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A story with a moral

By Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)

My friends are always sending me funny emails and jokes. My box fills up with them every day, and some of them I have seen “a hundred” times before and I just delete them. But the following story, though I had seen it “a hundred” times before, struck me today, as it really does have a good moral.

An old man, a boy and a donkey 
were going to town.
 The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked.

As they went along they passed some people who remarked, “What a shame … the old man
 is walking and the boy is riding.”

The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed
 positions. Later they passed some people who
 remarked, “What a shame… he makes that little boy walk.”
 So they then decided they’d both walk!

Soon they passed some more people
 who remarked, “They’re really stupid to walk when they have a decent donkey
 to ride.”

So, they both rode the donkey.
 Now they passed some people who shamed them by saying, “How awful to
 put such a load on a poor donkey.” The boy and man figured they were probably right,
 so they decide to carry the donkey.

As they crossed the bridge,
 they lost their grip on the animal
and he fell into the river and drowned.

The moral of the story? If you try to please everyone, you might as well … Kiss your ass goodbye!

Too many times in this life I have found myself “trying to please everyone.” Most of the time when I did that, I ended up not only not pleasing anyone, I hurt myself in the process, because I never even considered what I wanted to do or what I thought was reasonable!

I can look back on many of the “adventures” I have had in my life (an ADVENTURE is the RESULT OF POOR PLANNING), and see just where I went wrong. Much of the time, the adventure was caused by me trying to please someone else, or someones (plural) else.

I’m not saying here that you should never listen to what other people advise you, or that you should never take someone else’s opinion into consideration, because sometimes people do have ideas that we never considered that will make a situation easier. There are other times, though, when people have opinions on how we are doing things that are emotionally based “bad ideas,” that we should discard and listen to our own good common sense.

For example, the first critics objected to the old man walking and the boy riding. Number one, both the man and the boy were obviously “okay” with the situation just as it was, and the old man was comfortable walking and the boy was comfortable riding, and frankly, in some situations I’d rather walk than ride a horse or a donkey. So if they were comfortable, as things were, they should have continued doing what they were doing, but they decided to change.

Then the second set of critics so again, the old man and the boy both decided to walk, and they seemed happy enough with that until the third set of critics came along and criticized them for not both riding the donkey … and so on, until, listening to the last set of critics, they very uncomfortably decided to carry the donkey. Now I don’t know if you can even imagine how the donkey would have squirmed and wiggled trying to get its feet on the ground, but it would have been trying hard to do just that, and it would be no surprise to me that it fell off the shoulders of the old man and the boy and drowned in the river.

I’ve always heard the old saying, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” So if your life is going well, and someone else doesn’t like the way you are running it … you might think once or twice or even three times before you change how you are doing things.

Psychopaths come into our lives and somehow seem to make us unhappy or dissatisfied with how our successful life is going, and they want us to change something about how we are doing things, even though we may be quite satisfied that our life is going along quite well. Though it is definitely none of their business whether we “ride the donkey or walk,” they have something to say about it, and that is, “we are doing it wrong.” So if you are satisfied with your life, if things are going along well, don’t let someone else make you think you are being abusive to your ass, because if you let them influence you too much, and don’t think for yourself, you may just be like the old man and the boy and lose your ass.



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  1. Ox Drover says:

    Oh, yes, Katy, CLINTON was the MASTER GASLIGHTER—I just love it! He is so typically psychopath (highly functioning like Madoff) and he is every very SMART with almost a photographic memory and they didn’t call him “Slick willy” for nothing when he was gov of My state. He is in truth I think a psychopath and a scum bad, delux edition…and his wife is right there with him just as scummy as he is.

    Actually believe this or not (Check the book “Albion’s Seed” about historical and cultural trends in the Scots Irish, if they don’t have a word in their vocabulary that means what they want to convey, they will make one up. My grandfather was quite good at it, and you knew what he meant. He also used out dated words that most of us had never heard and if we called him on them, we could look them up and they would be there, meaning what he said they did.

    The main TREND that psychopaths do with language that is a “tell” I think is their projection and gaslighting….and mind reading. Accuse you of THINKING something and then punishing you for the THOUGHTS they say that you had. LOL

    Unfortunately, politics IS the subject of this blog far too much—because too many times politicians get PUSHED OUT of the “closet” as psychopaths by the things they do….like Weiner’s latest adventure. Jim McGreevey, John Edwards, Bill Clinton, and Bloggo, and so on…WAY too many psychopaths and crooks in congress and the senate and as lawyers and judges, and as cops and military.



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  2. skylar says:

    No Katy,
    That is NOT what I said.
    I said that some spaths have aphasia, and there are some who don’t. I believe Clinton is a spath who doesn’t have aphasia.

    I said, “Not all of them do this, only a certain type of spath has this problem. To my knowledge, Bill Clinton didn’t have this problem. But it’s still a red flag. Bush and Palin have it.”



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  3. KatyDid says:

    But Skylar,
    It’s not ONLY a certain type of spath… lots of others do too and they are not spath. It’s the square peg/round hole problem. Speech pattern in of itself is NOT a red flag, that’s a red herring.



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  4. Redwald says:

    Question: “Do you think there could be a battlefield exchange [of nuclear weapons] without having buttons pressed all the way up the line?”

    Answer: “Well, I would… if they realized that we… again if… if we led them back to that stalemate only because that our retaliatory power, our seconds, or strike at them after our first strike, would be so destructive that they couldn’t afford it, that would hold them off.”

    —An actual answer given by a U.S. President at a press conference. (Some people may remember who it was.)



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  5. KatyDid says:

    Redwald,
    YES. Even if you are famed as the great communicator, not every answer in every situation is cogent.

    I LIVE for the edit button on this blog!!



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  6. perfectlyflawed says:

    You will never guess what my sociopath did.

    I read on his facebook that his brother died. And he is going out for drinks..

    HA typical sociopath!



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  7. candy says:

    perfectlyflawed – Hi. He’s going out for drinks so that he can soak up other people’s sympathy. If he were to stay at home and mourn quietly he would wither and die. So he chooses to go out and wallow in the drama (how sad) of his brother’s death.



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  8. Ox Drover says:

    Candy,

    You got it down perfectly! That’s what he is going to do, get ATTENTION.

    Perfectly flawed, I suggest you stop reading his FB page, and go No Contact, that means not even “back door” contact….the more time you spend trying to find out what he is up to, the less time you spend on your own healing! NO CONTACT is our only way out of their web. God bless.



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  9. Mimi_Dreamy says:

    Unfortunately I did just as the story warned me not to untill the point where my ass got drowned. lol



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