lovefraud2
lovefraud2

LOVEFRAUD TO THE NEXT LEVEL: Please join the movement

Last week I spoke to a Lovefraud reader who, like most of us, had a terrible run-in with a sociopath. She’d learned the hard way about these human predators, and wanted to warn others about them. She was thinking about making a YouTube video, and asked what I thought of the idea.

Although I applaud this reader’s desire to educate the public, I think it’s very difficult for one person with one YouTube video to raise awareness about sociopaths. Back in 2009, it was estimated that there were 120 million videos on YouTube. According to YouTube’s fact sheet, 24 hours of video are uploaded to the site every minute.  It’s easy to get lost among all that content.

Still, I agree with the woman’s objective—that’s why I founded Lovefraud.com. That’s why I wrote my book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.

I believe that raising awareness of sociopaths is one of the best things we can do to improve our world. Sociopaths are probably responsible for most of the ills in our society: crime, violence, neglect, abuse. Sociopaths with political power start wars. Sociopaths with economic power exploit workers, defile the environment, ruin companies and defraud customers and shareholders. Sociopathic parents cause untold pain for their children. Sociopaths who portray themselves as religious leaders cause incredible spiritual damage. The ways in which they wreak havoc appear to be limitless.

We know this, because we’ve lived it. But millions of other people are still clueless, which means they are ripe to be victimized. To solve the problem, like-minded people need to work together.

Lovefraud goals

When I launched Lovefraud in 2005, my goal was to educate people about sociopaths so they could avoid being ripped off financially, like I was. Since then, however, I’ve learned from all of you that the problem of sociopaths is much bigger than I originally realized. I learned about the travesties that go on in family courts. I learned about victims suffering from PTSD, and murder by suicide.

It’s time to shine a bright light on this disorder. These people are causing way too much pain.

Today, I am asking you to join this effort.

I have a lot of goals for Lovefraud. Here are some of them:

1. More books. Based on what I hear from you, I have a list of about 20 books that need to be written. One that I’d like to start soon is about the signs that you’re dating a sociopath. Next is a book about recovering from a sociopath. Much of what needs to be said is already in Lovefraud Blog articles and comments. It just needs to be packaged in an easily accessible way.

2. High school education program. Dr. Liane Leedom and I are laying the groundwork for a program to be offered in high schools. It will have two components. We will present programs to high school students on sociopaths, including information on bullying and dating violence. We anticipate that after hearing our information, some students will realize that they are involved in situations like we describe. So we’ll also educate guidance counselors and staff about what to do if students approach them with problems.

3. Charitable foundation. Sociopaths routinely wipe out their victims financially. I’ve seen so many heartbreaking stories on Lovefraud, and, from time to time, readers wanting to take up a collection to help. I agree. We should do this. But it needs to be done carefully, with a way to make sure that requests for assistance are legitimate. After all, sociopaths live by the pity play, and the ultimate despicable irony would be donations from Lovefraud members going to support con artists.

4. Professional development. Unfortunately, many therapists, lawyers, judges and other professionals who deal with the fallout from sociopaths do not understand what is really happening. Countless readers have told me that they’ve gone for counseling, and the counselor had no idea of what they were talking about. After her experience, Dr. Liane Leedom felt that her training about sociopaths was inadequate, and she attended some of the best medical schools in the nation.

5. Con artist database. Readers are always asking to post information about the sociopaths who victimized them, hoping to prevent others from being conned. I want to do this. In my opinion, exposure is the only approach in dealing with sociopaths that really works. I’ve heard from quite a few people who have Googled someone they were involved with, found them profiled on our True Lovefraud Stories, and ended the relationship. Lovefraud needs a con artist database. This initiative, however, will be expensive, and I’m not sure which will cost more—the technology or the legal fees.

Lovefraud to the Next Level

So how, exactly, will Lovefraud accomplish these goals? The keys are awareness and sustainability.

Awareness means getting the word out: Sociopaths exist. Here are the warning signs. If you see them, get out.

You can help build awareness on a grassroots level, and in upcoming articles, I’ll tell you how.

Sustainability means making Lovefraud financially viable—right now, it is not. Funding Lovefraud has cost my wonderful new husband, Terry Kelly, and me about $85,000. As you all know, my sociopathic ex wiped me out, and I’m still not out of the financial woods, so coming up with that money was difficult. Terry and I believe in Lovefraud, so we did it. But we can’t keep doing it.

If you want to help keep Lovefraud going, the fastest and easiest way to do it is to buy a copy of my book in the Lovefraud Store.

This post launches a new series called, “Lovefraud to the Next Level.” In upcoming articles, I’ll ask you to join me in raising awareness, in educating the public, in helping victims become survivors. I want Lovefraud to become more than a website. I want it to become a movement.

There’s so much to do. Please join me in taking Lovefraud to the Next Level.

email
www.lovefraud.com


66 Comments on "LOVEFRAUD TO THE NEXT LEVEL: Please join the movement"

Trackback | Comments RSS Feed

  1. soimnotthecrazee1 says:

    Jazzy,
    I don’t think any of us are concerned about spelling or grammar as long as you don’t post in chinese that we can’t read. LOLOLOL!
    ntcrzee

  2. soimnotthecrazee1 says:

    JohnZ:
    I will have to watch the cartoons and see if i pick up on that! My xspath is such the pervert that he pointed out on one of those cartoons that their faces are made out of “private parts”! OMG! out of a 45 yrold grown man!!!
    soimnottherazee!

  3. Ox Drover says:

    John,

    Most humor is built on the pain of others—who better to inflict the pain on the “others” than a psychopath.

    Comedy film: We watch the banana peel, we see the man walking, reading his book, we know he is going to be stepping on the banana peel, we look at the banana peel, and sure enough, he steps on the banana peel and falls, breaking his leg and WE LAUGH.

    Humor/Jokes: all about someone’s pain, embarrassment or injury, or stereo-typing groups or individuals. The Sven and Ollie jokes, the red neck jokes, the tight wad jokes (Jewish and Scots) and so on, (you name the group, there are named stereo-types with jokes to match)

    I even know one about an OX Drover from Maine who couldn’t tell his oxen apart, so he cut the tail switch off one, but it grew back, and he did this and that, and it didn’t work, FINALLY he decided to MEASURE THEM, and realized that the BLACK OX was 1 inch TALLER than the WHITE Ox. ha ha ha

    Plus, my husband was an engineer, so I know ALL the “engineers are stupid” jokes. My best friend is a natural blond so I know pretty much all the “blonds are dumb” jokes as well.

    Humans also laugh at some pretty serious situations as well…I’ve been there and done that and seen it done in more than one life threatening situations.

    I’m glad that you don’t let the psychopaths and the dysfunctional ones bother you too much and that you can stand up to them…the problem is with that, though, THEY never get it and standing up to them (as long as you continue to associate with them) doesn’t improve them much, and it DOES in many cases pith them off…I think I’ll just AVOID them when I see what they are, staying completely away from them works for me.

Post a Comment

You must be logged in to post a comment.

Wordpress SEO Plugin by SEOPressor