, etc., but then I woke up just enough to know that it was “abusive” and I left. We had gone to about 8 couples counselors during the marriage, and I always ended up feeling much worse, and he never took any of the responsibility, just smirked and was derisively contemptuous.

Match.com agrees to screen for sex offenders

Carole Markin of California met Alan Paul Wurtzel of Pacific Palisades on Match.com. On their second date, he sexually assaulted her. Turns out that he had at lease six previous sex offense convictions.

Markin sued Match.com, and now they’ve agreed to screen for sex offenders. Will it do any good?

Match.com agrees to screen for sex offenders to settle lawsuit on LATimes.com

Why Match.com can’t screen out sex offenders on MSNBC.com.

Brainwashing, fraud and murder

A young Pakistani mother, Nazish Noorani, was shot and killed while pushing her three-year-old son in a stroller last week in Boonton, New Jersey. Her husband, Kashif Parvaiz, was wounded.

But authorities have charged Parvaiz and his mistress, Antionette “Soni” Stephen, in the killing. Stephen allegedly fired the shots, wounding Parvaiz to make it look like a terrorist attack.

For years prior, Parvaiz had been defrauding an elderly gay man. The day before the killing, Parvaiz was due to come into millions of dollars because of a real estate deal on the man’s property. The New York Post reported:

The monster cut a $2 million real-estate deal just hours before his wife’s murder — courtesy of his elderly sugar daddy.

Less than two years ago, handsome alleged killer Kashif Parvaiz, 26, had persuaded a frail, older gay man to sign over to him his share of a Queens apartment building that is now about to be sold for more than $9 million, The Post has learned.

It Must Be Me…

Thank you so much for all the kind comments following my last post… I’m glad that people are able to connect with what I am saying. It brings me great joy to feel part of this community – thank you for welcoming me so warmly.

This week I have decided to write about something that I’ve been discussing over the past couple of days with my great friend Beatrix, who was also married to a charming sociopath. She is, of course, part of the sister and brotherhood who’ve been there seen it and got the T-shirt. We’ve known each other for many years, and our conversations, quite naturally, often focus on our experiences and subsequent education about personality disorders. So last night we were discussing the common response that both of us had (as it seems have so many others) when faced with the petulant and deliberately crippling mood swings of a sociopath.

UK paedophiles win unsupervised access to their children

The UK Court of Appeal overturned the government’s powers powers to protect children from abuse. They ruled that a paedophile’s “right to a family life” must be taken into account before Sexual Offences Prevention Orders are issued.

Read Rules on paedophiles seeing their children relaxed after judges decide their human rights are more important on DailyMail.co.uk.

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.

Posted in: Laws and courts