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Archive for November, 2010

No more narcissists in the DSM 5

Earlier in the year, Lovefraud submitted a comment giving our views on the draft of the new Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American Psychiatric Association, DSM 5. We commented on the proposed new term for antisocial personality disorder, “antisocial/psychopathic type,” and the diagnostic criteria.

One of the changes that the DSM 5 committee proposed was eliminating the diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. According to an article in the New York Times, not everyone is happy about it.

Read A fate that narcissists will hate: being ignored on NYTimes.com.

Sociopaths target our dreams

Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail. In it, I felt like I was reading a rerun of my experience.

I was involved with one of those 1 to 4% sociopaths/scammers you’ve outlined in your website.

I lost everything … Long story … you already know it … he was so charming … the love of my life … kind generous, giving, very sexy in and out of bed …

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Things people say

Last week, Lovefraud posted a letter from “Cybil,” I did not choose this guy. Here’s more of her experience.

I’ll call this, “Things people say, part II.” This is the other one that bugs me: “You’re paranoid.” I always have a good 24 hours of self-doubt before I realize they’re the ones that are nuts, not me. I know a lot more about what crazy stuff is out there in the world than your average, never-tangled-with-a-sociopath human does.

I just went to a seminar of a national expert on how domestic violence leads to murder, especially for women. Over and over he said, “Trust your instinct.” He told the audience to take women seriously when they have these stories (like those on this blog) and that if she is a co-worker you should elevate these stories to security for everyone’s safety because it could easily become a workplace shooting.

Priest accused of abusing a boy, then soliciting his murder

The Rev. John M. Fiala of  Texas was indicted for aggravated sexual assault of a child for abusing a 16-year-old boy. While released on bail, the priest allegedly tried to have the boy killed.

Read Police: Priest solicited murder of boy accusing him of sex abuse, on CNN.com.

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.

Posted in: Laws and courts

From paradise to starvation

With her life’s savings of £200,000, Virginia Owen set out to live her dream in the Dominican Republic. There she fell in love with a charming Swedish expat named Hans Michel Magnusson. Four years later, still sharing an apartment with Magnusson, she died of starvation.

Read How could this greedy charmer let our daughter starve to death? in DailyMail.co.uk.

Read Why did well-off divorcee Virginia Owen, who headed to the Caribbean to start a new life, die in penniless squalor? in Mirror.co.uk.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

Posted in: Media sociopaths

RESOURCE PERSPECTIVES: How sociopaths mess with your head

Editor’s note: Resource Perspectives features articles written by members of Lovefraud’s Professional Resources Guide.

Sarah Strudwick, based in the UK, is author of Dark Souls—Healing and recovering from toxic relationships. She has also created a wonderful animation that describes the antics of a sociopath, called Exposing the Mask of Insanity. View the animation here.

Getting your head out of the washing machine

By Sarah Strudwick

Sarah Strudwick profile in the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide

I often receive emails from people asking me to talk about different subjects. One recent subject was the mind-bogglingly creative ways in which a sociopath will literally mess with your head. A client came up with the perfect analogy and said she felt like her head had been in a washing machine.

The sociopath will use many different techniques—gaslighting, emotional blackmail, manipulation, creating confusion, lying and creating fear.

LOVEFRAUD TO THE NEXT LEVEL: 9 ways to help us gain visibility on the Internet

Lovefraud’s goal is to educate people everywhere about sociopaths. A great way to do this is to simply let people know that Lovefraud exists.

When people find Lovefraud, all of a sudden the craziness they’ve been living with is explained. They study the symptoms. They read the stories. They see the similarities. They finally understand the problem—they’ve involved with a sociopath.

You can help make Lovefraud a bigger presence on the Internet. It’s easy. It’s free. Here’s what you can do:

1. Click the Facebook “recommend” buttons

Facebook is huge. The social networking site has 500 million users. Half of them are considered regular users, which means they go on Facebook every day.

Lovefraud has recently implemented Facebook “recommend” buttons on every page of our website and every blog article. If you’re a member of Facebook, please click it. Recommend any article that you find helpful to your friends.

Posted in: Donna Andersen

Researchers minimize the psychopathy problem

Here’s the headline for the cover story in the September/October issue of Scientific American Mind magazine:

Inside the mind of a psychopath

Neuroscientists are discovering that some of the most cold-blooded killers aren’t bad. They suffer from a brain abnormality that sets them adrift in an emotionless world.

The authors of the article are Kent A. Kiehl and Joshua W. Buckholtz. Dr. Kiehl is the researcher who examines the brains of psychopaths in prison using fMRI technology. Lovefraud wrote about him before in Psychopaths, crime and choice.

This latest article, Inside the mind of a psychopath, is an excellent overview of the personality disorder. It summarizes the characteristics of psychopaths, with chilling anecdotes to describe their behavior. It briefly explains the biology of the disorder—describing areas of the brain that are abnormal. It explains research that has shed light on different aspects of how psychopaths differ from the rest of us.

Brainless prison officials release child rapist

What is going on in the California prison system? Lawrence Brown raped two young girls at knifepoint in 1983. The Orange County District Attorney objected to his parole. For a year, state psychiatrists refused to determine whether he was a sexually violent predator. The California Department of Corrections placed a hold on Brown’s release, but the Deputy Warden Richard Alvarado of Chino State prison let the guy go anyway. Luckily, he was re-arrested.

Read California warden ignores DA, releases rapist early on AOLNews.com.

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.

Posted in: Laws and courts

LOVEFRAUD TO THE NEXT LEVEL: Education challenge and book giveaway results

Last week, a reader who posts as SeeingClearly, surprised and delighted Terry and me by initiating a fundraising challenge for Lovefraud’s upcoming education program for high school students. She offered to match all contributions, up to $1,000.

Well, in 48 hours, Lovefraud readers pledged $815, and SeeingClearly fulfilled her promise. The money collected so far is set aside, waiting to be used in the program.

Plan for HS program

The high school education program will have two parts. One, of course, is the presentation to students about sociopaths, bullying and dating violence. But before we do that, we will offer professional development training about sociopaths for school guidance counselors and/or teachers. The objective is to prepare them for questions.

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