Editor’s note: Last year, Donna Andersen appeared in the premiere episode of “Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry?” on the Investigation Discovery Network. The show recently aired on Discovery Home and Health, a Spanish language station, in Central America. Lovefraud has heard from viewers in Mexico and Guatemala. Following is an e-mail from a woman whom we’ll call “Blanca.”
I saw your history in Discovery Home and Health here at Mexico, and I was surprised because everything you described was like a part of my personal life.
I’m part of those worldwide victims, sadly here at Mexico there are not specific laws to deal with his kind of situation.
My story began by e-mail. I really don’t know were he found me or why I had an invitation of him in my Facebook inbox. But we started a beautiful friendship and in a short time I was his girlfriend. We had a long distance relationship and I was completely certain of his everlasting love, so even I had a job I left my family and friends to marry him and move to his city at Monterrey (1000 km away from my home). After we were married I found in his e-mail by accident that he sent pictures of his penis to a woman, when I affront him, he told me it was a thing that we used to do, but that he was not cheating on me and that he never met that woman.
He cried asking me a new opportunity and because I loved him so much I decided to give him a chance. But it was not the only thing I discovered, later I saw that he logged in to a page of sex, with “friends” and a very specific profile asking for “erotic pictures, oral sex … etc.” Every time I confront him because of his sites, he always denied and involve me into a love story again.
He convince me to buy a house in Monterrey, I suffered of psychological violence, he used to leave me alone at home if he considered that I was not a “good wife,” he yelled at me, he threatened me and it was a really disgrace for me to be so far away of my home and be a victim of such a pain.
Right now I’m in the divorce process, of course he is playing a victim now and my lawyer suggested me to demand. I had to present exams to assure that I was a victim of domestic violence, and my results show my depression and all the changes that he made me, and also they told me “you were a victim of a sociopath” … he did not love you, he used you … it was a sad thing to hear in one way and a good one to hear because I can demand and ask to send him to jail.
Like you he took all my money and left me in serious debt (mortgage). I don’t know how to be strong enough to deal with this frustration. I have to leave my job and return to my home, with no money, no job and of course no husband.
I saw in your history that you finally found love, and I hope one day I found love like you and finally be happy. I would like to share this story in your blog and thank you so much to give so much information about these relationships.